Hey seddit guys. If a girl is so attracted to you that she immediately ends up sleeping with you, do you lose respect for her?

baldrad · 2012-12-15T06:52:16+00:00

No, you slept with her too, so what does that make you. She is a person just like me, I don't care what her sexual promiscuity is as long as it doesn't adversely affect me

dizzig · 2012-12-15T10:42:44+00:00

We've been married 26 years.

yetzer_hara · 2012-12-15T10:27:15+00:00

Did you stop to think that maybe she isn't "so attracted" to you, and that she just wants to get laid too? Women are not a different species, you know.

Lance_debonaire · 2012-12-15T08:48:01+00:00

No.

_saint · 2012-12-15T08:28:41+00:00

No, I like girls who are sexually open. It actually makes me respect them more, knowing they aren't a prude.

Also, if they sleep with me, that shows that they are good judges of character.

AlmostForever · 2012-12-15T16:50:12+00:00

No. I don't believe in the whole "slut-shaming" nonsense. Fuck anybody who does.

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-12-15T10:36:32+00:00

No. And this is a common misconception that women have.

What you need to understand is that sex and longterm relationship intentions are two different things in the mind of a man. A man will have sex with any woman who meets his minimum attractiveness requirements and does not exceed his maximum insanity threshold.

Whether he considers you a real long-term prospect is measured by how much time he is willing to spend on you which is not focused solely on sexual activities.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-12-15T16:43:38+00:00

Nope. The concept is that women are allowed to enjoy sex just as much as men, since they enjoy it just as much as us by nature. Thinking that way would be not only illogical but really misogynistic. And on a more selfish level, what good would that do me?

gizmo1354 · 2012-12-15T12:54:25+00:00

No. On the contrary, if I see a girl who is obviously interested but she invents imaginary obstacles to avoid seeming easy, I get disgusted and completely lose interest.

I love sex and do not waste my time with prudes. I do not care about your stupid one month or he will not respect me rules. I do not mind that you are sleeping with someone else. I do not care that I am a boyfriend material. I hate being forced to get emotionally invested. I hate sex extortion.

Either sleep with me for fun or you get nexted. I know there is a ton of needy losers willing to be your boyfriend just so you both can feel socially validated or willing to pretend they are your boyfriend to finally get into your pants. Have fun with them, you do not deserve me.

Butterbawlz · 2012-12-15T10:07:37+00:00

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-15T17:39:44+00:00

I used to, then I stopped thinking so little of myself. There's nothing wrong with her; how could anyone NOT want to sleep with me?

Somandrius · 2012-12-15T18:20:24+00:00

No, I actually like that.

Jemaclus · 2012-12-15T19:17:56+00:00

No. It's her body and she can do what she wants with it. I'm just happy to get laid. The only time it would be a problem is if she lied about STDs or something, but otherwise... no, no problem at all.

I do tend to wait a few dates before sleeping with girls I'm really, really interested in though. That has more to do with me not wanting to screw anything up than anything else, but a few of my past girlfriends put out on the first date and we were together for a long time, so I'd say it's not a problem for me.

A quick, highly scientific poll of my roommates agrees with my assessment.

SupALupRT · 2012-12-16T05:02:09+00:00

No I never understood this concept. I'm more likely to respect her because she doesn't put sex on some stupid pedastal.

mahalo1984 · 2012-12-15T16:01:40+00:00

No, as long as we form a genuine connection during our night together

mixmate · 2012-12-15T18:38:55+00:00

No. I lose respect for her if she artificially delays sex although it's obvious that she wants to.

This_Fuckin_Guy_ · 2012-12-15T08:51:36+00:00

I don't lose respect for her, but it definitely gives me less incentive to follow through with the relationship and learn more about her.

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-12-15T08:11:11+00:00

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browsing_around · 2012-12-15T19:08:12+00:00

no, but i have actually felt myself not wanting to sleep with a girl right away if im really into them, or think i might be in the future. My current SO and i didnt sleep together immediately. sometimes i like the idea of waiting a bit. the bonus is if things do work out by the time you sleep together the tension is really built up and can lead to some great sex.

Grumac · 2012-12-15T10:38:31+00:00

Girl has sex with multiple partners "SLUT!"

Guy has sex with multiple partners "PLAYA!"

Fuck society.

ytterp · 2012-12-15T12:53:50+00:00

Depends on the situation. Personally I have my own issues I can admit to and when it comes to a relationship I would like to see a girl not "give it up" so easily as it would make me think about what may have happened before and could happen in the future. Funnily enough these sorts of personality traits are more physical than mental. Hormones et all. Having said that every situation is different and I'm generalising here. There maybe times where you just have amazing chemistry that she may have never experienced before and feels so attracted she gets caught up in the romance. Now that is special and what a good relationship could be formed upon. At the end of the day I find the best way to deal with it is to just leave it all be and decide not to think about these things. If it works then it works. If she ends up telling you about her plethora of past sex partners then its up to you to deal with that how you want based on how she behaves while she's with you. People can change.

In short: yes, but its more complex than that and it takes logical rational to break it down.

dec7td · 2012-12-15T15:18:48+00:00

I do but I know I shouldn't

2012-12-15T11:49:53+00:00

If it comes to a relationship, ultimately yes. Otherwise, no.

Whisper · 2012-12-15T16:31:22+00:00

The question you are asking has no answer, because the word "respect" means different things to men and women.

Title	Hey seddit guys. If a girl is so attracted to you that she immediately ends up sleeping with you, do you lose respect for her?
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Date	December 15, 2012 6:40 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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