Their offer: 50/50

RunTheBull13 · 2023-08-30T23:36:53+00:00

Most states are unlikely to give sole custody to the father unless you have lots of damning evidence against the mother that shows it would be harmful for the kid to be with them.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-08-31T02:35:55+00:00

Take it. Jesus Christ, I wish I got a deal like this.

abbatoirdavid · 2023-08-30T22:16:55+00:00

We also have a child. So parenting time is 50/50 as well.

CRobinsFly · 2023-08-31T03:16:58+00:00

Yes, accept this deal.

Bro. I'm not trying to be an asshole or rude to you but may I ask your rationale for why you should get sole custody? You're a bit sparse on the details.

This statement or a form of it has been present in every state's custody laws that I have examined: "Joint custody is in the best interest of the children."

Very rarely will I say "we have to be better than them" but this is one of the instances when I will say it. Let your children know their mother. Ultimately, the children deserve equal access both of their parents.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2023-08-30T22:33:40+00:00

Try to buy her out with something else like the house.

gtivr4 · 2023-08-31T00:59:28+00:00

Split everything down the middle and be done. Wish I had gotten it that good.

AffectionateAd6060 · 2023-08-30T22:56:00+00:00

Sole custody is rarely good for the children and rarely given to either parent unless there are VERY substantial circumanstes of neglect, abuse, heavy drug use. I am sure you know this.

TheRealDrWan · 2023-08-31T01:32:40+00:00

Contributions and earnings in both of your retirement accounts during the marriage are marital assets.

It is not unusual or malicious for her to have an interest in what’s in there.

Training_Ad1368 · 2023-08-31T01:41:24+00:00

Actually, is not s bad deal.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-08-31T08:11:06+00:00

Eventually, that's where you may end up. But if you've got a shot a sole custody, leverage it. Not too hard though or you'll blow up the deal you look like you might have. Clarify the financials before you toss away your leverage.

tinrooster2005 · 2023-08-31T19:02:44+00:00

take 50/50, if she is unfit document everything and attack again when the time is right.

Title	Their offer: 50/50
Author	abbatoirdavid
Upvotes	7
Comments	24
Date	August 30, 2023 10:15 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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