Reading some Reddit forums like this one, I get the impression that all women are Wonder Women. Men, on the other hand, don’t seem to have much to do—just a small effort supposedly secures them a great relationship. Having a job (even earning less than the woman), doing a bit of housework (even if not as much), and providing emotional support (while also receiving emotional support) aren’t just considered the absolute basics of being a decent partner, but are enough to make a man “husband of the year.”

I think this is true, if the man is also a celebrity, or billionaire. Not so much otherwise.

As a man, I can’t say this matches the reality I’ve experienced (male, middle aged, northern Europe). In my world, relationships feel much more like a two-way street, where both partners contribute significantly. While I absolutely agree that men should pull their weight and not see housework or emotional labor as "helping," I also don’t see men being widely celebrated for simply meeting these standards.If you are a famous actor or billionaire, then doing the basics (earning the bulk of the income, taking on at least half of housework, being the emotional support)..

I wonder slightly—and please forgive me here—if there is some ingrained misogyny at play. It almost feels as though the claim for equality and decent treatment (which is absolutely needed) requires excessive justification, as if women must be portrayed as superhuman just to demand fair treatment. Shouldn’t fairness and equality be self-evident without needing to prove women are doing more?