In this article, i'm going to break down the 3 key rules required to succeed on dating apps in 2024 as a man. As I’m sure you know, girls are getting flooded with messages so it’s important to not make the same mistakes as most guys. This guide will help you stand out amongst the competition, text like a pro, and lead to more dates, hookups, and relationships.

Rule 1: Keep Your Opening Message Short

Most guys on Tinder go overly fancy and think they have to jump through hoops to impress the girl. So, they tend to put way too much time and energy into their Tinder opener. No matter how attractive you are, with an excessive Tinder pickup line, the girl gets turned off. Because when you put that much effort into your first text, the girl tends to think you don’t often match with girls of her caliber.

Avoid pickup lines or any over the top openers. It will look like you’re trying way too hard, which lowers your attractiveness in her eyes (she’s thinking that if you’re such a catch– why would you be trying so hard to impress her). Basically, you want to have the mindset that just because she matched with you, doesn’t mean she’s already won you over.

Rule 2: Be the Buyer, Not the Seller

As discussed in the previous point, you don’t want to make it seem like the girl has won you over from just matching with you and being attractive. Women crave at least a little bit of a challenge. This is where the buyer - seller analogy comes in. Whoever is trying to win the other person over is the seller and you dont want that to be you.

Coming across as the “buyer” shows you have have options, which is attractive. One of the best ways to come across as the “buyer” is to ask qualifying questions that demonstrate you have standards beyond her looks.

Qualifying Question Examples: “Are you open minded?”, “Are you adventurous?” “What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?” “Favorite travel destination?” “Are you kinky?”

Rule 3: Text Like A Man

When it comes to online dating, a lot of men get lazy or sloppy and send texts that barely make sense. This is something that’s not talked about enough. Women get turned off by poor grammar or a bunch of childish abbreviations (ex: wyd, hbu, gtfo, etc). Misspelling a word here and there is not a big deal, but when you’re typing like a 16 year old emo teenager, that’s a different story.

In addition, avoid the excessive use of emojis. In general, emojis have one purpose, and that is to show that what you said was a joke (because she can’t see your facial expressions over text). However, guys start adding emojis to everything because they’re so worried about offending the girl. In reality, all their doing is just killing the attention.

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**Check out the full article for the remaining rules and see texting examples for each rule