Should men show each other more platonic love?

rabel111 · 2024-10-28T23:31:35+00:00

Men always have had plutonic love for other men. Don't get sucked into this feminised view, that men's love of other men must be expressed in feminised ways.

Men's love for other men is what happens in sports, men's activities, men's places. These environments that have been attacked and desrtroyed by feminist harpies over the last several decades.

Our love for other men (plutonic) has been attacked by jealous women throughout history. This is why so many women isolate their male partners (their emotional property) from their friends and family.

Capable-Mushroom99 · 2024-10-29T00:13:42+00:00

Join a sports team, something where the whole objective is work together to succeed and the worst thing that can happen is you get some healthy exercise.

Whole-Ad-1147 · 2024-10-28T21:02:26+00:00

Yeah but we are too socially awkward to receive it

KlaSSicBud · 2024-10-28T21:50:32+00:00

Yes, men should feel free to express platonic love and emotional closeness with each other. However, society tends to label men as either strictly straight or gay, with little room for nuance in between. When two straight men share moments of affection or emotional intimacy, they are often seen as crossing boundaries, leading others to label these interactions as "gay" rather than simply platonic.

Though men ideally shouldn't feel pressured by these stereotypes, society’s expectations and norms around masculinity can be incredibly influential. It’s easy to suggest men ignore these pressures, but in reality, the weight of societal judgment is powerful and pervasive, often stifling men’s openness and vulnerability.

In short, the fear of being shunned or judged often overshadows the freedom men might otherwise feel to express platonic love openly.

Different-Product-91 · 2024-10-29T08:13:34+00:00

Definitely yes. We were raised to see a rival in each other male, to the advantage of women ("divide and conquer").

Mysterious-Rip2210 · 2024-10-28T21:20:49+00:00

Maybe, but it's not the cause of our issues with loneliness.

Also, no. It's not the cause of wanting relationship with women.

antifeminist3 · 2024-10-29T01:07:45+00:00

Men's spaces have been destroyed by feminists (men's clubs, gyms are now mixed, video games used to be only men, men only universities etc). In relationships, the increased control women exert over men often results in cutting off his friends.

These are aspects you have omitted.

Invictus_Lex · 2024-10-28T23:23:36+00:00

I always show the homies platonic love no gay ish involved but i let em know that they're good dudes and i tell em i hope the best things in life come their way, i make sure to do this whenever i get the chance but not extremely often because we dudes so we don't get super emotional like that but i definitely let the homies know they're worth being my bro and how much i appreciate them because it's good to let the people closest to you that you care about them.

throwburneraway2 · 2024-10-29T04:34:38+00:00

Nah probably not generally, I feel able friends should be more open with each other and mot weaponize each other's insecurities all the time tho. I've had friends who've lied about anything and everything after being so close to them I felt like I hardly knew them so idk

Lets_Remain_Logical · 2024-10-29T10:48:42+00:00

Yes! Open up to hugs! Break the indoctrination "if you cry, you are weak", "if you like being touched in your asshole, you are gay", "laughing too much is weak" etc.... The hardest here is how to do all this. I am experimenting a bit and I realize how it's complex.

Example: I am playing a video game. One player answers angrily to a legitimate question.

The normal reaction is to defy and have a penis vs penis fight for domination.

But.. For once I calmed my tome and asked him why is he upset, and that everything will be OK. He immediately, stopped considering me like the enemy and opened up!

Somehow, the only acceptable emotion we can show is anger. But anger is answered with anger and not emoathy :/

AbysmalDescent · 2024-10-28T22:32:17+00:00

Men already give each other plenty of support and platonic love. It's not actually a real problem or even a real solution. This argument is a major fallacy, usually meant to derail the issue of male loneliness or push the blame back on men. It is a position that is mostly rooted in misandry, not fact. The reality is that misandry and toxic romantic expectations from heterosexual women are still rampant, and the type of love, acceptance and support that men are seriously lacking right now could only really come from heterosexual women. Women have it easier because they are constantly being validated and valued by men, and positively affirmed by society. It's not a matter of "women are just better friends", which is just non-sense.

UWontHearMeAnyway · 2024-10-28T21:14:50+00:00

Men care more about respect than love.

Should we? Maybe. But, respect actions should take higher priority.

l3landgaunt · 2024-10-29T00:11:22+00:00

That’s why all my closest friends get hugs

dirtyphoenix54 · 2024-10-29T04:02:46+00:00

I happen to think male friendships are deep and strong. We have fewer of them than women, but the ones we do have are deep.

MannerNo7000 · 2024-10-29T06:59:05+00:00

Yes!

lukuh123 · 2024-10-28T21:00:18+00:00

Thank you for researching this topic. Keep up the good work. And to answer the question I’d say yes but for some men to some extent.

JealousRide5095 · 2024-10-29T04:48:36+00:00

Totally agree.

Knowing that, I’ve been trying to make a difference though.

Whenever I see a random guy in the streets, I try to be positive, maybe smile a little or say a nice thing.

I see how impactful those small gestures can be.

HollowHusk1 · 2024-10-28T23:32:44+00:00

Yes, I tell my friends I love them all the time

Greedy-Ambition6551 · 2024-10-28T22:07:43+00:00

Simple answer: Yes.

