The top men that gets discussed in the 80/20 rule aren't the top most attractive single men in only looks in order. Hot guys don't have all the luck with women, being just hot isn't what many single women are looking for. They may sleep with one, but most aren't sticking around if that's all he's bringing to the table. What the 20% of men with choice and options are guys who have established themselves clearly outside the norms of the average man.

The top guys of men who get most of the dates and casual action whenever are in possession of some combination of these primarily desirable qualities women look for.

If you possess high social status, women will want to leverage your position to benefit their own social lives. Women will see you and your cool social groups, and latch onto you because she's lonely, and wants cool friends too.

If you have a great lifestyle of nice place, travels, and eating out. If a woman can get in a relationship and live and tagalong with you along your life, she will find you highly desirable.

If you're tall, handsome, fit, and big then you're in a category of attractiveness that is not normal at all. Being 6ft is 15% of men, combine those 3 together and you're easily top 2% in looks. Women want instantly recognizably attractive guys, that's the top desire for nearly every woman. There's virtually no woman that doesn't place looks as 50% or more of what she wants. Women will date down in looks with guys less attractive than her, if you can provide something of the 2 other categories that she values.

The next reason guys struggle to get with and dates with women they don't know. You have to get into her head that having babies and living with you would be okay. She may never want babies, already has babies with no interest in any more. Doesn't matter, what her life with you would be like living with you and what her potential babies will look like is consciously or subconsciously processed in her brain. This is a high bar in the mind of most women, this concept is what makes casual attraction with women difficult.

Any women worth dating casually date men who are outliers in desirable categories social status, beauty, and lifestyle. Even before smartphones, dating apps, and social media, we've never gotten women on board with average guys randomly getting dates and being lusted over by single women. Once women decide they want to get married and have kids, they will alter their strategy greatly. Until then, women chase men mainly for dopamine release, entertainment, and how she can benefit from those men.

Top guys don’t chase women, they don’t try to impress them, they make women do that for them. Most of the casual dating and hookups that go on is women going after men that possess something they want, it’s most of the time different than how he looks.