depression feeling when seeing hot girls

Mofis · 2018-10-01T04:26:41+00:00

I’m at college and I feel the same way, except they’re everywhere. I suck at talking to girls lol

UpperRedSide · 2018-10-01T10:44:09+00:00

Stop visualizing shit.

This will only lead to chronic daydreaming and disappointment.

If you see a girl you like, maybe go talk to her. See where things go. Maybe it goes somewhere, maybe you get into a relationship, maybe not.

But you have to stop imagining things. It will only keep you in your head. Trust me, I've been there, you're torturing yourself.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-10-01T05:27:40+00:00

1

When I'm with my family I always see really hot girls.

..... It feels like its so far off for me to be in a relationship with them, so I just think about how them walking past made me feel. I start to get depressed as they walk by.

Dude. What you're doing here is spending WAY too much time imagining a relationship with girls you haven't even met.

Which builds up a whole thing and pressure for yourself because suddenly you're then going to be unable to just get to know them as people and find out if there's anything there. You're going to be freaking out about whether you're going to fuck up this magical thing you've imagined in your head. Hint: You're never going to be able to measure up to what you've imagined in your head and neither will she.

2

Keep in mind, these girls are perfect looking which is why I have such a huge reaction.

This is wildly irrelevant. Perfect?

Have you ever been in a room full of guys trying to decide on who is a "10?" There's never any consensus. One man's "10" is another man's "6" or "7." And one guy's "10" is usually put down as a "6" or lower.

So in addition to everything else, you're basically working yourself up over your own personal subjective standards and making yourself think that you're fucking it up with these perfect people, when they're not perfect.

3

......Ive never seen girls like this when Im out approaching, and I have no idea what it would be like to talk to them. It sounds lame but surely someone will understand, I can talk to 7-8's normally too. Im 20 years old btw, and Ive never had a girlfriend.

What's your social life look like? You need to be getting your ass out there meeting new people.

K3wp · 2018-10-01T14:00:21+00:00

I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but try being in a relationship with a few of these and a lot of the bloom is going to fall off of the rose.

I've had a few with girls of this caliber, they all ended badly. Remember, they always have options and guys are going to be after them 24x7. They will be emotionally abusive (because they can get away with it) and cheat at the drop of a hat. Again, because they can get away with it. Most of the girls I've been with that look like this had boyfriends (that had proposed at least once) or husbands. Did not matter to them one bit. Nor did it matter when I fell for them and got dropped like a bad habit.

These days, being nice gets you more points than being 'hot' any day of the week for me. A 'plain' girl that's a total sweetie-pie will pull me faster than her tarted-up '10' friend.

ChemicallyCastrated · 2018-10-01T08:25:15+00:00

Start working out. You'll gain core confidence and those girls will be approaching you. Make yourself desireable.

Edit: Jesus, I agree, guys. I just mean that probably a new change in lifestyle might make a difference. Working out obviously isn't everything.

Murfdigidy · 2018-10-01T13:27:44+00:00

Your projecting a false future outcome. Girls are people too that's why girls hate guys that put them on pedestal just because they're pretty, they know there's more to them than their looks so they hate guys that make them feel so special just because they're hot.

I know a lot of pretty girls and let me tell you they all have flaws, everyone of them, some are cool others are total snobs, annoying, bratty, self centered. You don't know that until you get to know them. So stop projecting a false reality, you're all in your head and you need to change the mind set. Stop projecting some unreal relationship that hasn't or might never exist.

Mark Manson said it best, (I'm paraphrasing) instead of saying in your head, how can I impress this girl, why not have the mindset, what qualities does this girl have that would make me want to potentially ask her out? Find out first is she's cool and more than just a pretty face. Takes no talent to be pretty, that was a gift from God, find out if she has the personality to back it up

ninja_possum · 2018-10-01T10:19:27+00:00

I know that feel bro hugs

sadomasochrist · 2018-10-01T13:45:36+00:00

These girls are not 10s, your mindset is just a 5. You feel me?

DrizzyDavePG · 2018-10-01T10:37:02+00:00

Alright just calm down. Look at it this way, even if only 1% of the women on earth were into you that still leaves you with 38,000,000 options. I repeat that is only 1%.....Now I'm willing to bet atleast one of those is someone you'd consider a 10. Keep your head up kid.

Bigbonkerplane · 2018-10-01T15:56:51+00:00

Dude man I know this feeling! I was on holiday and felt so down during a time I was out visiting a place, there were loads of really good looking girls!

Man I can accually understand you, ain't a pleasant feeling

But what some people have said here is very true. Basically to sum up : stop visualizing your self with them as it gets you nowhere and paints a false representation of what will happen

I need to work on this aswell (Iam working on it) mate

EnvironmentalTwister · 2018-10-01T22:19:20+00:00

Just approach and say hi. You never know, and girls won't fix your life

shimmyshammy2119 · 2018-10-01T13:32:37+00:00

Stop putting people on pedestals because of their looks. A 10 in looks is otherwise equally human to a 7, a 5, or a 3. The simple answer is to realize that all you have to do is talk to a 10 exactly how you would any other girl, because most girls want guys who are able to talk to them on an equal level. If she lets her looks get to her head and acts like she’s “too hot” for you then she’s not worth your time.

I honestly dislike the whole 1-10 looks scale concept, beauty is ultimately subjective and it all it does is make dudes put girls on pedestals.

LimitedContributor · 2018-10-01T15:26:04+00:00

I can definitely relate. Seeing them can be painful because its possibly extremely unlikely you will have any association with them. You will highly possibly never even run into them again.

The fact that some guy, she WILL give her self to is unreal to me.

slurmfactory · 2018-10-01T15:31:42+00:00

Work harder. get jacked. get your confidence up. get a job. go be social as fuck all the time. pm me if u want.

judahman8 · 2018-10-02T10:07:43+00:00

you need a change of perspective

holsbymann · 2018-10-03T12:40:11+00:00

Good. The first step is realising what a mess you are. If you feel bad about looking, how can you possibly feel alright about talking or getting rejected?

It's a long journey, but it starts with you.

taa_dow · 2018-10-04T02:50:59+00:00

the feminists are winning i see. snap out of it.

whomeverIwishtobe · 2018-10-07T23:16:18+00:00

They probably aren’t even that perfect. 10/10 is a rare girl, like epic level rare. You probably are just obsessing because of your inaction start doing cold approach go out at night put yourself in social situations you will be less depressed.

Title	depression feeling when seeing hot girls
Author	Freeliljay
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Date	October 1, 2018 4:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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