There are 3 words that should never be said. Especially when preceded by "I". Its talked about a lot on here, but I'm going dissect them a little deeper. They are just, think and feel.
Very simple words that we have been programed to use for our entire lives. The problem with them being, that they are some of the most indirectly indecisive words one can use. As men who are trying to not only be confident and masculine, but ensure we are portraying ourselves in a definitive manner, this is unacceptable.
JUST
acting or being in conformity with what is morally upright or good
This is a righteous affirmation which is used as a means of justification. A sense of entitlement needed by an individual to have their own convictions. There is no need to have your actions validated. Even to yourself.
- "I just didn't do the dishes"
- "I didn't do the dishes"
Or
- "I am just going out tonight"
- "I am going out tonight"
Notice the difference? One is seeking a form of approval and the other is simply a statement.
THINK
to have a certain thing as the subject of one's thoughts
That "thing" that is the subject of one's thoughts is approval. There is no way for a statement to be assertive when your seeking validation for that of which your pursuing.
- "I think I am going to have a beer with my dinner"
- "I am going to have a beer with my dinner"
Or
- "After the kids are in bed, I think I'm going to go out"
- "After the kids are in bed, I'm going to go out"
Notice the difference? One is an indirect question and the other is simply a statement.
FEEL
a sensation of something felt; a vague mental impression or feeling
That sensation is your brains way to justify emotional weakness. It's a coping mechanism for an inability to accept the truth. That's why females are so apt to use them.
- "I feel your not invested when we have sex"
- "Your not invested when we fuck"
Or
- "I feel we aren't having enough sex"
- "We aren't fucking enough"
Notice the difference? One is trying to justify your desires with an emotion and the other is simply a statement.
Now understand, these words all have several definitions. Often being equally indecisive. Still I advise the complete removal of them from your vocabulary. In every way, shape and form. If you catch yourself, stop mid sentence if need be and fix it. Within a short period of time, it will be natural to stop using them. The reward is obvious as well. Almost like a weight being lifted from your subconscious.
You should also be wary of want and try. That's a discussion for another day though.
So stop talking like a pussy and think what it would feel like to just stop using these words.
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