"Girls Girl" m

TheFeminineFrame · 2025-03-09T13:15:31+00:00

I always thought a “girls girl” was a woman/girl who enjoys girly things, enjoys the friendship of other women, and sincerely cares about their fellow women. In this regard I consider myself a girls girl.

Because I am a girls girl, I really try to look out for other women and to help them in their relationships and family life.

It isn’t girl’s against boys.

But maybe this is a generational thing. Perhaps the young ladies are using the term differently today.

Scared-Tea-8911 · 2025-03-09T13:01:22+00:00

Eh. I don’t really agree with your take here.

Many times “holding each other accountable and wanting what’s best for each other” is actually just a nice gloss on “women bullying other women”. If someone hasn’t asked you to hold them accountable for something, it’s not really your place (or a friend in generals place) to try imposing their beliefs on anyone.

Being a “girls girl” is more about offering friends unconditional support, with the understanding that their actions and values may not fully align with yours, or what you think they should do… At least from my experience seeing that phrase thrown around.

The opposite of a “girls girl” seems to be a “pick me”, aka a single woman so desperate for a relationship that she’ll railroad her friends and/or her true values/opinions for any man who looks her way. I’d much rather be a “girls girl” than that! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-03-09T14:44:30+00:00

I don't need another label. I don't understand the modern obsession with identifiers.

gabrielle100 · 2025-03-09T19:18:49+00:00

This term literally just means supporting other women and not being hateful to other women out of jealousy, envy etc. as that’s very common. Just overall positivity in the female community and understanding eachother. Literally nothing negative about this nor is it “feminist”. It’s just being kind instead of bitchy in essence lol.

Ill_Coffee_6821 · 2025-03-09T20:54:55+00:00

A girls girl isn’t about men at all. Making it about men vs women loses the plot.

A girls girl, for example, doesn’t flirt with a man you’re interested in. A girls girl doesn’t ditch her friends when she meets a guy. A girls girl genuinely gets enjoyment out of her female friendships and wants the best for her friends without being jealous or having conditional friendships.

This isn’t a fad. And it has nothing to do with rallying bad behavior. I’d expect friends who truly cared about me to look out for me best interests.

MrsBullFork_ciders · 2025-03-09T19:57:57+00:00

I have always just taken this to mean you won't use your femininity to stab another woman in the back. Not dating married men, not flirting with someone's boss in hopes you can under-cut them to take their job, telling a woman if her current partner directly tries to initiate a secret relationship, etc. I have never taken it to mean cheerleading others' mistakes.

biitchstix · 2025-03-10T05:49:55+00:00

i hate it tbh. i'm not a 'girls girl' and on the flip side i'm not 'one of the boys' (cringe) either. i'm loyal to my friends absolutely but i have no loyalty towards someone just because we share a gender.

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2025-03-09T14:55:03+00:00

I consider myself a girls girl, my understanding of what the term means (probably varies a lot based on your social group and social media exposure) is someone who is feminine and isn’t ashamed of it (not the type of girl who thinks she’s better than other girls because she prides herself on “being one of the boys” or not wearing makeup or not being girly) and who really enjoys loving and supporting their female friends (not someone who defaults to “women are drama” or “I get along better with men” etc.).

austenholic · 2025-03-09T14:54:23+00:00

Maybe it's a cultural thing? Where I'm from, it's used in situations where we uphold girl code and not put down women for our own benefit. We say it in our day to day lives too (not often tho)¹. I haven't seen people use it in a negative way although my social environment is quite different to others. A lot of my married friends and acquaintances use it haha. I do feel like in online spaces it's a bit overdone and inflated but that's the internet for you.

I guess if I think about it critically, the problem with the concept of "girls' girl" vs "pick-me" is that it creates a strict binary and women are demonised for falling in the grey area. These terms are incredibly subjective and individuals define them by their own arbitrary rules based on their personalities, experiences and cultural upbringing. So a woman's pick-me energy can be girls' girl energy to someone else. And then the internet is in shambles because nuance is not a thing that majority have. In turn, polarises the conversation further and it becomes counterintuitive and mean.

I won't deny that I don't use it (LOL I literally said it yesterday. I was like to my friend "I'm a girls' girl ofc I'm gonna go choose [this women-owned brand] over [other brand of equal quality]". But yeah I guess we use it like jargon and not seriously)

¹For context, I am fairly young too (at 22) so I might be coming from a completely different angle.

Flat_Scallion2542 · 2025-03-09T11:19:44+00:00

you’re very correct.and somehow you end up not being a “girls girl” when you’re not a yes man and don’t support things that can be harmful to women.then you’re a “pick me” so women feel this pressure to blindly support whatever dumb idea is mainstream

Twilight_Rose99 · 2025-03-12T16:20:33+00:00

It breaks my heart. The amount of times I’ve been called a pick me for saying a bold and controversial statement like “men are people and are deserving of respect” is far too much.

die_for_dior · 2025-03-13T17:05:05+00:00

It's totally fake.

I think they're only "girl's girls" when a man ISN'T involved.

Oddly enough, I see more true "girl's girl" behaviour from women who don't even consider themselves femists than from self-proclaimed femisists. Or even older feminists.

Radiant-Use-9447 · 2025-03-09T11:11:45+00:00

I'm not sure I get how you come to this conclusion about girl's girls. Can you elaborate? Maybe I have a different understanding of the term

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Full text: What do y'all think about this little "fad"? I feel like it's another feminist movement that is not about holding each other accountable and truly wanting what is best for each other... just rallying bad behavior

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Bidoofu_YT · 2025-03-11T19:07:39+00:00

To me a “Girls girl” is keeping an extra tampon in your purse, letting your friend borrow a sweater during a wardrobe malfunction, walking home with your coworkers in a pair/group, making sure your friend got home safe, and being a shoulder to cry and offering hard but helpful advice.

lady_marm · 2025-03-12T20:07:07+00:00

I think, like a lot of these terms and labels, "girl's girl" definitely has some value. To me, a girl's girl is just a woman who supports other women and is loyal to her girl friends and family. An example would be the kind of girl who'll lend you a tampon in the bathroom even if you're complete strangers or the girl who refuses to flirt with her friend's crush out of loyalty and consideration. These examples seem rather "obvious" and "common," but that's because I think a lot of women are girl's girls when it comes down to it. I think the term shouldn't ever be used in a "men vs women" context because it really has nothing to do with men. It's just used to identify women who are reliable and supportive. A woman being a girl's girl doesn't mean that she's automatically against men, she's just looking out for other women. Forcing it into that kind of narrative kind of undermines the whole thing IMO.

Title	"Girls Girl" m
Author	Darksnickerss
Upvotes	13
Comments	40
Date	March 9, 2025 11:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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