I give up

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-06-05T20:00:36+00:00

You continue to fight for yourself and your daughter. Just like in the movie Untouchables - 'never stop fighting til the fight is done'.

WartimeDad · 2024-06-05T05:37:51+00:00

Mine coparent went completely insane and with the kid. Legit could have gotten my child killed. I could go on and on. One thing that have discovered is an absolute certainty - nobody, and I mean nobody, gives a fuck about the kids and the dads.

Amber-13 · 2024-06-05T03:16:34+00:00

I hope you’re not in a commonwealth state, but it surely sounds like it.

pk2at · 2024-06-05T02:19:32+00:00

There is really nothing you can do as beating a child is perfectly legal for parents in all 50 states. Your best option is to ask for more parenting time

Jake_Barnes_ · 2024-06-05T01:37:47+00:00

Whenever a client tells me this it means it’s time to settle and move on.

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-06-05T00:02:37+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that you're in a difficult position, but there are so many resources available to help people who don't want to be in their current situation.

It's important to never give up, especially when your ex is causing harm to your daughter and it feels like there's no help available. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

Never let the kids down. They should be the centre of your universe and deserve your love and affection.
Be honest and acknowledge your child's feelings. Ask yourself, "What do you think your daughter is feeling in times like this?"
Love your daughter as if there's no tomorrow. Consider how you would feel if she were no longer in this world.

I understand that it's tough at the moment, but your daughter will not always be a little girl. She's going to grow up, and if you can be the one who truly supports and loves her now, who do you think she will cherish the most, you or your ex?

Let me share a story from about 40 years ago: There was a young man who didn't have many resources. He married a narcissistic woman who then left him for his friend, leaving him with his two very young sons. He lost everything in the divorce - the house, money, and most painfully, he lost custody of the boys. She mistreated them to the extent that one of the boys still suffers from depression today. However, the boys loved their dad because he showed them all the love and affection he could. He even stood up for them when their mother was extremely upset with them. As they grew up, they had a closer relationship with their dad than with their mother, as kids remember.

The dad then met an incredible woman who showered the boys with love and affection. When she passed away from early onset Alzheimer's, they cried for days, as did the dad.

So, please don't give up. Your daughter will remember your efforts to take care of her and love her to the best of your ability.

It's difficult, but document instances of mistreatment and take pictures or recordings if possible. Have witnesses, but do what you can to protect your daughter.

Remember, you're not alone. Many of us have been where you are now. Good luck, and we are here for you.

neon_trostky999 · 2024-06-04T23:31:27+00:00

We are winning everyday we keep our heads up! We got this.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-04T23:21:11+00:00

You keep kicking aZz. File a a lawsuit and complaint against CPS. Try to get the news involved. File contempt for divorce agreement. Whatever you can do. Hire a PI.

NewDay0110 · 2024-06-04T22:50:13+00:00

I understand, it's infuriating. I am dealing with a low quality mom myself. The way you win this is my keeping cool, and having an attorney who can advocate for you in the courtroom. The sad reality is that she gets forgiveness much more easily than you do, but that's just the system we have right now. Stay strong, you will win.

Title	I give up
Author	abbatoirdavid
Upvotes	26
Comments	15
Date	June 4, 2024 10:40 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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