Another user posted this question. To summarize, suppose the conversation goes something like this:
Her: You'd better never talk to younger hot girls again. [Unreasonable demand; seems like an obvious ST.]
You: [A&A] Sure, but how are we going to get that three-way I bet you've always wanted?
Her: <> Cute ... but seriously. Tell me you're not going to do it.
You: [Redirect] Not sure what to tell you. You hungry? Let's go get some pizza.
Her: Stop playing games. Tell me you won't do it ever again.
You: [Nuke] You don't look good in red; especially when it's all over your face.
Her: <> I need an answer.
You: [Command Respect] I love you, but you can't treat me this way. I can set my own boundaries.
Her: Maybe I'd respect you if you weren't so evasive all the time.
You: [Assume it's really a CT in disguise; Distract with sex] Don't worry about it. <> We're good. <> You can count on me. <>
Her: <> Are you crazy? You're still trying to evade responding to me?
I know this whole situation is a bit obscene (and maybe I'm not far enough along yet to realize how test-passing mechanisms work), but the point is you've tried everything and she still wants to continue the conversation.
Is it really as simple as: "I'm going to do what I want to do. If you don't like it, you're free to go" and then walk away? What if she just starts following you around the house? You leave the house? Try to go to bed and ignore her? I assume these are all correct answers, but I'm still clueless :p
I get the impression that all of this "test-passing" stuff is really just evasiveness. That's fine, it proves that you don't answer to her and she needs to see that in her leader if she's going to submit to her role as co-captain. My wife often calls me "captain" or similar terms, but thinks she's an admiral sitting in the co-pilot chair with authority to evaluate my performance ... Regardless, asserting the role boundaries is obviously crucial, but is it just that the first several methods are a lot less jerk-ish than just saying, "I don't have to answer to you" every time she's angry? Sorry ... probably getting off topic now and I know any more questions down that line will just be responded with: "Read more sidebar!!!"