I've gone through phases in life where I was very socially active, then I went through a lonely phase where I stopped meeting people because I was fixated on certain life goals.

When I was social, women came up to me to talk, and my knowledge of dating was based on things said in male groups, observations between friends, etc. Lots of male friends lie about what their girls do for them. I don't blame them they lie to feel special probably because they don't feel like their girlfriend does anything special for them.

I find women more "reliable" in that way if you ask the right questions.

When I moved onto Reddit during the period of loneliness, I learned wicked things like "my girlfriend buys me shoes and watches, and you shouldn't date any woman who isn't doing that for you."

In my experience, 99% of women don't buy you anything.

Similarly, even if most women are completely crazy about you, they do not usually initiate messaging or respond within a reasonable time frame of 15-30 minutes.

After taking Reddit's advice, my relationships strained.

I broke up with decent women who just never initiated or planned dates.

The most women can do is stay available and receptive. Expecting her to do anything more after "winning" you is being unrealistic.

The average male shouldn't look for odd cases like a BPD obsessed girl. A woman who isn't mentally ill will not chase you or behave in a wild manner. That doesn't mean she's not into you.

It's true during honeymoon phase women actually respond to my aggression and demanding nature more but later on when they become comfortable, they don't respond that well knowing he isn't gonna drop or harm me, he likes me etc... So the intimidation factor works in honeymoon phase only.

It's all true Chads are able to make the honeymoon phase last several years compared to 3-9 months.