Will it happen? Somewhat perhaps, but not much.

We simply just do not know how to react to it, because of how society perceives it

shurpnakha · 2024-10-29T13:00:09+00:00

Why not? Me love irrespective of money, power and reputation.

It's the women who love after checking man's wallet.

No two women can be lifelong friends, accurate to 99%.

stomper4x4 · 2024-10-29T02:12:09+00:00

Yep, I agree

Local-Willingness784 · 2024-10-29T02:45:10+00:00

do you stop getting thirsty because you are full?

or do you stop getting hungry because you are no longer thirsty?

there is a conversation and issues about male loneliness, specifically about male platonic loneliness, but too many women and men who don't struggle with romantic relationships really like to tell or sometimes even order men, about what they should want, they should be getting friends instead of being so desperate, they should be with each other instead of "bothering" women with their issues (because god knows men cant complain about anything now, or only if they use therapy speak and/or blame themselves), and you just know that most of these people don't know what it means to be truly, completely sexually undesirable, and sometimes even if they do, they can virtue signal the fact that they are not like the other losers, or just pander and get some extra validation and punch down for the thrill of it.

HiramCoburn · 2024-10-29T00:43:07+00:00

I’m not sure I buy into the fact that it’s incels you are talking about, but rather what did Japanese call Hikikomori. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori

Commercial-Source568 · 2024-10-29T01:33:10+00:00

I think men already do that. So no, some people are just different and not comfortable with that.

For me personally a woman's love is what heals me. Boys in school were the main ones nice to me. from 5th grade and up. They were already platonic. Love from girls is the missing link.

joqa67 · 2024-10-29T16:52:39+00:00

Men express their love in different ways from sports, to cooking, working out and more and that’s when they could get real legitimate friends that we treat like family and even mock them in a friendly way or just have fun like children, we are simple people enjoy the simple things in life and want others to understand and respect us

Prestigious_Call_327 · 2024-10-29T18:33:29+00:00

Men should absolutely be giving each other more love and shouldn’t be afraid to show it. I will likely get downvoted, but toxic masculinity has historically made us frown upon men expressing their emotions, especially toward one another, but I think the more we build up each other the better off we will be as a gender!

ReapersWifey · 2024-10-30T04:09:49+00:00

Absolutely men should be able to have platonic relationships with other men that are emotionally satisfying. They should absolutely be able to express care, respect, love etc for another guy without being judged. It's distressing that for a lot of men their only meaningful outlet for their emotions is with their domestic partner. It would be like cutting off pieces of yourself trying to fit into someone else's mold.

Roamer56 · 2024-10-30T19:42:13+00:00

Men should feel free to have whatever consensual relationships they desire with each other, as adults of course. It has happened in past history and I see no reason why it couldn’t recur.

Mr_Neo-Anderson · 2024-10-29T00:44:54+00:00

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TaskComfortable6953 · 2024-10-29T04:28:55+00:00

yes but this doesn't apply to all men. some men are further along in their journey of manhood than others due to varying factors such as race, class, socioeconomic background, etc.

a lot needs to change in society for men to actually start showing more platonic love to each other. The honest answer is, society will need to be eradicated of homophobia and misandry for mean to form more fulfilling relationships with each other. This isn't happening anytime soon. Prolly like a century.

aBlackKing · 2024-10-29T01:45:35+00:00

Men already do so with their closest friends.

I would instead say that men aren’t alone and the loneliness epidemic is more so about female companionship.

Forums like the incel forum exist for lonely men to go to for a sense of community, laughs, and a place where they can express their frustrations and issues.

I’ve noticed that there are guys who need a reason to go out and do a job they don’t like. And for them it’s having a wife and kids. Why not just get with some lady? It’s not that simple. Long story short, a lot of women in the eyes of men who have taken the red pill aren’t marriage material.

Vlasic69 · 2024-10-29T01:42:37+00:00

I've seen quite a few guys that aren't brave enough to evoke their own emotions. I'm not one of em. I know words well enough and understand my emotions well enough to articulate them. Many have tried tamping me, It's just fuel for my passions. The people don't seem to realize that I enjoy solace unless proper conditions are met. Mainly, security and equality. Why would I jeopardize myself for no reason? Insanity is the only answer. I'm sane and haven't met a partner empathetic enough to care for recently and raising someone's emotional intelligence feels like waiting for them to be as mature as me. What's annoying is finding a woman with balance that doesn't wield discrimination so that she can have it both ways. So far Ukrainians and Russians seem the most empathetically inclined from my perspective of memories with people.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2024-10-28T21:04:32+00:00

Most definitely. One woman said maybe if men had more daily platonic touch, they wouldn't be so desperate for sex.

kuzism · 2024-10-29T09:36:51+00:00

No, men should compete with other men to be the best that they can be.

"Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times"

The-beat-man · 2024-10-29T02:55:08+00:00

incels usually spend all day on the internet they don't go outside

Title	Should men show each other more platonic love?
Author	JohnnyLeon
Upvotes	120
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Date	October 28, 2024 8:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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