Here are some insights I've picked up over the years in "the game," which at this point I just call "life," which I can't really find a place for an article.

Some are for beginners, some are for more advanced guys.

Hope they help in some way.

BEGINNER SHIT

  • Most people who need game and learn about game eventually give up. The overwhelming majority of those cases, they don't succeed because they put every obstacle they can find in front of what they need to do - tell them they need $20 dollars, and they'll fire back every reason they don't have it and can't get it. If you want to succeed, don't be one of these people. Every time you find "a reason that something isn't working," that doesn't change a thing about what needs to be fixed - it just explains why it's broken.
  • This shit takes years. It's not a spa day. It's not a weekend retreat. It's your life, and your choice as to how to live it.
  • Be friends with women. Game is not about turning women into "the enemy." You may not learn game from women, but you learn about women from women. Also, life is about much more than getting laid, and the only way you can find that out is by having lots of sex - which means that if you're a beginner, you don't believe me.
  • That said, DO NOT TRY TO BE "FRIENDS" WITH A GIRL YOU FIND SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE. "Sexually attractive" here means a girl who you'd go out of your way to have sex with. Not simply a woman whom you'd shag given the opportunity (free sex!). You'd be lying to yourself every day you see a girl who you'd like to ask out but don't.
  • Theory is, by nature, easy to understand. That isn't where you fail. You fail because you don't have your skin in the game. You haven't done your 1000 approaches. You haven't asking 1000 girls for their number. You haven't practiced what you need to practice. Sure, you know what you need to do. But, I can read and understand a Wikipedia article about building cars - I'll be pretty shitty at it until I get that 1000th car built.

INTERMEDIATE SHIT

  • Stop taking yourself and game so seriously. This is about fun, remember? Have fun. Be fun. You've had enough approaches by this point to know that you can't win 'em all, so stop making it about your batting average. If you were smart, it never was about your batting average.
  • Be a leader, and stop waiting for one. You spent your entire beginner career listening to other people tell you what to do. You may have gotten good at it. But, you still have that habit of thinking "what would Vichet (or whoever) have me do?" Cut it out. We're here to teach you to be your own leader. That means cutting the cord eventually. YOU decide when that is.
  • There is nothing new under the sun about game. Times have changed, style might change, society might change, but the baseline of a man and women being in a room and being attracted to each other (or not) has always been the same. This shit has existed for thousands of years. It's only recently been formalized, but the point is that you have to assume that all the ingredients for you to carve out your lifestyle is there already. Stop looking for new answers for a situation that you think is unique to you. Figure it out, and use what you DO know.
  • Fix your emotional issues. I'm fucking serious here. I've never met a guy who was frustrated enough at life to seek out this kind of advice who didn't have serious emotional issues - myself included. Fix that shit. You'll soon realize that these emotional issues were probably causing most of the problem that you've been band-aiding with game.

ADVANCED SHIT (if you're already at this point, you know and have experienced this, too. These are just reminders)

  • I've found that women and people are by and large a lot more willing to give generously than most people consciously realize. This is the cornerstone on which society and the concepts of fairness and justice are built. Fairness is entrenched into the human psyche. Most beginners have a skewed concept of it, but you've risen above that. You have the power to both ask big things of people, and move on if they refuse.
  • If your self-esteem is high enough (it better be at this point), it's more constructive to look at every bad situation as something that you have a hand in fixing, even if it's unfixable. A situation may genuinely be out of your hands. There may actually be nothing you can do. I'm not telling you to beat dead horses, or to keep running your head into a wall. But, there's an emotional and cognitive payoff for thinking that you can do something about a problem, even if you can't. We're wired to find meaning, even in mindless tasks. So, the thing you think is in your control, even if it isn't, will help you build positive thinking and problem solving skills, even if the real world result is failure.
  • If you have value to offer, your best weapon in the field is a smile, and a greeting. "Hello" has opened more doors for me than any technique I've ever learned.
  • I have trouble writing lists like this because I don't think about rules anymore. Yeah, ask any guy pulling 2-3 girls a week what his methodology is. He's probably going to need to record himself and analyze it because he never thinks about it anymore. It's his nature. You become this way, after a while, and it's pretty awesome.

I'm a writer, so occasionally I have days where I need to empty out stray thoughts. Feel free to add a piece or three.