Not sure how /r/seduction feels about comics, but this is a comic on how I interpret on how oneitis -> friend zoned. (Hold mouse over picture for witty comment)

yc11 · 2011-12-20T12:41:47+00:00

i think one reason why friendzoning happens is because you let the girl lead where the relationship goes. if you want something more, don't be afraid to make a step, like go for an early kiss.

2011-12-20T11:48:09+00:00

The friend zone is just rejection from a girl who doesn't want to be mean.

lotusflower16 · 2011-12-20T08:00:29+00:00

This makes me sad, in a relatable kind of way

demonshalo · 2011-12-20T11:31:18+00:00

I've been down there before. All you have to do is to climb back up, tap her on the shoulder, and push her down. After that take her sister or best friend to that same spot and watch the view together while throwing some of the popcorn you have with you down for her to eat!

graffiti81 · 2011-12-20T11:52:30+00:00

Kinda reminds me of this.

renegon · 2011-12-20T13:54:43+00:00

We feel your pain. In my experience, the only possible way to escape the friend zone is to turn your back on her and start playing the field aggressively, even better recruit her to be your wing. If she actually wants you she may de-friendify you and claim you for herself.

True story, but YMMV.

Odds of success? Very low, but hey in the worst case now you're getting out there.

Edit to add: She may not really realize that she wants you as long as you remain an orbiter. People don't know what they want until you show it to them.

SpiderFan · 2011-12-20T14:49:47+00:00

I would imagine not so much for r/seduction. There is a term 'the self is always coming through'. As long as you get rid of your low-status esteem issues, a girl's attraction for you can only increase.

If you can establish a sexual relationship early on, you will get rid of a lot of low status behaviors. And she will have this imprint of you which ignores many low-status behaviors.

But for guys who still haven't fleshed out their esteem issues, being around someone who you like over an extended period of time will bring out a lot of low-status behaviors. People who complain about being in the friendzone, they don't seem like the type of guys girls tend to like. "Losers" as you will.

But for guys who have a solid grounding of who they are which is not dependent of a woman, there is no 'fover friendzone', they are an attractive person.

frenchKhanon · 2011-12-20T13:59:26+00:00

I just used this comics to explain what "friendzoning" was to my mum. Made it all clearer.

Level_75_Zapdos · 2011-12-20T20:17:39+00:00

I hate the idea of the "friend zone." Girls don't actually owe you anything (romantic), regardless of how nice you are or how much you like them. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?

ddhboy · 2011-12-20T15:01:37+00:00

Yeah, well this is what happens when you don't have enough self confidence to approach girls as love interest and try to sneak your way in as a friend. Also known as nice guy syndrome.

Dexter77 · 2011-12-20T10:58:28+00:00

Funny certainly, sadly, many of those ending up in the friend zone never realize being there.

revtrot · 2011-12-20T21:58:33+00:00

can we get a womens perspective on this?

we have to remember men also friendzone women.

Soccer21x · 2011-12-20T05:07:12+00:00

Sorry for the awful grammar in the title. Not really excusable but I apologize.

Edit: Dammit! Grammar.

TofuTofu · 2011-12-20T23:26:12+00:00

One thing I love doing, especially with very attractive girls, is to preemptively friend-zone them. It keeps you in control and the social proof you can get from it is pretty awesome.

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