Picking up guys, improving/learning my/new skills

MyUsername0_0 · 2024-05-30T10:41:50+00:00

You're a girl, it's literally easy mode if you're even remotely attractive. Shit you can be ugly and still get amazing results. Just say hey and introduce yourself. If you can't even do that just put yourself in close proximity and hover around.

bented720 · 2024-05-30T13:41:12+00:00

Honestly you need to take it into your own hands if you’re possibly interested in a guy. I’m kind of shy to start a conversation because I just ASSUME it’s inappropriate because they have a bf but I’ve had women throughout my years do the icebreaker. Most are super nervous and it’s cute.

The one I still think about and I never got a chance to go out with. We were working on a commercial set together and all the guys had a little crush on her. I had a gf at the time (my first real one and the relationship was almost over). At the end of the job she waited until the other guys walked away and came and gave me her number and said she was super nervous and had never done that before. I was shocked and felt for her so I took it. I told my gf who got angry and said I had to call and tell her I was with someone. So I did and never talked to her again sadly. Meanwhile a month later I found out my gf had been cheating on me…

Stupid story from 17 years ago aside, it’s 2024 the pick up goes both ways. I tell my female friends this same thing. You want to meet a nice guy you’re going to have to take your own shots because they’re most likely being polite and assuming a cute nice girl has a bf and doesn’t want to overstep. So, walk up and compliment them or admit you’re nervous or whatever and most importantly smile. I had exactly that happen a year ago at a bbq and while I wasn’t ready to date, the girl and I are now friends.

Also, you can send a friend in to tell them to come talk to you. I’ve totally had that happen at bars (even these days).

Also, I’m nothing special. Probably an LA 7. Definitely not the hottest guy in the room.

romeMAJOR · 2024-05-30T12:41:18+00:00

What kind of guys do you want?

It’s funny this post exists because it seems like guys and girls are both shooting their shot at people who won’t give them the time of day. I didn’t realise it was an issue for women as well but this post shows clearly it is

From_God_to_Dog · 2024-05-30T15:16:59+00:00

Women don't need game for picking up guys, but picking up other women? You'll have to ask some LGBT ladies

trifling-pickle · 2024-05-30T14:51:39+00:00

I think you would dig this book the offline dating method by Camille Virginia, it’s about getting dates from the perspective of a woman.

My advice would be to think about your approachability. Camille talks about that a lot in her book, but an example would be how it’s easier for a guy to approach you when you are by yourself than when you are in a big group of people.

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Dandys3107 · 2024-05-30T11:37:47+00:00

Open body posture, smiling/laughing, look around and give friendly glances, don't get occupied with your phone, dress sexually by revealing decent part of your skin and accentuate your feminine shapes. Talk with other people and appear friendly, open-minded, nice, positive, just not go too overboard. In general, apart from your attractive physique, many men long for that sensitive and kind woman which will nicely complement their masculine energy and lifestyle.

some_kind_of_friend · 2024-05-30T15:02:30+00:00

You're letting the devil know you're coming! Your energy is perceptible to those not even consciously aware of it. Feel too aggressive and, well, you already know the results. It's your aura, if you will.

Subtlety is the key to aggressive passivity. Suggestive looks and engaging smiles/glances. Practice making "fuck me" eyes if it fits your esthetic, then get caught giving them. Body language is everything here.

Most men will be suspect of an aggressive woman. Shit gets really scary when things go too well or seem too easy. Within this realm nothing is (usually) easy for us so it's sus af when it is.

SuperDylanK · 2024-05-30T19:55:46+00:00

I feel like us guys appreciate it more if y’all talk to us “out of the blue” than the other way around. Therefore y’all should worry less about being smooth and just GO for it! Us guys will be understanding and will work with you to get some good convo going.

Side note, a lot of guys are terrible at picking up on women’s “signals” due to all the contradictory experiences they’ve had before - the LAST thing we want to do is come off as creepy. If you just strike up a conversation with a guy in a direct manner then that is half of the battle.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-30T10:41:34+00:00

You’ll have to smile and look at the person you want to approach you. You’ll have to do it for a while because most guys are afraid. So give them time to gather courage.

If you are interested in confident men, look good, relax, have fun. Those want you will approach you once they notice you. For this group, you have to be chosen.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-05-30T15:42:01+00:00

One thing I’d ask is do you think you could handle rejection? Do you think you could desensitize yourself to it over time?

Main reason why is if you could handle it you could be more direct with guys. Go after what you want. Maybe not in the same way guys do, but still showing intent and seeing how guys respond. You could cut through a lot of bs if you could let guys know you’re interested in them, see how they’d respond. Go through the ones who aren’t a match, and find the ones who are.

Hot-Turnover4883 · 2024-05-31T00:21:29+00:00

Landing dates as a girl has got to be easy, just go out to a place where people socialize, look cute & approachable & a guy will come to you. If I go to a bar party or club & see a baddie I’m shooting my shot. Fuck the results.

Superb-Bank9899 · 2024-05-31T00:45:32+00:00

Lightly touch their hands or shoulder.

Living-Inspection919 · 2024-05-31T04:04:03+00:00

You can literally point at your vagina to a guy and say “ Are you interested?” Lol

GreedyCartoonist8002 · 2024-05-31T04:09:50+00:00

Women picking up women is actually extremely challenging.

You should try it and see what it's like for fun.

But girl getting guy, that's easy just flirt.

Girl getting a good guy, that's a completely different story.

Where do you meet them? How do you determine good? Do you have similar interests, life goals and everything else?

One-Hedgehog4722 · 2024-05-31T15:31:50+00:00

Its pretty simple really…just go and say something to the guy with a smile and then walk away. It doesnt matter what you say, you could ask for the time, whatever you come up with, doesnt matter, Then smile, be bubbly and walk away. If the guy is attracted to you, it will eat him up inside if he doesnt go after you. When walking away stay in close proximity for a lil bit, checking your phone whatever, so he knows youre still around, like i said it will eat his insides up if hes attracted and will urge him to go after you, its a major Fomo type feeling. Or maybe he instantly starts chatting you up right there..its really so simple, just say something. I think its diff for when guys approach because we know we have to carry the conversation and do all the leg work to set everything up etc and can psych ourselves out, women literally dont have to do any work, the least they can do is say something, you could also literally just say Hi too

iuliuss_ · 2024-05-30T11:09:51+00:00

For me active approaching is not attractive, but giving passive signals is super attractive. I mean you should not to make a move, you should signal me to make a move.

Title	Picking up guys, improving/learning my/new skills
Author	mariaandmythoughts
Upvotes	27
Comments	62
Date	May 30, 2024 10:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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