What apps was she using to talk to other people

judasholio · 2025-03-11T09:33:13+00:00

My ex-wife worked for the police department in Portage Michigan. She mentioned the use of the Signal app and burner phones (along with some other unsavory things). It provides off the record communication, and messages can be wiped out with no chance of recovery.

Bottom line is that if they want to be secretive and furtive, there really isn’t much you can do to discover.

First-Sail8421 · 2025-03-10T22:14:34+00:00

discovery in the lawsuit will allow you to get the other proof. I don’t think the gps will be quite enough- she could say something was wrong with her room so she stayed with another female on the trip etc. But you know what really happened and discovery will tease it out. Sorry, it sucks to see a woman cheating on you.

Reflog1791 · 2025-03-10T19:26:41+00:00

In my opinion you already have the smoking gun.

While I recall the need to know and can empathize with your question, in the long run nothing I learned passed “she cheated” mattered at all. And even the fact that she cheated changes nothing in the long run. Still have to deal with the problems divorce creates. Solving those challenges is where your focus needs to be to get an optimal settlement and move forward to a better life.

What DID help me was living a “life by design”. Watching kids while she’s on work trips in and out of hotel rooms is not any life to design. Make new dreams and goals.

Wade-Wilson-Lucky13 · 2025-03-10T17:57:31+00:00

As much as you think you want to know, you really don't. Some things, once seen or become known, can't be unseen and they will eat at you. So yourself a favor and do like others in here have suggested, get a lawyer and get away from her and the temptation to snoop. Besides, these days, there are so many possible apps to communicate, it's hard to know what she may or may not be using.

Feezyp · 2025-03-10T17:17:36+00:00

If her phone is connected to another apple device you can see her deleted text messages in some cases.

Hyperverbal777 · 2025-03-10T16:51:40+00:00

eHarmony in the Apple family shared apps is how I found out. Not being able to see any financials (don't trust any Excel files she shows you on the family budget) and shaming me into loans at the last minute while the sky is falling for 4 + months rent, water, power ... but the new Louis Vuitton heels and new wardrobes are in budget and necessary for video calls. 🔎 She wears those heels and outfits to church 🔍🧐 drops off the kids for church activities (she's supposed to be on premise) leaves ... runs errands ... 😉

InternetOffender · 2025-03-10T15:23:01+00:00

What the fuck are you all talking about snooping a phone? Infidelity in most states doesn't matter for anything. Divorce is divorce. You get caught snooping, legally or fuck with someone's phone..that matters and that will haunt you later in court and you gave her a silver bullet.

Do homework, get a good lawyer and serve her up. As many have said, you can get them to agree to really stupid terms if you move fast while they are in bang mode. They want to focus on the new feelings and will want you out. More room for you to save money for your kids and start your next chapter.

Also tracking gps is going to just melt your brain bro. Be a better you. Can't control other people. Don't torture yourself projecting scenarios in rooms you aren't in.

When she's out of town, use your hall pass on someone with bigger tits.

Remarkable-Photo-533 · 2025-03-10T13:27:20+00:00

Instagram is a big cheating app too.

Worried-Basket4457 · 2025-03-10T12:34:29+00:00

Check instagram archives. My ex used private stories with a guy as the preferred way of communication.

Bumblebee56990 · 2025-03-10T12:24:20+00:00

Before you do anything contact a divorce attorney and plan your exit with their advice.

StrongEffort7747 · 2025-03-10T12:17:35+00:00

Go to appstore>account>apps>Not on this iphone.Shows apps that were once installed but not there anymore. Check screen time.The total screen time will be higher than the list of every app screen-time. Check Battery percentage.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-03-10T10:49:21+00:00

Caught my wife cheating through text. She had assigned her AP a woman's name in the chat and she would delete the messages each night. She got complacent for a week and that's when I found it.

Best bet is to buy a voice activated recorder and put it in her car. By a GPS tracker and put it on the frame of the car as well.

HourWorking2839 · 2025-03-10T10:29:52+00:00

If whatsapp, there may be a section of "barred messages" but i don't know what the name for that feature would be in english.

You find it if you open the whatsapp screen but then drag down even if you think you are on top. It has a pass Code, usually, so be aware.

HourWorking2839 · 2025-03-10T10:12:47+00:00

Do you know anybody with a similar phone and bumper?

I know of people who got caught on accident because someone else just "happened" to take the wrong phone when they had to leave from a visit.

Might not be easy to pull off but maybe that is worth a shot.

Legitimate-Error-633 · 2025-03-10T08:04:16+00:00

Check her battery usage. It will show which apps are being used. Common apps for affairs are Signal and Telegram, as well as more common ones like Snapchat and WhatsApp but also things like Discord and just plain email.

Mine used Wickr Me before that got dismantled by Amazon because it was notoriously being used by criminals and pedophiles. Class act she was!

RudeMarketing6080 · 2025-03-10T07:30:53+00:00

Même si je suis pas pour espionner une personne, mais sache

il y a des applications qui masquent certaines applis, sms, notification ou photos sur les téléphones

Dull_Neighborhood827 · 2025-03-10T07:26:53+00:00

Does she have Snapchat or maybe if she has an Iphone check in recently deleted messages

Title	What apps was she using to talk to other people
Author	Legitimate_Drive_693
Upvotes	39
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Date	March 10, 2025 7:13 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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