Women are cold to me but warm to other guys

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-05-12T03:29:29+00:00

It's probably cuz you're trying too hard

My autistic friend (woman) did this

Nicest person I know because I actually know her, but since she faked being what she thought was normal, everyone knew she was faking something (it was her autism)

But people just saw the mask and assume fake=bad person

She was fake but not because she's bad. She's fake because people discriminate against autistic people a lot.

When most people sense "fake" they don't care why they just realize there's something uncanny and like you're not being genuine. So they assume the worst

Boosteddreamer · 2024-05-12T04:47:51+00:00

It’s something to do with how you carry yourself and the conversation. I notice it with myself, there’s times when I can’t get a conversation going at all and there’s other times when I can talk to anyone. Usually the only difference is my mood.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-05-12T07:30:13+00:00

Here are some reasons why this may happen:

You're uglier than those other guys.
You are unattractive compared to those other guys. And what I mean here is that this encompasses everything outside of looks that makes you attractive or unattractive. For example, being unhealthy. Dressing poorly. Having low IQ. Low social intelligence etc.
They may sense neediness and desperation from you. And this is a stinky cologne.
Being nice and kind doesn't invite people to respect you, admire you, or listen to you. Being kind is just a bare minimum requirement for social interaction. Anyone can be kind. Even psychopaths. So why should they listen to you? What makes you interesting or special? What makes you different from every other guy that's also kind? Because most guys are kind.

Ok_Bunch_1429 · 2024-05-12T13:45:37+00:00

It was like this for me my whole life. God,the bitterness I felt.

What finally changed was my attitude, I somehow got a gf, made her my wife and found myself not caring about other girls. Just treated them like people that I could take or leave, then very pretty girls started to show me interest, the ring on my finger certainly helped.

After a while I divorced my ex wife due to her being a Looney tune and focused on myself.

Dropped a ton of weight, gained some muscle and worked on my style.

I used to get good looks literally everywhere I went, compliments almost everyday. Then I began to expect them, it put me back in that needy mentality and girls dried right up.

All I can say is it's a trait in you that you have to change. I doubt you're really all that ugly and I'm sure you can be fun and playful. I just think maybe your own mood is being reflected back at you.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-05-12T02:13:58+00:00

Perhaps you are unattractive. Or maybe just unattractive to them.

gainfulphysique · 2024-05-12T18:27:04+00:00

You’re either ugly or unconfident or both.

Jironasaurus · 2024-05-12T23:50:10+00:00

Image + vibe problem.

KingOnixTheThird · 2024-05-14T06:02:56+00:00

If you're white, just take a trip to The Philippines and you'll find plenty of girls who are interested in you. Sure, they most likely want you for the green card, but you most likely want them for their sexy body, so it's a fair trade.

stuff_of_legend · 2024-05-16T14:49:16+00:00

Lear to be playful. Learn to flirt playfully

cemj86 · 2024-05-12T09:47:48+00:00

Not every girl is going to like you

Dandys3107 · 2024-05-12T06:03:30+00:00

It may have something to do with perceiving you as a low value, weak man, if you give women so much attention and being too nice for no reason. And they don't respect it at all. Try to be more authentic.

Electronic_Umpire893 · 2024-05-13T20:16:42+00:00

I've seen examples of this at clubs and bars. Either you're way of conversation is awkward as hell, you're attractive to the point where girls are shy to talk to you, or you're ugly to the point where the girl is pissed that someone of you're level is even communicating with them. From my examples, I once saw an Indian dude attempt to start a conversation with 3 girls in one night and each of their reactions was the worst. There smile quickly turned into a disgruntled expression, and they cried for help to their friends who quickly pulled them out of a situation of talking to an ugly guy. One bystander even pretended to be a boyfriend because the girl acted that annoyed, then proceeded to flirt with her while she thanked him from saving her from such a perilous situation. It was shocking to watch how standards can be so different.

orions69 · 2024-05-12T06:17:59+00:00

Sammmeee except for this one girl so I asked her to be my fiancé* Edit

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-12T01:50:19+00:00

Women are cold to me but warm to other guys

This is why :

try to do my best to show kindness and interest

This is disgusting . I nearly barfed .

However with my friends, other guys I see women smile and actively listen and ask questions back.

The have the magical (frankly over explained ) thing called Attraction (The PUA term not actual attraction )

How can I make women open and feel comfortable around me?

Show less interest . And don’t be kind . Learn how to talk with women . Be more fun / interesting / cool/ better overall .

There are book written about this . Read one (before you ask There is a search function on the sub - there there are 100 of recommendations they all basically the same thing - pick one - If you can get it for free should be the criteria)

Title	Women are cold to me but warm to other guys
Author	sumimigaquatchi
Upvotes	12
Comments	38
Date	May 12, 2024 1:13 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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