Help with Wife

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May 8, 2016

I've been on TRT for about a year. Wife says its changed my personality. She is jealous because I've been losing weight, grew a beard, and have been dressing better. It's all incidental as far as I am concerned. I'm really not looking for anything else. I do like the compliments and looks, but so what? She says I'm aloof, DGAF attitude, etc. Says I used to be more into her (read emotionally attached). Anyway I'm getting tired of her BS and question her value. However we've been married for a long time (decades) and have a kid together. However, I'm thinking about leaving because I'm getting tired of the drama all the time. I'd like your take. Thanks in advance.

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Title Help with Wife
Author redpillthrowaway3242
Upvotes 7
Comments 27
Date 08 May 2016 03:42 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

Many men go through a phase where their shitty wives disgust them.

But, just remember, she's shitty because you let her be. You have failed to enforce boundaries and lead your household.

I'd recommend trying to make mrp work for your marriage for 6 months and see if you get past the anger phase, and if she's receptive to your changes.

Just remember, while saving the marriage is a nice bonus, you are doing all of this FOR YOU!

[–]starista0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Hey there. :-). Just curious, is any of it a two-way street?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Of course.

The whole reason she isn't fucking him is because she is disgusted with him and doesn't respect him.

We advocate becoming the kind of man that a wife can't help but respect, and thereby want to fuck.

[–]starista0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I guess my question is, and sorry if I am not allowed to post here, can both a married man and wife work together on achieving red pill principles in their marriage?

Thank you :)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, sure, if you can get the woman to buy into red pill dynamics.

That means being first mate and allowing your husband to be captain. You can give suggestions, but ultimately, the final say is his. He leads the family.

You also need to give him sex. A LOT of sex. Enthusiastically.

But, let's be honest... Guys that are here found this place precisely because their wives are not like this, right?

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I need a macro. Do not make decisions like this while you are in the anger stage. Give your wife a chance to catch up.

So no,you should not dump a wife of decades based on what you describe.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's your choice, but I'm young and my wounds are still open, and I can tell you now that if your kid loves with you guys, don't fucking divorce her.

My parents separated when I was 9, stayed in the same house to raise me for all of 3 weeks, it got ugly, officially got divorced, legal system granted full custody to my mom even though she didn't want to isolate my dad and I, he ended up moving 800 miles away.

I saw him once or twice a year and then got into drugs when I was 12 years old, cut him off, OD'd a couple times, fucked up an LTR, and went to rehab.

I'm now 18, I talk to him every day and see him around every month. I missed out on years with my pops and looking back on it, I didn't have a strong male role model and it changed my path in life heavily. I wasn't old enough to seek one out, and I can tell you that if I could change one thing in my life, that would be it.

I'd advise not divorcing her and giving her some time, but really man, part of this whole redpill shit is taking responsibility for your own actions. You had a kid, you're liable for it, for better or for worse, until it's 18. If you opt for a legal divorce, you won't be capable of seeing it.

I know sociopaths and psychopaths who are capable of love so I damn well believe your dumb ass is, stick it out for your kid who I'm sure you love, at least until they're ~18-21

[–]sh0ckley2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I like this response best. Especially if the kid you have is a boy. I had a physically present (but actually absent) father and it (partly) screwed me up in a similar way. Drug addiction etc.

I'm really not looking for anything else.

Then hold her down and fuck her. Prove to yourself that you're really not looking for anything else.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

As a redpilled male with an absent father who's in an LTR with a redpilled female with an absent father, I agree with everything you've said besides "especially if it's a boy". She's suffered more than I have. We learn it, sooner or later. It becomes apparent to us that women are delicate creatures that operate emotionally, generally in high school if we're somewhat aware.

As a man, I didn't learn certain things I wish I had learned a long time ago, as a result of not having a father.

My LTR, and women with daddy issues in general, both suffer the same learning issues, but also suffer a much graver issue: safety and security. My first ever girl's dad was very clear with me that if I ever fucked around with her feelings and took advantage of her, I was up for punishment from him.

My current girl never got that. Sure her mom is intimidating but not in a "I will literally smack your face so hard you bleed" kinda way.

My current girl and her mother, and their houseguest were held at gunpoint by a crip who robbed their, and two other houses in our neighborhood that night. Do you think if I was here he would have gotten away with that? Or if my girl's dad was here? Fuck no, he would have shat himself and sprinted, if he was lucky, but more likely, he'd be leaving in a body bag and I'd be leaving with a police officer for questioning.

My girlfriend was physically abused by her ex, 5 years ago.

She was taken advantage of and raped (not in a "wahhhh I was drunk" way, like in a "I said no and he slammed my head into a concrete wall and forcibly fucked my ass" way), in her own garage, by a kid she met off tinder when she was 15, while her mom was home, so busy with a hamster that she couldn't hear her daughter screaming.

I am my girlfriends male role model now. She is safe with me and she knows that.

I think me not having a dad was fucked up man, but I think she got the short straw there.

[–]sh0ckley2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

True. Daughters need a daddy too. Just as much as sons. Point taken.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely a hard luck story , but this

women are delicate creatures

Is generally not true at all. Keep studying if you still believe in this BP fantasy . Vetting is one of the most important parts RP, Good luck OP.

[–]MRPguy8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bro, do not come here asking us whether or not you should leave your wife. It's your fucking life!

We don't know you. We are internet strangers. Could you leave her? Sure. It's always a possibility, always an option. Only you can make that call.

[–]redpillthrowaway3242[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fair enough and good point. Looking for validation on an internet forum is a cop out. Any choice I make I need to own.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

My take: this post is dumb. You are likely also dumb. It is dumb that your wife is jealous that you can grow a beard. Any advice you get from this post will likely be dumb. The information you provided is so limited that it is dumb to offer you any response other than to tell you this is dumb.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

my advice is always like golden poop.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've seen some great personal success so keep focused there. It's telling that your wife is hamstring because of your results. Keep the throttle on, maintain your frame, and be true to yourself. At some point she'll make the decision for you based on her actions. All you need to do is be clear and direct Wilsonville your expectations. She'll either come around or continue to resist. Then you'll have to be a man and make the choice for you.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Is she hot? I'm collecting other dudes' wives and building a harem. Give me her stats and then I'll let you know if you should divorce her. I'm in need of a brunette so I'll definitely be more agreeable to your divorce if she fits the bill. Cool...

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are one smart motherfucker. Why didn't I think if that ?

[–]its-iceman1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you think the personality change has more to do with MRP than the TRT?

Increased test can definitely change how you act and react, just like any hormone could.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Glad someone caught it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

However, I'm thinking about leaving because I'm getting tired of the drama all the time.

you still sound lazy and entitled beacuse this may be the easiest thing to fix.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get divorced. It's obvious she's the problem.

OP even said she's jealous she can't grow a beard!! What more proof is there.

Look OP, you're tired of her bullshit. I'm pretty sure she's tired of yours.

[–]cj_aubreyRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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