Long story short, I’ve been severing the ex’s tendrils of control (forcing her to communicate through text only, following the decree to the letter, etc…) so she’s been acting out through her attorney-the latest was baselessly accusing me of endangering my daughter by allowing her to sit near the fireplace, which is properly screened and completely safe. I don’t have my kids for Thanksgiving this year so I’m just having a quiet morning until I go to my parents’ with my girlfriend and her kids.

My daughter calls me and tells me that there’s been a plumbing disaster at her great grandmother’s house (my ex’s grandmother) and the house is flooding. Apparently this happened very early this morning and the entire morning has been my ex and her BF on the phone with her parents screaming at each other about what to do. My ex’s father is in construction for gods sake…they’re all fucking incapable and all they know how to do is scream at and blame each other. I’m sure that my ex’s parents are both a gallon or two of mimosas in already this morning which is par for the course with them. My daughter actually asked me to help which I know she wouldn’t do on her own-my ex had to have put her up to it.

I feel terrible for my kids that this is their Thanksgiving but I’m glad they’re seeing my ex, her entire family and her BF in total chaos. My ex will tell anyone who will listen what a monster I was and that my family treated her terribly but situations like this bring out the truth. I tried to reassure my daughter as best I could and told her that it’s not her responsibility to fix an adult’s problem, nor is it mine. Her grandmother should be taking care of her own mother and the fact that she’s too dysfunctional to do so is not anyone else’s problem.