This truly belongs in OYS - but will put here as a warning to other guys.

Recently got into a couple of plates. One broke. No biggie.

Second one was over to suck my dick after work almost daily for a couple of months. Younger. Good looking. Eager to please. Also a sub so that worked for my tendencies.

Then her BF found out. Now she is withdrawing for a bit to "figure things out"

Here is where my own mental space surprised me. I totally was not prepared to feel any negative emotions about this. But in my own head I had started to build a future relationship with this girl. I thought these were just things I was saying. Not true. I was developing feelings.

The thing that I found interesting - almost as soon as I gave a fuck - I let my own guard down. I knew she was in a 3 year LTR. I knew they were having some sort of issues. So in my own head I figured she would easily pick the more dominant physically fit guy. Me.

The fact is - this put her in a postiton to choose. In my mind I mean. This is a dangerous position to put your mind in.

The lesson here for other guys is simple - be able to walk away. I don't mean physically. That's the easy part. Be able to walk away emotionally.

Don't be surprised if you catch yourself caring for a plate and act accordingly