How do you handle your friends?

unReasonable_Waiter · 2026-07-28T22:26:26+00:00

Go out on your own.

Guys like that are incapable of reconfiguring their behavior.

Accept the friendship for what it is, and accept your friend for who he is.

But dont expect him to change.

bmguitar · 2026-07-28T22:46:35+00:00

Not a true friend

Ryankujoestar · 2026-07-28T22:57:29+00:00

That's not a good friend, if you can even call it that. Have some respect for yourself, leave him alone and go out on your own or with people that are actually rooting for your success.

Dear-Seesaw-1932 · 2026-07-28T22:31:51+00:00

Don't go with him. He sees you as competition and will do his best to take you down. Find somebody else or go alone.

shinbreaker · 2026-07-29T01:03:12+00:00

He might be a friend but he's not your bro. Bros make sure everyone is eating. If he's making it harder for you to satisfy his ego, then he's not a bro.

improvemental · 2026-07-28T22:25:29+00:00

Perosnally I would advise you to make a new friend, people like that rarely change. Find someone with a more similar personality as you.

SluttyPotato1 · 2026-07-29T02:20:32+00:00

higher social status

What the fuck is this cringe level chat

lordmoldybutt42 · 2026-07-29T16:22:49+00:00

You stop being friends with him. At least that’s what I did. He turned the whole group against me but I’ll do it again, no questions asked.

A friend shouldn’t disrespect you in any capacity imo.

tajbinjohn · 2026-07-28T22:01:18+00:00

You gotta have a candid convo about it. The older you get friends and wings are harder to come by so I recommend you just tell him straight up that it can be annoying when he does that

Special_Rice9539 · 2026-07-28T22:45:03+00:00

Gotta have very strict boundaries with male friends. Not worth going out with dudes who clown you

controldevilserena · 2026-07-29T05:32:58+00:00

Well in this specific scenario you’ll just have to go out and do your own thing tbh cause friends like that would do more harm than good

charlizard1000xy · 2026-07-28T22:25:13+00:00

Do you think its deliberate?

Discopotatoz · 2026-07-29T02:23:35+00:00

Don't pickup girls with him. Most wings make great friends, very few friends make good wings.

brandontc · 2026-07-29T13:06:12+00:00

Idk man, I don't really make friends with people whom actively dislike me

pureextc · 2026-07-29T02:51:20+00:00

Yea time to duo with a female wing, nothing is gonna beat a wingwoman who is gorgeous and let your friendship with your buddy be just that, go play call of duty together and go find a lady with a lady.

random_question4123 · 2026-07-29T03:31:53+00:00

tbh he's not a good friend but at the same time, its every man for himself. When you open a group with your friend, look out for the girl that's showing the most interest in you, not just the one that you're most interested in.

In your last example with the girl you already kissed, you should have told him from the jump that she's yours. You already have some type of claim on her with the kiss, so it's not exactly fair game. Did you tell him?

But I have 'friends' like that that are so self-absorbed and want to make everything about them, and sometimes are willing to sabotage their friends because they feel they deserve it all. I don't consider them a good friend - a good friend is someone that is just as willing and eager to make you look good as well as himself.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-07-29T07:37:51+00:00

I used to have guys do this but I was on a level playing field for looks and skill. It’s still annoying though and used to bother me. I looked at it with a positive mindset but I don’t think it’s nice to do to anyone and your friend is not being a good friend.

Benerlak · 2026-07-29T12:51:57+00:00

I have a friend like that, but he most certainly doesn't have higher social status. I thought so, because he can be highly sexual and women seem to enjoy it, but that was at the first glance. Several of the women told me he is a clown and while it's nice to have their back or head scratched, he thinks he is moving somewhere, but they stop giving a fuck about him the moment they leave, so essentialy what he's doing is pointless, some kind of flirtatious masturbation or I don't know what to call it.

He's often socially clueless, he finishes your jokes or tell your jokes as his own, interrupts you, don't listen while he loves to dump heavy fantasy lore on you. Like he has a good heart, but you need to have the right mood for him.

What really pissed me off tho was this girl I liked and whenever I tried to say something to her, he started speaking to her too, but louder. This happened three times. It was on a birthday party of our mutual acquiantance, but I stood up, paid my tab and left without a word. I don't care to play police on a basic social manners or bro code. If he want's to act like an asshole, let them deal with it.

Another time we were having a smoke break outside of a pub and he said there is a girl she likes. I looked and there were two, one he fancied and one I found cute. I introduced ourselves, joked around, invited them to our table and he was talking to his girl I was talking to mine. I had a nice convo going, but he must have fucked up somehow, because they got quiet and a moment later that friend is talking loudly again, bringing all attention to himself.

It is what it is, but in the end being clueless of the social rules don't make them dissappear. He didn't get either of women in question and he made me question why do I even hang out with him.

plz_callme_swarley · 2026-07-28T22:56:26+00:00

ya, sounds like this dude is a bit of a clown coming in hot and blowing up the spot for everyone. he's obviously not an asset

Not_RZA_ · 2026-07-28T21:56:39+00:00

You sound insecure

Title	How do you handle your friends?
Author	testaccountgr
Upvotes	30
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Date	July 28, 2026 9:51 PM UTC (1 day ago)
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