How to meet women if you are shy

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Shy people exist because shy people have had sex before and reproduced. If shy people couldn't reproduce, no one would be shy.

The problem lies in that there are people who are "shy" from a place of fear of stimulation. Doing anything from a place of fear or weakness is not good for women or your own well being/happiness. You have got to get stronger for your own good. Your personality can still be calm and chill and doesn't have to be from some hollywood movie (in fact thats a good way to not get laid), it must come from a place and position of strength not fear and weakness. Shyness implies fear but imo you dont have to be "extroverted" or super high energy because ive been having sucess keeping it ultra chill at clubs because im so grounded unfearful and not caring about others reactions by being in the present. Im super joyful and peaceful from within not trying to garner or beg for positivity from someone else because my cup overfloweth.

Also, hoping for a soup can to fall and roll to someones feet so that you can meet someone can happen, but you will meet exponentially more people in a public environment (going out) compared to living the shy life and only coming out of your lair to bump into someone on your walk home (not that you can't but your chances are less and caliber of people in general are lower.

You can be super high energy and still be really needy and hoping for other peoples reactions and make a stupid joke hoping for people to laugh and that just comes off bad and awkward. You make less mistakes with a chill peaceful happy vibe but minus the nervousness and fear that honestly just makes you fuck up more.

Also, behaving like a man from a romcom or hollywood is the best way to drive women away. Neediness and outcome dependence is very low value and unattractive.

Hope that helps

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I have some superficial physical flaws, and I know it.

You have social conditioning. Here's a tip. Go out and don't fix your hair and dress bad on purpose. I love doing this whenever I have doubt that core value isn't the only thing that matters - and I did provide a sort of description of core value in my response.

Tbh I'm "good looking" - I get asked if i'm an actor all the time etc but who determines what is good looking? Has good looking stayed the same throughout history? Is it determined by some gay dude in some french marketing company? This framing does wonders for my frame and I can approach anyone.

I suggest meditation. When the only thing that is value to you is good vibes and joy and you know that that is all that is all other people value and that is what makes you attractive, then you will give yourself permission to show those positive aspects of your personality. This will come out in your subcommunication, vocal tonality, unreactivity, groundedness, overall positive vibing minus all the weird shit shy people do.

How is anyone supposed to get past that when you’re not the type to lie to yourself and ignore what you’ve known as reality for a long fn time?

Cope harder? lol jk. Seriously though all of what you describe is social conditioning. Sorry, your reality is false. I understand that you may reject this red pill and that's fine. Most people go through life in a walking daze. It's only a select few of us that recognize the glitch in the matrix - act confident and people treat you better. Act like a rockstar and get treated like a rockstar. You have been socially conditioned to believe that there is any component in that "x/10" scale that is affected by looks, age, status, money, etc...no it's all core value (literally pleasureful vibes)

Bro, I went to the club two nights ago with only my metro card...$0. And I went solo. And I had never been there before. And I pulled.

but when we’re talking about knockouts or like 9/10 or higher, I can’t ignore that there’s much better competition than me

I go up to women looking to screen them. Are they the right fit for me? It goes deeper than looks. If she is hot, is she sexually adventurous? I like that. There is nothing to ignore. I'm literally winning just by talking to her. Your framing is all wrong. You're coming from a place of pure outcome dependence and neediness. That 9 is viewing you like a bum on the street asking for change. Fuck that. Let your cup overflow with joy. You are a)out improving yourself b)making the approach taking action c)gaining reference experience. You are winning in the interaction at all times. At what point does "she has better options" become relevant? For me I have already won once I say "hi" or whatever. That boosts my state even more. Now that my state is boosted I'm even more vibey even more positive even higher value at this point I'm a 20/10 talking to a 9/10.

I mean bro this is the shit that gets me results and I'm going out solo (albeit I always end up making friends and finding random wing men), sober, and running 20 sets minimum a night.

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You are correct in all manner. However, I stand by my original statement in that it is not my content.

That's where my point about you being able to contact him comes into play. I was in a MoA group a long time ago and I remember it was pretty easy to DM Sami. So it's easy to get any issues like that solved.

I would rather the viewer watch the original content vice some summary that may be lacking details.

It's not about getting the information from the text. It's giving a short summary in the text so you can decide whether you want to watch it or not. The YT algorithm means that you need to have a clickbaity title and try not to give too much info before the video to pull people in. That becomes counteractive on here however where most have watched every method recommended a thousand times in a thousand different ways. So when I open up the video and it's 20 minutes long, the first thing I do is check the comments to see what the main points of the video are. Maybe it's something innovative, maybe it's something perspective shifting, but I'm not going to sink 20 min to find out. There are simply too many videos for me to do that on the off chance that there's something new there.

Title	How to meet women if you are shy
Author	Kylemoa1
Upvotes	336
Comments	72
Date	January 26, 2020 7:14 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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