A lot of guys seem to have this notion that it's impossible to get laid from coffee dates or that they're a waste of time, but this couldn't be further from the truth. I've brought home countless girls from coffee dates and the process really isn't all that different to drinks dates.

Some common objections include:

"But coffee dates are too formal"

No they're not, they're as casual as it gets. Dinner is too formal and sets the wrong expectations on a first date. Drinks are a good alternative, but are limited to evenings whereas coffee dates open up the possibility of seeing girls in the afternoon too.

"They're too rushed"

No they're not, why are you rushing them? Don't be scheduling 30 minute coffee dates, treat it as any other date and give it time.

"They're too awkward"

The only reason they would be is because you're choosing to make them awkward. Go in with the intention of getting to know her just like you would on a drinks date and you're good to go.

"I can't escalate on a coffee date"

You actually don't need to escalate, at least not at the coffee shop. However, some physical escalation can be beneficial, specifically a princess hand hold halfway through the date and if that goes well, then your arm on her leg or around her shoulders. I've even kissed girls at coffee shops before, but again, none of that is necessary to bring her home.

"You need to be in a 'dark and sexy' setting to be able convince her to go home with you"

Uhh, no you don't. To convince a girl to come home with you, all you need is attraction and comfort. This means being a good conversationalist so her physical attraction to you extends into a mental one, and being laid-back, easygoing, and confident so that she feeds off your comfortable energy and feels comfortable herself.

Your energy is so important here. If you're nervous, it will make her nervous. Whereas if you're calm, cool, and collected, she will begin to feel the same. Basically, show her how she should feel. Don't try to force awkward touch, just be chill and let her feed off your vibe.

So how exactly do you bring girls home from coffee dates?

Well as stated above, focus on getting to know her over good conversation. Make sure to pick a cafe that is cozy (hint: couches are great for this), not a chain like Starbucks, and use the same principles as you would on any other type of date. Flirt, tease, ask follow up questions, etc.

Sit beside her or across from her, it doesn't matter. Just make sure you're exuding laid-back energy and she will feel comfortable around you.

About 45 mins to an hour in, test her interest level and reinforce yours with a princess hand hold. You can either find a way to relate it to something in the conversation such as giving reassurance or you can simply say "give me your hand" and then hold it.

And after about an hour and a half of rapport and comfort building, you should come up with an excuse to invite her over like meeting your pet, seeing your view, trying a unique food or drink item you have at home, or whatever else you can come up with.

Why 1.5 hours? Because that's the minimum amount of time I've found to be needed to build the attraction and comfort required for girls to go home with you.

The 2 in 1 cooking date strategy

Another good strategy (if you don't have evening plans) is to schedule your coffee dates around 4-6pm so that as you reach the 1.5 hour mark, it's naturally time to think about dinner which makes it easy to invite her over to yours to cook dinner together. I've also done this many times and it almost always leads to sex after.

The way to do it is once you reach the 1.5 hour mark, start asking her about their favourite foods. Have a convo about your favourite foods, then ask her if she likes spaghetti carbonara (or whatever other dish you feel like making, but spag carb is a great cooking date dish FYI).

They usually say yes, to which you then say "well I was actually planning on cooking that for dinner tonight. What do you say we pick up a bottle of wine and cook it together?"

If you did a good job building attraction + comfort and she's not the type of girl who never goes to a guys place on the first date, then she will say yes. Then you go to the supermarket together to pick up the ingredients and head back to yours.

CONCLUSION

Don't knock coffee dates until you've really given them a chance because they're a great way to get even more dating opportunities since you don't just limit yourself to evening dates. I've even had multiple instances of going on more than one date/bringing home more than one girl on the same day thanks to optimizing my coffee date process.