Do you think I need therapy because I can't get a GF and I'm scared of the possibility of not finding one forever?

Inareskai · 2024-10-23T20:04:51+00:00

You don't need therapy because you've been single for 2 years.

You may need therapy for your thoughts about if you're "cursed" and potentially other ideas.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-10-23T20:03:42+00:00

Therapy is great for everyone because we all have our issues and I suggest you give it a try for its own sake. You can also try socializing more and improving your basic social skills. Looking your best helps a lot too.

floracalendula · 2024-10-23T21:06:04+00:00

I don't think you need therapy due to your perception that you can't get a girlfriend. I think the fact that you're catastrophizing about never finding one means you might benefit, though. I've always found simple talk therapy to be effective for me, but that's just me and my aversion to doing "therapy homework" more onerous than nice things for myself. (I am NEVER filling out another therapy card again.)

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-10-23T21:09:07+00:00

the fact that you call it "cold approach" makes me need to ask: what kind of stuff do you say?

memomemomemomemomemo · 2024-10-23T20:02:43+00:00

Therapy is usually a tool to work on yourself like your inner self rather than you go in and tell a therapist im here because i cant find a gf, they might instead work on getting you being comfortable in your own company, or dysfunctional ways that you think about the situation, past trauma, living a full life. That being said working on all those things will make you a better partner and make your relationships more likely to be successful. CBT is helpful for unhelpful thought patterns, if you have major trauma in your life i personally wouldnt start there but im not therapist just someone who has done a lot of therapy. TLDR: everyone should try therapy but it might not give you the solution right away or in a way you like.

actuallyacatmow · 2024-10-23T23:14:34+00:00

Your thinking sounds a touch obsessive.

If you were to start therapy, start with talk therapy. Basic counselling. You need to identify the problem before tackling it.

jmarquiso · 2024-10-23T20:32:28+00:00

Therapy is good for everyone. It can help. I wouldn't qualify it just for you because of the situation you're in now though - but they can certainly get down to your feelings and help you figure out how to change your outlook on these things.

Grand-Connection-234 · 2024-10-23T22:03:48+00:00

I don't think you need therapy because you can't her a girlfriend and are scared of not having a girlfriend again.

I think you need it for you to understand it's not everything the world has to offer.

Turn off the dating sites. Walk away from the red pill and definitely therapy.

Fluffy-Comedian-3245 · 2024-10-23T20:32:51+00:00

Well first off, turn off all your red pill and porn videos. Then find a good therapist 👍🏿

They-man69 · 2024-10-24T22:01:35+00:00

It’s not that deep bro, realise that obsessing over this makes you look desperate, anyone can smell desperation a mile away. Best case scenario in meeting someone and wanting to establish a relationship: you succeed.

Worst case scenario: you don’t but it doesn’t matter. You were a good person before meeting them and you’ll be a good person after.

Anasnoelle · 2024-10-25T18:44:54+00:00

Don’t do cold approaches or pick ups please. Try to meet people through friends and or through interests. Maybe join a club or volunteer somewhere. It’s best to meet people that way.

lilchapo97 · 2024-10-25T22:30:22+00:00

Quit cold approaching, that's one of the most desperate things you can do. Women who are "high value" in red pill terms are gonna see right through that and be like, nah. Work on your social skills and make friends doing the things you like. I know it's cliché, but that's really what's gonna eventually help you meet the right person authentically. Or a change of scenery, like moving to a bigger city.

If you're that terrified of being single forever, then sure, go see a therapist. But I think you'll find that it's other bigger issues that you have. Hopefully the right therapist can help you isolate what they are.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-10-27T19:13:31+00:00

The redpill and pua methods of trying to pick up women just plain suck . Look, I get these communities claim they have the one true method blah blah, but it simply does not work like that. Their methods come off weird and even sometimes desperate or offputting.

And I get the more modern marketing: they try to word this like they are the only way to try to pick up on women, they try to word this like other guys congratulate you rather than find you embarrassing to be around. And they try to encourage you to hang out with other people that drank the Kool Aid.

Anonymous_Whale2 · 2024-10-29T20:48:49+00:00

Hey! I’m also an ex redpiller who struggles with dating. Therapy is actually really helpful (I’m in it currently) because the reason why dates are hard is because people can just sense the “bad energy” so to speak. You might not believe me but go out in public during a good day vs a bad day and you’ll instantly notice a difference in the way people treat you. Best of luck out there!

RaccoonSweaty3741 · 2025-01-21T03:35:15+00:00

No fap, more work, hobbies and groups

Aggravating_Crab3818 · 2024-10-24T08:21:19+00:00

You don't NECESSARILY need therapy. You need to work on your mindset.

I hope that when I share links with people on YouTube that they will also go on their own journey of self-discovery by also watching suggested videos that appeal to THEM personally.

How to challenge your negative self-talk Josh Green | TEDxSurrey

https://youtu.be/JkB7hJan0Q0?si=AFzI-oFY0Ux9rhCu

Brutally Honest Advice for Young Men

https://youtu.be/y3M2vkyG3w0?si=KyAXw6GuCC94AQPw

40 Harsh Truths I Know at 40 but Wish I Knew at 20

https://youtu.be/lwmVAWXQyY4?si=o6BEuK9iWMCHtzkr

The Best Relationship Advice No One Tells You

https://youtu.be/nxQYKNqZB70?si=aLsKt1n9xbxrHq_j

https://markmanson.net/

DeanG30 · 2024-10-24T08:49:59+00:00

Therapy is going to be dependent on if you have trauma, and the trauma is causing you to disassociate or disconnect when you're interacting with women, if this is the case, there may be a deeper issue that needs to be worked on. A lot of people involved in the cold approaching scene, Think they are dealing with something called approach anxiety, however, a lot of the time this is not the case. Things like shyness, trauma and apathy, play a huge part in holding guys back, feel free to direct message me if you want to discuss this further. All the best

El-Myrone445 · 2024-10-24T00:40:04+00:00

Your wife is still in High school.

Don’t worry. She will become an adult and if it’s meant to be, she ll find you and never leave.

Title	Do you think I need therapy because I can't get a GF and I'm scared of the possibility of not finding one forever?
Author	HistoricalMuscle2
Upvotes	10
Comments	26
Date	October 23, 2024 7:29 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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