How can I turn my dating life around by 30?

Anhxtaiii · 2024-03-13T21:07:53+00:00

first of all its irrelevant what other ppl rate you through some aspect in the sense that you should rate your ownself and be confident about it without any external validation.

second, understand if you're ready to be in a relationship because it's a commitment.
especially at your age. there's nothing wrong with your current status but you might want to understand it's going to be drastically something new you experience with someone who may possibly already have more experience than you or in the same situation.

so your best bet is to either find someone along your interest and hope that you meet someone there or try your luck in the hopeless online and dating apps.

just dont make it you being a kissless virgin your whole personality, fake it till you make it but dont lie.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2024-03-14T01:30:49+00:00

Something I’ve noticed about people I find attractive is not necessarily their looks but their lifestyle. People that are goal-oriented and constantly busy are very appealing to me.

For the longest time I had a crush on a guy purely because his hobbies and passions made him so interesting to talk to! He wasn’t bad to look at lol but it was his personality that drew me in initially and then I started to notice how his eyes lit up when he was talking about one of his passions, or how toned his calves were from hiking, etc.

It might help if you shift your focus from “how can I change my dating life?” To “how can I have a more exciting life?”

A great way to build confidence and social skills is to find an activity that you love. Maybe it’s hiking/running or playing board games. You can join a club through facebook or Meetup and attend events based on your interests. Or maybe learn an instrument or take a cooking class?

You’ll meet a ton of people this way and you can practice your social skills on them. Combine this with working out, eating better and being kind to yourself!

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-03-13T21:41:20+00:00

I've been working on my social skills by just saying hello to random women and having a friendly chat

Since you're already doing this try and expand on it. Start by trying to make the chat a bit less friendly. Guys often adopt a high pitched supplicating tone when talking to women so try to slow your speaking down and keep your voice low. It makes you seem more confident and makes the conversation a bit more sensual. Added to this keep good eye contact, smile and try to close after you've been speaking to her for a few minutes.

I recently found some old Paul Janka videos on YouTube. Hes asking for the girls number 1.5 minutes after opening her here. It's possible to do, if you do this enough you'll eventually strike lucky.

https://youtu.be/XwG3ybov9Jg?si=S7p_LBWEzlGUVai5

rayrayrayray · 2024-03-14T03:53:32+00:00

Post a pic. You've mentioned basically nothing here that the community could help you work on.

How are your teeth? Your hairstyle? are you balding? Are you obese? Do you have bad skin? How about general hygiene? What type of clothing and shoes do you wear? Are they clean, ironed, and fit well? What are your hobbies? Do you have an accent?

UnkemptGoose339 · 2024-03-13T21:44:16+00:00

You really can't, you'll have to wait til you're 31.

astroblema72 · 2024-03-14T01:01:34+00:00

If you're rated 7-8 by gay men, but 2-3 by women, that means you have attractive features but they're feminized or lack masculinity. You should get ripped. You can do it in one year, consistently going to the gym 3-4 times a week.

I'm skinny, short, balding, and have a girl voice, and I go in 8-10 first dates every year. The way I do it is spamming likes every day in all dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Happn, Badoo, Boo, etc.) There's a lot of soul-crushing rejection involved, and I still haven't gotten a gf, but you do get first dates.

Good luck.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-13T20:59:50+00:00

Here is how you do it. Stop jerking off immediately. You are not allowed to jerk off until you get laid.

Start going out every single night to popular bars and clubs. Always show up an hour before closing time. If it means that you have to take a nap during the day in order to have energy and wake up at 12-1AM, shower, drink Red Bull and go out.

The reason you show up an hour before closing time is because that's when the most desperate to get laid women are left. You show up fresh smelling and sober and you hit on them.

Your mission is to repeat until you get laid.

DaygameCode · 2024-03-13T22:27:20+00:00

Your dating life is turn around by developing seduction skills, charisma, game, social intelligence, sense of humour, wittiness and flirting skills. So far you haven’t even begin to do any of that. Saying hi and having friendly chats is not even close to turning your life around.

YellowCosmicWarrior · 2024-03-14T06:48:42+00:00

If this is your goal, you need to adjust your tactic. If you are rated 2-4/10, but work actively on your lifestyle and appearance, my advice is to approach women who you don't find overall attractive, but have a characteristic you find attractive. Like idk blonde hair, blue eyes, something you could fix on.

First date doesn't mean marriage. You can go on one, have a good time and never see each other again. Pretty normal. So approach it as testing your tactic.

SkinniBoi1111 · 2024-03-15T19:33:14+00:00

Go to a bar and flirt with drunk people in a college town

Pedro_Moona · 2024-03-14T06:02:10+00:00

might need to go to tijuana or something and just get a couple nuts off

moonangelmanagement · 2024-03-14T10:23:23+00:00

Lose weight , I just know you are obese

Title	How can I turn my dating life around by 30?
Author	Ploikblah
Upvotes	54
Comments	40
Date	March 13, 2024 8:36 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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