She makes $550,000 a year. Her husband makes $60,000. Here's how it affects their relationship

creamer143 · 2024-07-25T15:47:58+00:00

So, let's reverse the genders and see how it sounds:

“James wants Greena to be engaged with money. I can understand him paying more for things like luxury hotels, but why is he the one ordering the [laundry] detergent?”

“Steve wants Taylor to want more for herself, to become a financial partner in their relationship,”

Beyond being the breadwinners in their relationships, James and Steve both also admitted to taking on mother-like roles with their wife. They consistently remind their wives to do tasks like shop for the home, apply to jobs or look for ways to increase their incomes, and do it themselves when when their wives drop the ball.

“Sometimes I feel like I’m Mom. I’m planning things. I’m taking care of all the things,” James said. ”[Grenna] is not in her 20s, and I want us to be more equals in this way.”

Steve agreed. “I felt like a mom disciplining her child,” her said of trying to motivate Taylor to work harder.

In both scenarios, Sethi called out the men for allowing that dynamic to continue.

Both their wives are capable and said they’re willing to do what’s asked of them. But by letting them off the hook when they make mistakes, their husbands have fostered the sense that it’s OK for things to continue in this manner, Sethi said.

Sethi recommended both James and Steve set boundaries and introduce actual consequences to give their wives a chance to prove they can and are willing to make these changes.

Yeah, feminists would lose their fucking minds if men talked about their wives like this, especially the last two excerpts. The husbands would be called ungrateful, "YOU aren't doing enough for HER?", "YOU'RE not emotionally available", "YOU don't help around the house", etc. They'd be blamed for their wives short comings and gaslit, and the wives would be told by the female in-group that their husbands are in the wrong and it's not their fault. The men might even get accused of being emotionally abusive.

Edit: Fixed formating

Sea_Treat7982 · 2024-07-25T17:06:35+00:00

Turn the tables and divorce her. Take half of her stuff. Make her pay alimony. Give men the inspiration to turn the tables on an increasingly gynocentric society.

jessi387 · 2024-07-25T16:35:40+00:00

There was a post on askmen, about why don’t some guys want to date a female breadwinner or a woman who earns significantly more. This article pretty much sums up why and it doesn’t have much to do with mens “egos”

JettandTheo · 2024-07-25T16:42:51+00:00

The last part about he wouldn't be allowed to go on vacation is fucking gross.

I can fully understand that the lower income person needs to do more around the house. I would recommend that should be their main job and the free lance stuff as a secondary

haaku-san · 2024-07-25T17:24:50+00:00

these men need to get out of those relationships before they get me2d or called abusive. the women say it's not about the money but its about the money

DyingMisfit · 2024-07-25T16:07:42+00:00

Because they want 'equal' (read 'better') opportunities but also other men who're "equal or better"...as long as the "equally better" man was lucky enough to 'systematically oppress' some 'other woman' and earn well by denying that 'other woman' her rightful 'equal opportunity'!

Not to mention, the CNBC*ck is actually selling a 'course' to get rich quick, so there's that too!

StupidSexyQuestions · 2024-07-25T19:27:11+00:00

This article would feel straight out of the 40’s or 50’s if the you switched the names. It reads incredibly regressive.

KelVarnsenIII · 2024-07-25T18:12:41+00:00

Imagine if the scenario was flipped? The man would be called all sorts of names, degrading epithet, etc.

It's a marriage, a partnership, according to anti-family courts, the high earner pays and takes care of the low earner.

I'm just gonna say it. This Woman probably makes her husband feel like less of a man because he earns less and chose a different career oath. I'd hate to be married to her.

She should he grateful he works, contributes to the family, and I'd bet keeps her entertained with his music. She sounds like a real piece of work, as most scumbag lawyers are.

adam-l · 2024-07-25T18:21:49+00:00

She pursued the career so she could be the chooser. She chose the cool, artsy guy. The Cool doesn't order the detergent, bitch.

TassleScotch · 2024-07-25T23:45:03+00:00

$60,000/year is actually amazing for a freelance musician. Most musicians are couch surfers who eat 3 day old chicken nuggets for dinner.

Don't see any problem here. They're both doing what they want to do....one of those careers happens to be paying more. What's the problem?

The reporter is mad at the whole trophy wife trope and is trying to get payback at the "patriarchy" lol

Sea_Neighborhood120 · 2024-07-25T20:31:34+00:00

No matter how much these feminists scream equality and shit but ultimately there hypergamous nature will come on top..

Cybralisk · 2024-07-25T23:26:10+00:00

Yea these high earning women have a real problem, they want men that earn as much or more than them but the thing is men making $500k+ a year generally don't date 44 year old women and they don't give a fuck how much money they make.

IzSommerKat · 2024-07-26T03:24:52+00:00

The thing is she doesn’t want him to make more money. Her salary alone is enough to support several households comfortably. She married a musician because she thought he’d bring her a glamorous rockstar lifestyle but he’s having fun playing small gigs. She still has a “normal” lawyer career when she thought she was marrying someone who would make her feel famous and important so now she feels like she has to “discipline” him until he makes a name for himself in music. So disgusting.

PrudentWolf · 2024-07-25T15:42:49+00:00

I would say this is topic for Women Psychology 101 course rather than for this sub.

Hypergamy will be there with them anyway. But it's not always translated into money, especially in the case of US Lawyer/Doctor and musician. But she will expect this guy to earn more gradually. Yes, she probably will be always on top, but her hypergamy will calm if the guy will be able to raise his rates and alowly grow up.

If he will be able to reach 6 figures she will be satisfied even if she will reach 7 figures.

hawksdiesel · 2024-07-25T21:55:04+00:00

Switch the genders and see how it feels...

-AverageTeen- · 2024-07-25T20:32:20+00:00

Seems the article is down? I can’t access it

No_Principle_5534 · 2024-07-26T07:08:08+00:00

Sometimes I worry because my wife does not earn much and does not help as much as I do. I have to help her remember to do things. I am worried because I think of these women and not until recently did it cross my mind to even view my wife in this way because some are go getters and some arent.

There aren't many high paying jobs laying around either.

EnhanceY0urCaIm · 2024-07-26T13:19:40+00:00

You know these men agreed to participate, right?

Current_Finding_4066 · 2024-07-26T14:09:06+00:00

Lo and behold, when she makes more money, all of the sudden the husband should do more hose chores AKA unpaid labor.

No, it was never, and never will be about equality with feminism.

Title	She makes $550,000 a year. Her husband makes $60,000. Here's how it affects their relationship
Author	Josh2942
Upvotes	386
Comments	66
Date	July 25, 2024 2:17 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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