I'm discouraged by how many in the community are so comfortable cheating, though I understand the temptation. Not here to judge, but it makes it harder for me to figure out what I should or shouldn't work into my process of improving.

On principle, I'm against it. Using time, money, and energy on hurting the mother of my beautiful children, and potentially bringing disease home for her... not appealing.

I do understand the importance of flirting/getting used to female attention. Part of me feels like my wife might actually get a rush if I came home and told her I'd just slept with a hottie on the way home. Though I won't be doing that.

Those of you like me, who refuse on principle, what resources or posts helped you get yourself in the right direction in your early phase?

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A note about me. Discovered MRP about a month ago, instantly picked up Athol Kay's MMSLP and NMMNG. Amazing books. A release of life/sexual energy began flowing through me. I stopped wanting to use porn, etc.

Then when my body/life/wife didn't catch up as quickly as my new thinking, I've entered an angry phase. Making lots of mistakes, but my wife is tolerating me wonderfully as she has during my many beta years, dear lord.

But I feel like this sub and these 2 books have already altered the course of my life in irreversible ways, for the better!