Can you come off as innocent/feminine even if you have a more “manly” corporate role?

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2025-03-16T18:55:23+00:00

Attorney here. My boyfriend loves that I’m super hardworking and badass at work, but soft and sweet at home with him. If anything, my job makes me even more feminine at home because I have an outlet for the other side of my personality at work.

Above all, don’t give up your earning potential or make career sacrifices based on what you think some hypothetical future boyfriend/husband might think. Make your money, keep progressing in your career, and keep your dating life separate. There’s no reason to think having a project management job should make you un-feminine in your relationship.

Ill_Coffee_6821 · 2025-03-16T15:56:17+00:00

Yes, of course. The trick is leaving work at work. Many men will be attracted to the fact that you’re smart and driven but you need to leave the masculine energy and switch into the feminine energy. Let him lead in your relationship. Don’t project manage him. It’s ok to feel stressed about work as well, but don’t complain to him. If anything, ask him for advice if you need and let him help you with whatever situation you’re in. Or don’t talk to him about work at all. “Boss babe” is a mindset and a choice.

I work a very high powered and stressful job. I barely talk to my partner about work beyond the time I need to get things done or an anecdote every so often. I let him lead in the relationship.

Trick-Consequence-18 · 2025-03-16T16:24:55+00:00

Depending on your age, I might drop the ‘innocent’ aim and instead think of words like lady, elegant, classic/classy. These can dovetail well with the skills you’d want across both universes: organized, capable, thoughtful

Dionne005 · 2025-03-16T23:24:50+00:00

Feel that leading and directing is and can be feminine. Mothers lead, teachers lead. We need female leaders. I’ve been wanting to do project management for a while and has done a great job leading in my field but never got that chance to do project management. Maybe you’re looking into this too deep. Also I enjoy being feminine but I’ll never be lead by a man that is not my husband. I’d rather be the boss of everyone else.

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-03-17T09:51:21+00:00

Mother's and wives lead everyday. Rather than leading with aggression and authority they lead with kindness, respect and boundaries.

Jenneapolis · 2025-03-16T16:21:38+00:00

I don’t see PM as masculine honestly. Lots of women are PMs because many of the skills required women naturally thrive in - organization, communication. If you said sales, that’s more masculine to me.

theroyalmuse · 2025-03-18T06:43:37+00:00

As a fellow tech girl, PM isn’t masculine to me. I have a PM who’s super feminine and the sweetest. She leads with her expertise and brings a refreshingly calm feminine energy to our team. I’d say stop thinking of femininity as something external to yourself. As a woman, we all inherently have feminine energy and can showcase it in different ways uniquely. How boring would it be to have every woman act the same and have the same job / skills?

You can still embrace your role and responsibilities and bring a fresh perspective to your team using your strengths as a woman. Just BE, worrying about how others perceive you and trying to fix it puts you into a DO energy, which is masculine. Partially preaching to myself here b/c I struggle with that too lol.

Majestic_Scarcity540 · 2025-03-17T08:50:56+00:00

I work in a male dominated career, in a management role with men who work under me in my crew. At work I am an absolute savage because I have to be in order to get the job done and keep my crew in line.

I used to come home and complain to my husband constantly about X Y and Z from my work day. One day I realized that my husband never did the same thing to me, and he works an incrediblely harder and more dangerous job than I do.

I realized one day coming home that it must be really off putting to work all day in his position, just to come home and have to listen to all of my problems. He never once complained or said anything about it, but putting myself in his shoes made me want to change that.

I flipped a switch and now leave the problems at work, and if he asks how my day is I focus strictly on the positives. Successes I had at projects, funny things that happened that day, etc. Every now and then Ill mention something "negative" if its been a really hard day, but I try to keep it surface level as much as possible.

Its not that I dont want to bother him with my own life struggles, but I want to promote a healthy "Hey welcome home!" Atmosphere. Something positive in a world full of negative.

repofsnails · 2025-03-17T01:20:57+00:00

I'm so careful about this because I also worry I might get into the habit of project managing if I become too stressed. You can debo be relaxed it just has to be an active decision with how you do things, not what you do.

Dead_t33f · 2025-03-17T17:51:40+00:00

I like the comments about leaving it at home. My husband says I’m always allowed to vent, but I try to keep it short and to the point. And not rehashing things. I genuinely believe he doesn’t mind but there gets to a point where I’m sure it’s not interesting at all.

I make so many decisions at work so it’s nice to drop it at the door. The decisions I want to make are what to cook for the evening and what can I do to show him that I love and care for him.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-03-16T16:46:36+00:00

Of course. My youngest sister has a very senior role at a bank. She is often the most senior woman in management wherever she works – she’s frequently recruited by other banks because of her skill set.

So at work she is “Ms Zaitzev-Jones” - she built a business reputation before she got married, and as she stayed near our hometown, incorporating her maiden name works because our family name is pretty well known because of my father’s business.

At home, the business suit comes off, and the apron is put on and she’s “Mrs. Jones”, Steve’s wife and Sally and Joe’s mom. Simple as.

AutoModerator · 2025-03-16T15:34:50+00:00

Title: Can you come off as innocent/feminine even if you have a more “manly” corporate role?

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Full text: I have unintentionally broke into project management. Right now I am a junior position and more secretarial, but a lot of my job does feel more masculine (leading and directing). On the outside I am very girly and I have naturally girly hobbies like art sewing and I loveee baking. However I worry that my job could be off putting. I don't want to come off as a boss babe career woman when really I just want to be taken care of and want to be a feminine soft figure in a household some day. How do I breakout of this mindset? I make average $ and work remote and have good health insurance, I don't love how stressed my job has me but I need to pay the bills.

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ColeIsBae · 2025-03-18T03:41:00+00:00

I struggle with this exact thing soooo much. Thanks for opening up the convo! Looking forward to reading the responses.

LittleTomatillo1111 · 2025-03-18T09:38:42+00:00

I feel like leading and directing can be seen from a more feminine point of view, like similar to raising kids and taking care of a household with many people in. You need some feminine leadership skills for that. So when I need it for my job, I go into that mindset, like more of a mother/teacher than boss babe, and it has worked quite well so far.

Title	Can you come off as innocent/feminine even if you have a more “manly” corporate role?
Author	Conscious-Air-9823
Upvotes	17
Comments	32
Date	March 16, 2025 3:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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