Where to look for a sex casual friend?

Shadow__Account · 2025-10-02T14:11:49+00:00

Click on one of those pop up ads.

Charge36 · 2025-10-02T14:10:58+00:00

Honestly I think it's harder to find a sex friend than a girlfriend.

Finding and attending erotic events is probably your best bet.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-10-02T14:31:15+00:00

Medical facilities and family court.

RandoRambo1 · 2025-10-02T15:27:02+00:00

Women who are married. I wouldn’t suggest this, but many women refuse to sleep with their husbands (“honeymoon phase” wore-off, loss of attraction, etc). These women love their husbands and genuinely want to be with/ see a future with him, but they don’t understand why there isn’t any romance or sexual spark between her and her husbands anymore. Women fulfill this need very often by using men who are coworkers, friends with benefits, ex boyfriends, or guys that her girlfriends introduce her to. This advice is completely “immoral”, unethical, and I would never do this myself, but this is where the majority of “casual sex” is taking place. Either this, or women who are slightly older and have been single for a long time, or who have given up on the idea of long term relationships and would rather just a friends with benefits dynamic whenever she’s ovulating, horny, bored, lonely, etc. You need to socialize at the minimum and opportunities will present themselves. again, I wouldn’t do this myself, but this advice is amoral. It is what it is. What you choose to do with it is on you.

Hungry-Forever4108 · 2025-10-02T14:14:59+00:00

Tinder

Cyrpticcasper93 · 2025-10-02T15:28:00+00:00

In my experience, casual sex is gonna be something that happens when you are out meeting people and y’all click or find each other attractive enough to hook up, either way you’re gonna have to build some sort of a relationship with whomever you’re trying to sleep with unless you’re drunk at a bar and it’s a one night stand. Even then you could still potentially turn it into casual sex. Regardless, you’re gonna have to go outside.

PlantainExpensive360 · 2025-10-02T16:08:53+00:00

From my experiences at 18

You need to be attractive as it is harder than finding a girlfriend. I'd suggest finding friends first and act as a guy with options that is comfortable with sex (like, you fucked a lot of girls and pleased them). Dont flex, they just need to know that in the corner of their minds. If they're attracted u'll clearly see that.

Also note that at 18 half of girls are virgin, the usual thing I've done was that when this subject comes up (don't bring it up lol it'll just come), the gyal tells "oh ive never done it" just ask how she'd like it to go and if she asks tell about yours.

At the end of the day its mostly about opportunities. Id suggest not trying to bring it up as you probably know that women despise men who are needy. Just try to make her wish on you secretly.

-XtCode- · 2025-10-02T14:58:26+00:00

Have u tried talking to women at a casual bar with dance music? Although girls your age are probably more difficult. You can try tinder if you have some very decent pictures. Aside from that, you can start becoming more social and meeting new people through common friends etc. thats all we do. Theres no magic formula. Just go out and go for it man

Efficient-Cable-873 · 2025-10-02T14:19:44+00:00

Outside. I've definitely seen a lot outside.

miyass_miyass · 2025-10-02T16:47:43+00:00

What does your social circle and daily life look like? I wouldn’t bother going to erotic events, at 18 you’re going to get the best mileage out of simple social circle stuff (uni, work, house parties, friends of friends), especially since your only goal is to get one fwb.

NoAcanthocephala4827 · 2025-10-02T20:37:47+00:00

If ur decent looking, then Fat girls or ugly girls are ur best bet for easy sex buddies

Lost_Essay_1023 · 2025-10-02T17:30:20+00:00

... it's not so much.. Where to look. As much as it is.. Stop being creepy and cringe and juvenile.. That's literally the stuff women hate.

Or.. get em good and liquor up Its.. that easy "mate".

spraey_cheez · 2025-10-02T18:07:16+00:00

If you’re looking for erotic events try Plura, fetlife, and also google some local sex clubs to you.

Plura is a sex event posting app, it also has a friends aspect that works similar-ish to tinder.

Fetlife is more like a bdsm/swingers social media. Create an account, join some groups, look up local events on the events page.

Sex clubs are great, but single guys often can’t get in, it’s more expensive for them, or they are mostly ignored while in the club.

But honestly for finding a casual sex friend aside from kink and eroticism, just letting it happen naturally and eventually is a thing. I find that if you’re just honest about what you want it helps. Obviously don’t go telling your female friends you want a casual sex friend, but if the conversation goes that way don’t shy away, just state what you’re hoping for with no expectations it has to.

Also as others have said it is harder to get a casual sex friend than a girlfriend. Good luck, hope this helps.

freementia · 2025-10-03T02:37:14+00:00

Fetlife but be warned, it's a kink community not a promiscuity community. Plenty of people there looking for play partners. That's where I found mine.

Go to BDSMtest.org and take the quiz so you'll have a starting point of knowing your kinks. Then build your profile and start going to "Munches" and meeting people.

Zenis · 2025-10-04T18:50:05+00:00

Want the actual fuckboi answer?

Act like you’re looking for a girlfriend, then stop courtship before it becomes a relationship and just keep hanging out. Helps to do this with multiple people at once, and chain them so you’re starting one while another is starting to get sick of your shit.

Not suggesting, but that’s the playbook.

Gem-Vault · 2025-10-02T14:21:13+00:00

Try feeder App.

eyesopen1111 · 2025-10-03T07:12:51+00:00

This is such a good question. I’ve gone to bondage clubs and a sex party or two, but I’m not that into the scene, so I wouldn’t recommend that as your first option.

I’d recommend local speed dating companies that set up IRL meet-ups with insane ratios (three girls for every guy), and there are always girls there who are looking to start something. This will also give you practice observing women in their various moods, so you’ll be able to read them better and select DTF females wherever you happen to be.

The girls at cocktail-style meet-ups are thirsty as fuck. (forgive the pun)

Outside_Bowler8148 · 2025-10-02T17:01:56+00:00

Hello. Welcome to the game! This question is the origin of not only the pickup community but the motivation most men have to do most things.

stealthyvendetta · 2025-10-02T18:19:25+00:00

Download the RedHotPie app.

InternationalPlum11 · 2025-10-02T19:06:38+00:00

Found mine at the club 🤪

HST2345 · 2025-10-03T03:34:51+00:00

You're 18. It's common to have these urges. Okay slow down boy!! How many you can check it ..of the following?

Do you have your own place? This is important for logistics.
As you're from Australia , which city you're from? If Syd or Melb or Brisbane, you'll easily find hook ups using online dating apps as international students also looking for someone to do hobby or meeting people.. once you vibe each other, the s3x happens naturally...
CBD pubs and bars..again logistics important

Title	Where to look for a sex casual friend?
Author	swahpumpkin
Upvotes	93
Comments	44
Date	October 2, 2025 1:57 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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