Ok so she told me I couldn't have the trainer I wanted because she is a woman. Meanwhile, she goes to her dance classes with a male instructor. She goes to classes at private houses w/o me, male instructor. She had the same male trainer as me for a year. I have never been unfaithful or given her any reason to think I'd be unfaithful. We have two boys 8 and 12. She's negative all the time. She yells constantly to clean up this or that, do this or that, etc. Pushy. She does do a lot for the family, but it always comes with some guilt trip. Lately though this jealousy thing is out of hand, she said I need to stop seeing a trainer I just started with. My stats are: I'm hella in shape, I'm 5'6" 140 and can DL 230 BP 135. I'm 47 and 'aged well'. I am confident and don't take shit, but I think I've been in 'robot' mode. Trying to read everything here but it's exhausting. I just need some advice on how to deal with the present jealousy situation and any other advice around this whole damn thing. I don't want to get a divorce because I don't think it's healthy for my kids. Thanks in advance!!