Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/bar

FromGymToBoudoir · 2025-03-17T15:26:59+00:00

Here’s the thing with a lot of these club broads. You can try to link up again but they’re acting on how they’re feeling that night. The chick you meet one night can have an entirely different mindset the next day and not want to engage, they’re only loyal to their emotions and if they’re feeling you they’re night, they’re gonna act on it.

Which it’s why it’s best to sleep with them that night if you can, but not saying they won’t meet up again with you, it’s just that it’s a little bit more difficult.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-17T15:32:11+00:00

Bar numbers are just really flaky. It’s just part of the game. Even if you have great sets. I had one a couple weeks back spent 3/4cof my night with a girl. She was super into me. Even texted after. Next day nothing.

Ideally just text as soon as possible. Problem is the girl wakes up hungover and likely just forgets or regrets most of the night

StopTheTrickle · 2025-03-17T15:18:27+00:00

You're not supposed to message the girl you meet at the club the next day...

You're supposed to make her breakfast

ImperialMajestyX02 · 2025-03-17T15:41:23+00:00

Have this problem too. We just gotta close THAT NIGHT bro.

david-lee-roth- · 2025-03-17T17:01:08+00:00

They like the idea of getting the number. It’s just attention they seek. You’ll get one eventually. Or just close that night. At a bar/club the mystery method thing is your best bet. Remember, most of these chicks are shallow and not long term gf material anyways. Every time one doesn’t message you dodged a bullet

liftingnstuff · 2025-03-17T15:52:23+00:00

Bar/club numbers are always flakier than normal.

Possible your insta profile is poorly set up. Fix it or use phone #s.

Try to pull same night. Much less likely to get ghosted if you have sex with the girl, esp if it's good sex.

If you can't pull same night, soft close a date before getting the number/insta. "We should get a drink alone sometime"

Coming up with an inside joke while talking to a girl is great for spiking high levels of connection and emotion. If you do this, you can also call back to the inside joke with your text. This reminds her who you are vs any other numbers she gave out that weekend, spikes her emotional level back to your interaction, and makes her feel like you connected more.

Overall your text game might just be weak.

nexus3210 · 2025-03-17T15:52:40+00:00

If you find an answer to this let me know, been struggling with this too.

DaygameCode · 2025-03-17T16:23:01+00:00

That’s because in the vast majority of cases, women at night don’t really wanna see a guy they met there again. The mindset is what happens in the night satay in the night. They go out to have casual fun in that moment, not to look for a boyfriend or a future hookup buddy.

Sure there are sometimes exceptions, but I am speaking about the general norm that applies more often than not.

What you should do is to escalate as far as possible at night that means if you can go for a kiss go for a kiss, if you can take her home that night take her home and have sex. But if you go for instagrams sorry but more often than not, those women won’t really take you seriously. It was just a fun moment at night, but easily forgettable.

BeebowBaggins · 2025-03-17T16:43:49+00:00

Simple fix, brother. Become the man any woman can't forget and would be waiting anxiously for you to text her. Whatever that means to you. You'll never get ghosted again. Take 2 years. Disappear and become a superior man. Fix your mindset, discipline, your Physique, finances, style, and energy. The world will then become your oyster. Don't be a victim of your own inadequacies. Do the work.

gr00 · 2025-03-17T18:00:12+00:00

Don’t say youd like to hang out again - present her with a date/time/place to do something with you and see if she says yes. You want someone to hop aboard your ride — you’re young and will have lots of opportunities in the next few years so don’t sweat this

Kobe_curry24 · 2025-03-18T01:25:35+00:00

Club game is all about the night you have 1 night ,5 hours to perform and make reaction , and sometimes it’s just a numbers game ,sometimes it’s opportunity, but it’s always fun . You have decide if this is for you . if so , keep going at it ,if not then you might want to find another outlet to meet women

MisterMoogle03 · 2025-03-17T19:52:13+00:00

They were likely under the influence and did not wake up feeling the same.

At clubs, your best shot is sealing the deal that night.

Sandvicheater · 2025-03-17T20:34:17+00:00

They thought you were a good choice but they found somebody better later that night, happens all the time OP don't take ghosting up the ass like so many do and just move on.

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2025-03-17T22:39:15+00:00

Process orientation, my man. Forget about getting it right and just learn. If you're going to get contacts in nightgame, step out of the bar with the girl for some fresh air and do it then. Make it a mini-hang out. You can even location-hop a bit. We call it an instant date in day game. About the makeouts, unless you're practicing kissing specifically, I would skip on that. It actually KILLS the sexual tension. Girls take the most amount of validation for the least amount of effort; if she has a nice fulfilling makeout session with you in the bar, no need for her to risk sex with a stranger (possibly a terrible time, pregnancy and disease). The kissing will be good enough for her.

throwawayy77_ · 2025-03-18T00:22:14+00:00

I realised for bar/club girls it’s a same night type of thing. Gotta strike at that moment or it’s done

DanielFromCucked · 2025-03-18T01:22:52+00:00

You're supposed to take them home the same night bro stop trying to find a girlfriend at the club.

kingeli7777 · 2025-03-17T15:32:45+00:00

Be more flirty. If they are at a bar it’s for a reason

calminsince21 · 2025-03-17T20:06:44+00:00

Thats pretty normal. Tbh meeting women socially nowadays isnt much better than matching with them on dating apps in terms of the response/success rate, even when theyve shown interest in person. I’d say I get a response from about 1/4 women I meet socially, and dates with maybe 1/50. Really cute chick approached me at a party recently, we hit it off, and she gave me her number. When I texted her the next day she actually did text me back, but admitted that she was blackout drunk and didn’t even remember meeting me. It’s a crapshoot no matter how you go about meeting ppl nowadays

KumaFGC · 2025-03-18T08:30:45+00:00

They just want to be hoes for a single night. You did what you can, don’t beat yourself up over it.

marcoo24 · 2025-03-18T13:46:02+00:00

I have had a couple of gfs from nightclubs. One of them clearly told me it is a big shame to have a bf from a nightclub. This is the girls' mentality comparing to your mentality.

nordik1 · 2025-03-18T15:53:46+00:00

Night game is pretty much pull or die. You have to make something happen that night or there’s an extremely high chance they flake

Crazy_Venus_Crew · 2025-03-19T18:00:00+00:00

Do cycle timing, and text them exactly one month after you meet them.

Title	Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/bar
Author	Throwaway289297
Upvotes	60
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Date	March 17, 2025 3:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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