Note

  1. This post is a counterbalance to another one with similar title.
  2. This post is about age relationships in which the man is a few years older than the woman.
  3. This post does NOT encourage age gaps of any kind, and they believe that the smaller the age gap the better.
  4. In any case, the author of this post believes that all adults who can consents are free to choose a partner of ANY age, and using shaming tactics is a very immature way to make a point, and often shame is just an attempt from powerless people to control others' valid choices and decisions.

Age gap relationships are more often an advantage to women, even more so they are for the elder men:

  1. Older men are more likely to be established, have wealth and stable job, which women seek in partners. There is a natural mutual desire between older men and younger women. Women often prefer to date older men, and men also mature later in life. Men also prefer to date younger women. Younger men are on price discovery mode, so they may not be as ready for relationships or may be too desperate for them, except for a few exceptions.
  2. In the worst case scenario, many older men and young women don't mind transactional hedonist relationships. An extreme example is a young lady marrying an 90 years old billionaire. He gets the pleasure, she gets the money.
  3. Women have way more options when they date older men, than men having younger women as options ever. This is a huge privilege women have, that they can find options regardless of age.
  4. Older men, and men in general, usually live a few years than women on average. This means women are more likely to inherit wealth or assets when the older man dies. This makes age gap relationships strangely empowering for women.
  5. Families are more accepting of age gaps where the man is older than when the woman is older, as long as the gap is not too wide.
  6. Marriage is not that serious anymore anyway. If women were "trapped" in marriage in the West as they were 80 years ago, or as if they are in other non-western countries, then criticism age gap relationships may make more sense. Instead we encourage young people to have sex young but somehow draw the line on an arbitrary institution like marriage which Western people don't take seriously anymore anyway (unless they have some culture or faith that values it deeply). Yes, age gap relationships may have slightly higher divorce rates, but is that a bad thing? It means that if someone is not happy they can just... leave.