Will not rehash, just wanted to tell someone (since I have no one) that I signed the petition for dissolution just now ( I initiated, if it even matters). I know it's the start of a long uphill battle. But even summoning the courage to officially file was extremely difficult. My marriage of 20 years is over - almost. Thanks to everyone in this forum (and others) who offered advice and support; very likely I will continue to lean on you in the coming months.