Men are only loved transactionally if they choose to entertain it

Combatenjoyer23 · 2026-05-29T04:26:33+00:00

If the woman you're dating shows clear signs that she has a very "transactional" personality, then break it off. It's literally better to be single than to be with a transactional woman because that entitlement bleeds into every other aspect of her personality. Don't allow yourself to be victimized

harmonica2 · 2026-05-29T04:23:48+00:00

I am in a good relationship now but I felt in the past I was only good for short term experiences for women, but thought I was branded that way by them, rather than wanting that intentionally.

RelevantJackWhite · 2026-05-29T04:43:29+00:00

this is 100% on the money and I think it's the biggest thing that drives AWALT fallacies

pick up new pickup strategies that do not appeal to most women, but works for specific types of women
congrats, you made a natural filter. failing any success here, watch online models literally transact their sex appeal online and normalize it
these women have similar traits when it comes to relationships
AWALT since you see it among all the women you know

transactional relationships are a great example of this. You wanna peacock, act like a rich guy, and gloat about wealth? Well, if you do things that are transactional to pick up women, you can't act so shocked to find out that the women you attract are transactional.

TLDR if you don't want a sugar baby, don't do things only sugar babies like

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2026-05-29T11:58:16+00:00

I think they want it. They use money to impress women. So they actively do everything to have a transactional relationship.

FunnyCry5856 · 2026-05-29T16:44:58+00:00

If you aren't greatly attractive, majority of women do not want to be a part of your struggle as an average man you must offer something of value so that an average woman might consider you worth her while. This could be you being stable provider. The amount of women who will be with a man who struggles, earns less or is not masculine are pretty rare and if they do exist the guy has to be greatly handsome.

captaindestucto · 2026-05-31T02:57:00+00:00

Unless the majority of women prioritize that. Then the only choice is conform or remain single forever. It's like telling a morbidly obese person to "just find someone who appreciates you for you" when we all know that drastically cuts down their options to the point where they have no desirable options.

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-05-29T04:38:27+00:00

I agree. Most men who say relationships are transactional probably secretly like the idea because it’s predictable. A prostitute/golddigger will always be there so long as you got the cash. A real relationship with a woman is less predictable and the unknown is scary.

However I don’t entirely blame them because with the rise of only fans and social media, you’d be forgiven thinking most women are transactional because they kinda are. This means that women who aren’t superficial don’t get attention and men never see it so they choose to accept this degeneracy. It’s a vicious cycle and prisoners dilemma.

I can stop supporting it. But I can’t stop the only fan thots or simp armies. The same way billion dollar corporations aren’t affected if one person doesn’t buy from them.

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Thethinker_0 · 2026-05-29T14:47:45+00:00

Well A man need to provide for sure , but pigeonholing men for only what they provide by women is unhealthy , the problem of modern day societies is the 5% of men appear to look like 80% of men , that affected not just women but also men , a man need to provide not make u rich

Ego-Waffle0824 · 2026-05-30T00:44:03+00:00

You mention someone who appreciates you as a person. I have a question. Would you do the same for a woman who you personally didn’t find attractive? In other words, would you go for a woman just because of her character and who she is as a person instead of what she looks like?

AlarmingToe8503 · 2026-06-03T01:09:54+00:00

you’ll have to find someone who appreciates you for who you are as a person.

This is no more realistic than saying "Go out there and find yourself a manic pixie dream girl!"

Like, I'm sure a minority of women genuinely are attracted to men as people, but I'm competing with every other guy for their affections. In terms of advice it's just so much more realistic to shoot for the center of mass and go after shallow materialistic women, especially when it comes to online dating, where showing your personality is basically impossible.

NockerJoe · 2026-06-04T06:13:26+00:00

I mean sure, that works if you take the premise that there's a large amount of women who are looking for long term relationships with men that don't care what they have or how much they make, that are actively looking for those relationships. This very much does not seem to be the case going by any relevant statistics though.

GyrosEnjoyer · 2026-05-29T04:39:17+00:00

Why should I be obligated to be with a woman who only cares who I am as a person?

abaxeron · 2026-05-29T08:51:35+00:00

AUAT. All Unicorns Are Taken.

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2021/10/05/rising-share-of-u-s-adults-are-living-without-a-spouse-or-partner/pst_10-05-21_unpartnered_adults-0-3-png/

Robhand01 · 2026-05-29T22:33:11+00:00

One of the few sane post i read in the last 4 days

polecat9669 · 2026-05-29T11:03:24+00:00

Social media has made them all transactional - they sexualize themselves to compete with each other for the biggest prizes.

gtbreddit1 · 2026-05-29T04:49:14+00:00

This is like saying a woman is only raped at gunpoint if she doesn't pull the trigger herself.

Title	Men are only loved transactionally if they choose to entertain it
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Date	May 29, 2026 4:20 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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