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how do you reset every day?

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October 15, 2018
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i understand how we should hold frame, STFU and lift, while gaming our wives daily.

however, my wife nagged and shouted and paid 0 respect to me last saturday. how am i supposed to just forget it and reset?

edit: thank you for ur replies. i understand how i should treat wife”s tantrums like a 3 year old”s tantrum. i”m not quite there yet, but it”s a very good goal post to aim for.


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Title how do you reset every day?
Author gonnafff
Upvotes 18
Comments 26
Date 15 October 2018 01:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203898
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9o8hhw/how_do_you_reset_every_day/
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[–]screechhaterRed Beret63 points64 points  (15 children) | Copy

Probably the hardest part for all Red Pill newcomers and even veterans, as I read their posts, reports, questions, etc is breaking through the myth, of belief that their SO, LTR, wife’s naggy, bitchy- cuntiness laden words should have any weight or bearing on them

And, yet they do. Little do they know, or understand that same woman slinging those words will turn into an angel or unicorn instantly in public view, kind of like the perfect church lady that is prim and proper to the public, but denies her husband sexually but takes it in the ass from the pastor.

It is so blatantly obvious that we have so many men so wrapped around their phone, tv, computer, porn or woman, that removal of too many of these items would most likely a traumatic epileptic inducing seizure, and therefore the ability to actually think or be creative is so hampered, that a good daily wack off to porn is a stress relief and the dopamine receptors get fulfilled for the thirty seconds, but the ability to shrug off words and just not give a fuck, becomes a carsclimic hurdle.

The problem solving, creativity or sense of self directive analyzation of a situation for a rebuttal has gone right out the window with common sense for most men, and yet they are born with it, but all the sensory overload has it taking a back seat

Fear of the “comfort” being shaken out of one’s habitual daily routines including being bitched out, is almost too much for most to confront. The “rocking of the boat” per se’, would lead to the “unknown” consequence wise and therefore complacency is just easier.

In the grand scheme of things, men must understand women’s nature is such that it is driven by a seeking of good times as much as possible, but a little bad is ok as long as it is not outweighing the good, or getting in its way. Therefore, as in the “anti slut paradigm,” bitching you out one moment and being as sweet as pie the next is actually a righting of the circumstances per se, to not be the cunt, “see you made me nuts for a moment” so I’m not the asshole, you are.

“You made me do that.... “. Now there is only one person to blame.

In the “reset” your frame must be fucking cast iron. But it does get easier. The secret ingredient to “reset” is to “not give a fuck as to any consequences what so ever” and to make damned to sure she can’t snif it out STFU is your best friend. Even at an advanced level

My long winded statement above boils down to a suttle, “stop giving a fuck what she says or does, because in reality, just because you are married, it doesn’t mean shit. Her words should have no bearing on your life, the marraige liscense is not carte blanche to treat you like shit, but your fear driven cowering of what will happen if you respond honestly” is your own god damned fault, so therefore “you are letting” her words hamper you

To summarize, get out of yout fear mongering state, quit fapping to porn, and for fucks sake, realize this is your life. Nothing should influence your happiness or lack there in, but you.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good stuff. OP, you would do well to read this every day.

[–]NoAARPforMe8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

We should all read it everyday. This is one of the hardest things to do getting started down the MRP path. Great post.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well said.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great fucking comment

Little do they know, or understand that same woman slinging those words will turn into an angel or unicorn instantly in public view,

Hell yes. I remember when my wife and I were getting separated, and we literally just got in a big discussion about divorce thing and made a decision to divorce. Literally, two minutes later we had company and she turned on her angel happy face like nothing had happened. That was the first time I ever saw her turn it so fast, and I have been with her for 12 years . It was actually a little bit scary to see TBH . Needless to say that was a while back, and we have worked out things since then just as a side

make damned to sure she can’t snif it out STFU is your best friend.

2 1/2 years of lots of work, and she can still sniff it out on me. But you are right that STFU is your best bet even if she does sniff it.

Nothing should influence your happiness or lack there in, but you.

Absolutely correct. However, the thing that I didn’t expect is when I got there then her shit tests would go in the super turbo mode it’s like playing Pac-Man quadruple speed. But, not giving a fuck takes time, and sometimes I am there, sometimes I’m not. But I am there a whole lot more than when I first started

The area I always get stuck is sometimes you do have to say something if she’s totally disrespectful and crosses the line. In other words, sometimes you do need to give a fuck. Do you have any insight on that

[–]BostonBrakeJob4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

The area I always get stuck is sometimes you do have to say something if she’s totally disrespectful and crosses the line. In other words, sometimes you do need to give a fuck. Do you have any insight on that

Our lines are our lines, and when she crosses them we still have every right to speak up. Even if, by the textbook, speaking up will dry her up (in that moment), she'll ultimately respect you for respecting yourself. And with enough time it'll be water under the bridge anyway and you can get back to making her wetter than bass pussy.

