second date inviting straight over?

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-10-27T20:15:08+00:00

I would definitely advise you to go on a regular date first. One because it's a more solid game plan, and two because she is a coworker, you need to test the waters . Good luck 🤞

pepotero · 2025-10-28T00:42:08+00:00

You don’t want to frame the second date as “come to my place and let’s drink/watch a movie” because that’s basically you announcing the end goal up front. That puts a lot of sexual pressure on her before she’s even there and most girls (especially a coworker, where reputation matters) don’t want to feel like they just agreed to be the “I’m going to his apartment to hook up” girl. Even if she likes you, that frame can make her auto-defend and say no just to not feel easy. Instead, you set it up so logistics naturally favor going back to yours without making it this big decision. You should meet somewhere with a good vibe, ideally a lounge / wine bar / speakeasy you that you HAVE to have to “show her,” this place…and that just happens to be close to your place. You escalate there like you already did (touch, makeouts), and if the vibe is on, you say something low-pressure and specific like, “I’ve got this bottle I’ve been saving / you haven’t seen my setup / my dog is ridiculous, come say hi for 10 minutes.” That sounds casual and normal, not “sex now?” but you both know what it is.

Main point: you want her to feel like she chose to come over because she likes you and she’s curious, not like you tried to shortcut the date and skip straight to her on your couch. Also remember: she’s a coworker. That means if you push too overtly and she gets uncomfortable, that awkwardness follows you to work.

Ant010101 · 2025-10-27T22:01:29+00:00

Maybe BUT what I do is invite her out somewhere within a short walking distance of your place. That is my local neighborhood dive bar that I go to. Obviously better if it’s a bar - but it works every time.

_The1DevinChance · 2025-10-27T23:09:37+00:00

Pick up where you left off on the first date and invite her straight over in a chill way especially if the vibes were there.

2nd dates are mainly at my place or theirs. In the 1st we usually up enough comfort with each other that by the end of it or 2nd alone time is inevitable.

Feisty-Nerve-2800 · 2025-10-27T16:56:28+00:00

Yes.

Tatleman68 · 2025-10-27T23:04:24+00:00

Regardless, you want to end up at the same destination which is your place. I don't know the vibe between you two; maybe you want to invite her straight to your place at the 3rd date

Otherwise_Scar_4831 · 2025-10-28T12:29:24+00:00

It depends on the vibe, but I do dates at my house on the second date. I say bring her to your place. You’re coworkers so you have a ton of comfort and familiarity already. I always phrase it “cuddle and watch a movie”. I’ll send them the address of my place. And if there is any hesitation on her end then you can always just do something else.

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-10-28T12:51:29+00:00

Lots of bad advice here. Cooking together at your place should ALWAYS be the play for the second date. Hell, I sometimes even do it for the first date if I find the right girl.

Just frame it like this:

"do you like pasta?"

"yes"

"ok because I was actually planning on cooking my favourite pasta recipe, spaghetti carbonara, tomorrow. It always turns out amazing. Why don't we cook it together while we share a bottle of wine?"

Boom. Done. Easy.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-10-28T14:49:48+00:00

If you see her regularly and don't have to wait weeks in between dates, just go with the regular date and try to escalate again to see if she comes back with you.

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-10-28T14:57:46+00:00

A bit too fast. Take her some place close to your home. If things go well, then invite her over

zubindaddy9969 · 2025-10-29T04:03:26+00:00

Invite to your place if your first date went well and you guys are comfortable with eachother.

Mountain-Link4598 · 2025-10-29T07:37:54+00:00

If the kiss was more passionate making out inviting over usually works, if it was just a peck maybe wait for 3rd date.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-27T19:00:06+00:00

Is your goal to be her boyfriend? If so, you could be setting the wrong intentions that early. You do you. I would spend more time courting but that's me. I've already been through multiple LTR including a marriage and so I greatly prefer to take it slow.

autodidacticasaurus · 2025-10-27T18:59:32+00:00

Why not? That's usually what I do on a first date.

Title	second date inviting straight over?
Author	anassoo44
Upvotes	18
Comments	20
Date	October 27, 2025 4:48 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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