A post from another sub: "My wife’s mother said it wasn’t normal of me to cry when my daughter was born"

2024-07-15T20:50:56+00:00

I’m so sorry man. This is the woman who taught your girl how to be a woman. Idk expect my girl to defend me and honestly not even bring this up to me. Yikes.

TempleFugit · 2024-07-15T20:49:37+00:00

Mother-in-laws are typically bitches.. Just keep what she said tucked in the back of your head. If you ever catch her crying, make fun of her and say it's not normal.

JDMWeeb · 2024-07-15T21:00:33+00:00

Reminds me of my childhood when I was berated for showing emotions

BranTheBaker902 · 2024-07-15T20:34:04+00:00

My response to her would be “Fuck off.”

JackTheVlad · 2024-07-16T00:18:19+00:00

I cried both times, it's a very emotional experience. But he picked a nincompoop for a girlfriend/wife.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2024-07-15T20:31:50+00:00

"Guy on the internet has stupid mother-in-law; film at 11."

sumfacilispuella · 2024-07-15T22:00:23+00:00

"something not serious" is she joking?

icedragon71 · 2024-07-16T01:17:34+00:00

Why is it never the men who seem to be passing on this "toxic masculinity" feminists love to talk about?

Ruff-Bug4012 · 2024-07-16T00:31:13+00:00

It wasn’t normal when she ate lead paint chips, but here we are.

kuzeydengelen10 · 2024-07-15T21:42:31+00:00

This is ridiculous, we men can cry too, we are not robots, I ask those who talk nonsense like this, isn't it hard to live with such a bad heart?

bluehorserunning · 2024-07-15T23:32:17+00:00

It’s absolutely normal to cry happy tears when a baby is born.

Koush · 2024-07-16T01:05:22+00:00

Always remember, women enforce toxic masculine and feminine roles far more than men and then the world makes perfect sense.

StarZax · 2024-07-16T01:29:00+00:00

« over something not serious »

Lmao you can't make that up

I hope your wife took your side against her because damn. I wish stuff like this wouldn't slip away, it just sounds crazy to me that men aren't even allowed to cry when they see their kids for the first time

Ecstatic-Article589 · 2024-07-15T23:39:57+00:00

"not serious" its probably his first daughter

Baboon_Stew · 2024-07-16T00:53:52+00:00

Homie was totally normal. How is it hard not to feel like that when your child is born. I know I did.

MIL can kiss his ass.

peter_venture · 2024-07-16T03:27:47+00:00

This guy's MIL is a total cunt.

Source: The words out of her own mouth.

LouiseAndMe · 2024-07-16T07:05:42+00:00

women seem to be the top common denominator in why men dont express themselves emotionally, I keep seeing constantly in mens experiences its women who laugh at them, women who leave them, women who use it against them, women who lose respect for them, women who shame them all for just simply crying or saying what's wrong

but of course nobody wants a mainstream conversation about it so its acknowledged more, as we all know society dosent like holding women accountable for the most part

toph88241 · 2024-07-15T23:37:22+00:00

20% are absent fathers

So if 31% aren't that attached to their children or aren't comfortable expressing their emotions, then she's right.

You're not normal. You're exceptional.

jayniepuff · 2024-07-16T04:42:52+00:00

The birth of his child was so not a serious thing 😒

Proverbs_31_2-3 · 2024-07-16T06:53:59+00:00

There's a lot of emotion wrapped up in the birth of a baby. Months of anticipation. Possibly fear for the safety of the mother and baby. Seeing the baby pop out at last and breathe and cry can be a huge relief and joy and result in tears. I know it did for me.

dependency_injector · 2024-07-16T07:04:07+00:00

I wonder how the wife felt when her mother said that becoming a parent is "something not serious" to her

zqmvco99 · 2024-07-16T10:26:56+00:00

not surprised.

other types of abuse of women - a not insignificant portion is perpetrared by women

ghosting? ask previous generations of women - they teach this to males (but labelled as "letting her down easy"

gender roles? mostly imposed by moms.

killing off emotional capacity of men which then damages women? moms and other female relatives

etc etc

DissociativeRuin · 2024-07-15T20:41:53+00:00

The tone of the wife is how I speak when I'm trying to make someone snap and go psychk.

Idek she said

Yr evil is all

Idk what she ment by that

But ya

*Like ?!?!? That's all you have to say?! *

Yeah idk even

What you want me to say

Yeah it's all she said

Could she be less invested lol

And she doesn't even correct the "something not important" comment.

Dudes really have no idea the quality of mind if the women they pick it's weird man. I think guys criminally underestimate women's intelligence and also tendency to conform regardless of consequences to those around them.

DamnedVirus · 2024-07-16T07:49:14+00:00

What on earth... I was crying more than my daughter was after she was born. I had just nearly lost both of them due to complications in the birth, but wow... talk about a terrible mother in law, and his wife not standing up for him.

JT98191 · 2024-07-16T07:51:44+00:00

Wow, this is horrible. You have the right to your own emotions.

PseudoRandomMan · 2024-07-16T11:57:55+00:00

You should have a serious conversation with your wife on why exactly she has shared this with you. I sense it's because your wife thinks the same as her mom and that's her way of saying it by not really saying it. If that's the case, I'd definitely let her go. A woman who thinks it's "weird" or "weak" for her man to cry for things like his son/daughter being born or a relative passing away is sick. There is no other word for it.

BlownOutBack · 2024-07-16T13:51:30+00:00

If he's supposed to be a cold, unfeeling pinnacle of logic then they should be nothing but pleased for him to demand a paternity test, right?

FupaLowd · 2024-07-16T13:58:14+00:00

Wow…she sounds like a bitch.

EfficientSimplicity · 2024-07-16T18:55:55+00:00

Don’t get her a Christmas gift or allow her to stay more than a couple days 👋

United_Reality4157 · 2024-07-16T02:26:52+00:00

Internalized misandry

Rude-Food7829 · 2024-07-16T08:32:31+00:00

nah that's just abnormal and vile . men aren't supposed to feel or express an emotion nowadays ?

voxom12 · 2024-07-16T09:29:53+00:00

This should be at the top of the list of good reasons a man should cry.

EvidencePlz · 2024-07-16T11:46:57+00:00

Your mom was completely wrong

Vaudeville_Clown · 2024-07-16T11:48:36+00:00

You should say to your wife that apparently her mother is a tradcunt and thus her opinions are invalid on well, mostly everything.

neko_zora · 2024-07-16T11:56:10+00:00

So having a newborn daughter is not something serious? The mother in law probably has some screws loose in her head…

Jemiliyac · 2024-07-16T12:35:02+00:00

Tell her it's 2024, not 1924. Men cry, especially when they realize they’ll never sleep again

PrestigiousLass · 2024-08-24T09:21:19+00:00

That's sad she said that or thought that! I'd see it as a sign of strength. If you can't cry then, when can you!? They are stuck in a mindset, ignore!!

dwitchagi · 2024-07-16T20:06:23+00:00

More context would be nice, because this doesn’t show the wife agreeing her mother is insane..

AlienAmerican1 · 2024-07-16T22:06:45+00:00

She's out of place but she's right.

IGotAFatRooster · 2024-07-16T04:26:24+00:00

Why he typing in all caps? Maybe he is overly emotional. How he was crying also matters. If you ugly cry around your woman she will lose respect for you. How they are designed. They hate seeing their man weak in 99.9% of situations. Or what they perceive as weak I should say .

Title	A post from another sub: "My wife’s mother said it wasn’t normal of me to cry when my daughter was born"
Author	True-Lychee
Upvotes	312
Comments	60
Date	July 15, 2024 8:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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