What I've always done is speak up, or just give the look of disappointment and go about my business as if she's not even there until she softens up. Apologies are worthless...unless they come in the form of sucking your balls through your dickhole.

But I also always question myself afterward as to why I felt the need to make a stand. Sometimes it's unacceptable behavior, others it has just been ego protection. It gives me a chance to recalibrate those "boundries" and either keep them moving forward, or scrap them and find a different view/approach the next time it comes up.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuckin’ Awesome.

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Barman, a round of whatever this guy is having for all the guys in here.

This is like a time machine back to the old time mrp of our forefathers.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I thought I had just awakened from a long nap!

[–]simbarlionRed Beret3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Absolutely spot on.

I would add, it's your ego ( she only deserves my shitty mode) and covert contracts ( she should be the one to make up) that stop you resetting.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great additions, I was going to add the same things.

Getting past my own ego and removing the covert contracts were huge revelations that I would have never grasped without MRP and the sidebar books.

Once you realize that the only reason you are still angry about someone else’s words is because of your own ego, their words no longer have any bearing on you.

Ego is a mother fucker.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ego is a mother fucker.

yes. And it creeps in without you knowing.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit.

[–]JudgeDoom693 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her words should have no bearing on your life

OP, this is the essence of Frame.

Suggest you paste this whole comment as a separate post in the main sub.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

truth, i will add that i find it helpful to look back at the most shitty times in my life and consider how i woke up the next day and just moved on.

when i compare this to some woman mouthing off; i can't even summons a "meh" - zero fucks given

[–]weakandsensitive15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's funny, the guys who are going to ask the "How" are the same guys who haven't asked "Why?".

Why do you reset everyday? Because if you're going around day in and day out as Mr. Salty McButthurt Chucklefuck, and you don't realize how unattractive that reactive, emotional behavior is, while taking exactly zero steps to fix it - how do you plan on getting anywhere in life?

Clinging on to dear life to your fragile emotions, no effort put into dictating and determining, exclusively, your own mindset - that's no way to go through life, and that certainly isn't attractive to anyone. Who likes hanging out with mopey ass grumpy fucks? Nobody.

And if that's what you're portraying day in and day out, how long do you think it should be before any self respecting person says to themselves, "You know what? Fuck that guy." How you do it doesn't really matter, but if you aren't doing, think about the disservice you're doing to yourself by pearl clutching for your fragile ego.

If you are not your own mental point of origin, then someone or something else is. What a sad way to go through life.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mr. Salty McButthurt Chucklefuck

LMAO

[–]hystericalbonding3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's funny, the guys who are going to ask the "How" are the same guys who haven't asked "Why?"

+1

How to:

  • understand why

  • impulse control

  • practice

[–]BostonBrakeJob2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

think about the disservice you're doing to yourself by pearl clutching for your fragile ego.

This is fucking golden man, and anyone struggling with this concept needs to pay attention. This mindset is a game changer.

It wasn't word for word, but this was your advice to me in the PM a couple weeks back. Took a few more days for me to get the fuck over myself, but acting from this mindset since then has proved to be invalueable. This shit right here is the skeleton key to every door in the building.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a four year old called you a poopyface, would you dwell on it and let it dictate how you behave the next time you saw her?

You give too many fucks. You reset easily when you honestly DNGAF about her childish behavior.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

A man's life is hero one minute and zero the next. It can happen in .03 seconds sometimes faster.

Get over it.

[–]seedster54 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're on a mission. On a mission to be the best version do you the world has never seen. Either her nor anyone is gonna get in your way.

My girl will bitch about a lot of things that are dumb and she apologises for all of it later. I lift, run, make extra money on the side, am hungry in my career and most importantly make time for my friends and go out. She called me crying one night saying how I'm gonna break up with her. I'm not. Then I go with the comfort test and at the end of it firmly tell her this is not acceptable because I'm gonna choose who to hang out with. She has me time and she has her time. We both have bounderies. We have been together for 3 years.

In summary. Better yourself always. Stand firm. Let her know what's acceptable and unacceptable. She's gonna try to trap you into an argument but there's nothing to argue about. Unacceptable behavior is unacceptable behavior regardless of who does it.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s why you need a vision and actively working towards it.

The point of power is always in the present moment.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Choose to just forget it and reset.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What is the alternative? You keep dwelling on some shitty thing she said or did? That's just retarded, especially when you know she did it just so would dwell on it.

You probably have the pussy on a pedestal; you should see to that.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give less fucks. Live in your frame. Everything outside of it is amusing. She either provides value or she doesn’t. If you are a high value man with options she won’t disrespect you for fear of you exercising your plentiful and many options.

Judging by your short account age and post 26 days ago you are still a beta bitch and are butt hurt because she hurt your precious ego.

Read the fucking sidebar and put in the work.



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