As the title suggests, she's making it clear that I'll receive a hard "no" until I apologize for some bullshit from 5 days ago. I touched on the bullshit in my OYS post this week.
Trusted contributors here seem to diverge on how to handle this.
/u/Red-Curious says in this thread that:
The only real way to avoid being butthurt is literally to act like nothing happened and continue offering to let her live alongside your awesome life. She says no? "Cool, another night. Want to drink some wine and do a puzzle then?"
I'd call that an active-positive approach.
/u/strategos_autokrator says in this thread that:
This is not behavioral correction, but a boundary. You can't let that shit out of hand. Be honest: "You can do that, but I don't accept that in my relationships". You have to be strong about this, as this is the equivalent of a woman's nuclear option.
I'll call this the active-negative approach.
Both approaches seem in conflict with the STFU and remove your time and attention (passive-negative ?) approach outlined in the reading.
My questions is, at dread level 1-2, do I have any other option than to STFU, remove my time and attention, and nurse my sore balls alone? Or, is this a special kind of sexual denial that requires a more active response?
This is the first time since I've swallowed the pill that sex has been used as a weapon against me. I'm finding it hard as hell not to engage, argue, and blow the fuck up. It's harder now that I'm understanding the power dynamics at play.
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