Do you approach every random attractive woman you see? Why or why not?

Jmibbk77 · 2025-12-22T16:23:43+00:00

I don’t when it’s about just any girl that looks physically attractive. I only do it if the girl is 100% my exact type. Interestingly enough my success rate is way higher like that too, I get the number 9/10 times

norwegiandoggo · 2025-12-22T16:36:16+00:00

Every beautiful woman? That seems crazy to me. Unless there are very few beautiful women where you live.

If I did that, I would have to approach 200+ women a day. That's just insane + exhausting. But if you live in a place with very few beautiful women - or it's a tiny village or something. Then yeah I could see it.

I try to go for quality over quantity with my approaches.

Othrtt20 · 2025-12-22T21:02:15+00:00

No definately not. I wait for a girl to give me signs and then approach. Works every time

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-12-23T00:04:02+00:00

No, I need choosing signals before approaching. Plus I only can take so many shots a day.

JackSquirts · 2025-12-22T17:01:47+00:00

If she's in my perceived age range, not wearing a ring, looks at least somewhat approachable, and Im in a good mood/not too busy - sure. Imnot just out there hitting on everything 24/7 though.

magicfingers73 · 2025-12-22T21:41:34+00:00

Not just physically attractive, people who just seem fun or even just nice

FluffyCottonSwirl · 2025-12-22T17:17:12+00:00

It's about confidence, but respect their boundaries and personal space.

I_AM_ZOIDBERG · 2025-12-23T03:05:05+00:00

I learned a great trick recently: It works better at the store than the bar and it costs a lot less!

All you have to do is talk to her about some products, don't tell her any compliments or anything until the end maybe, if she talks for a few minutes ask for her number at the end, if she's not interested she'll just flee or not talk much...

Yesterday I got a number like this and today I tried a girl, then her boyfriend came, but there was no trouble, because all I was doing was talking about the wine prices in the store, nothing sexual, eventough it was my intention hahaa

First_Inspection_478 · 2025-12-22T18:56:26+00:00

naw not all, gotta be more tactical. just like us, women hate it when you are too accessible, also just fucks up your rep.

Different_Stand_5558 · 2025-12-22T18:01:46+00:00

Tacky blinged out cellphone covers and they are not young? Try those.

Euphoric-Entrance528 · 2025-12-22T19:18:27+00:00

No😭😭 i rarely approach which i gotta change (do the dumb “wait for signal” thing)

TheGame81677 · 2025-12-23T01:24:57+00:00

No, mainly because there’s not enough time to do that lol. Plus, I’m really nervous doing cold approaches.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-12-22T18:58:47+00:00

Definitely not. In recent years I've focused more on social game and thus women from shared interest groups, mutual friends, etc. Many happen to also be attractive and that's a plus but it's not everything.

LeekTraditional · 2025-12-23T02:41:03+00:00

Great question! As someone who grew up during the rise of the PUA community... I used to go quite directly without much hesitation. It's a bit different now... I wait a bit, watch a bit and try to make it flow a bit more than just going directly.

The result is often better... it seems like "it just happened."

It's funny how it works actually... An example is seeing a really attractive tall, blond on the beach. We both ended up leaving the beach at the same time and it so happened our bikes were parked close and previously I overheard her speaking and thought she had a french accent... she is dutch.

We had a great conversation about breath work, travel etc. She gave me her number. I met up with her a couple days after at the same beach and we chatted again... she's 26 I'm 40... so... unlikely anything will happen but that's ok...

Sometimes hot girls have a guy... it's often better just to wait a bit before going straight in... but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Good luck

ScientificArtichoke · 2025-12-22T19:18:26+00:00

When i was learning cold approach yes. I was like a machine gun, many shots and many misses.

Now i approach when i really want to, but the hit rate is veryy high, like almost always get the number close.

Lola_a_l-eau · 2025-12-22T22:32:10+00:00

Not every, but just women who I would date.. I don't like them all

Sweet_Chocolateman · 2025-12-22T23:14:27+00:00

Literally zero of them lol

TuneSoft7119 · 2025-12-23T02:28:37+00:00

no because every slightly attractive woman I see is wearing a wedding ring

AssistTemporary8422 · 2025-12-23T05:49:37+00:00

Have you actually been successful doing this?

AbsolemSaysWhat · 2025-12-23T06:45:32+00:00

What're you 12?

Matter_Still · 2025-12-23T07:45:16+00:00

No. Never did. Context is everything. Seeing a woman who appears hurried is not beneficial in the long run, nor is one with a ring on her finger, or a woman who makes fleeting eye contact with you, as if she is looking through you.

Furthermore, all presumed “signs of interest” are not “indicators of interest”

Professional gamblers, pick their spots. They don’t buy into every card game, bet on every race, or on every NFL game.

They have a lot to teach so called “pickup artists”.

Left_Emphasis_5574 · 2025-12-23T07:49:50+00:00

RalfMurphy · 2025-12-23T07:54:27+00:00

Not. Coz beautiful things don't require your attention to exist

AdorableLecture_420 · 2025-12-23T18:13:25+00:00

Yah 100%. Like you said dating is a numbers game.
Lebron James is the highest scorer in the NBA because, he took the most shocks, and each approach good or bad always makes the next one even easier.

Yedya · 2025-12-28T11:53:29+00:00

Yep, the more I do it, the more attractive the faster I do it

chriscrowder · 2025-12-23T01:40:09+00:00

I'm married now.

AlastairXXL · 2025-12-22T17:36:19+00:00

Too aggressive you might get a bad rep which would do more harm than good. U just approach whichever girl is wearing the least

tattooedpanhead · 2025-12-22T19:19:33+00:00

no. first I'm married. even if I was single I wouldent approach. I have them approaching me so no need.

Title	Do you approach every random attractive woman you see? Why or why not?
Author	CollegeCasual
Upvotes	60
Comments	59
Date	December 22, 2025 4:13 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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