Ladies,

Please don't EVER blame yourself after getting ghosted after a first or second date. More so the second date, and please always remember this advice.

The modus operandi for 99.99999% percent of men is SEX. Always assume all men you meet are LVM, and let them prove that they are HVM over a rigorous and long vetting process.

The first and second dates are the opportunity for a man to impress you. This is his time to try and impress you by any means possible, including omitting certain information about himself or trying to mirror you. You hardly know each other at this point, and everything stated needs to be at face value.

A lot of women constantly doubt themselves because they have an amazing first date that leads to him asking you on a second date and then....radio silence. These men pretend to swoon over you the first date asking to see you again for a second date. You WANT to believe he genuinely likes you, and the chemistry is there.

You held your ground. You spoke eloquently, didn't accept cheap/low value dates, and were a "prude." You behaved as a HVW should behave, with elegance and class.

"What went wrong?" You ask yourself. "I thought things were going amazing, he told me he was super into me, our first two dates went incredible, and he texted me non-stop! Why did he pull a casper on me?"

It's simple. He was trying to fabricate a perfect image for you in attempts to try and sleep with you as quickly as possible. He was telling you everything you wanted to hear. He was behaving exactly the way you wanted him to behave.

Men merely view us as pawns in their game. They try to gain the most reward for least amount of risk possible. Yes, he took you out on a lovely dinner date on your first date, and an even nicer one for your second date. He spent hundreds of dollars on you in attempts to get his dick wet.

Although the chemistry was there (you'd like to believe), he ghosted you after the second date. Why? He didn't want to continue putting up a front of being a classy gentleman. He wanted to throw money at you and tell you sweet nothings in order for you to SLEEP WITH HIM BY THE SECOND DATE.

Since you are a HVW, you see through this shit. When he ghosts you after the second date, pat yourself on the back. You shielded yourself from a master manipulator who's trying to collect notches on his belt. It has NOTHING to do with your looks, your intellect, and your demeanor. Being ghosted in this instance is not a reflection on YOU.

It pains me to see many women questioning their self worth and their identity when this behavior is textbook player. The lion will try and go for the weakest gazelle in the heard, and since you are a HVW he doesn't see you as an easy target.

Look for these signs before you go on a first date with him to see if this behavior will be prevalent:

  1. Check his social media. If you've already exchanged social media, this is a perfect opportunity to do some investigating. If he has Instagram, go through his following list. Does he follow a ridiculous amount of scantily clad instagram models? If the answer is yes, he sees women as mere objects. He will also view you that way, no matter how "geeky" and "normal" he comes across.

Also, go through his followers list. Does he have an abnormal amount of women following him, yet he doesn't follow them back? Listen to your gut. These are women that have developed some sort of relationship with him, and then he disposed of them when he didn't get his way with them.

  1. Don't invest too much in his texts. If he texts you "morning beautiful", or "good night", while barely knowing you, please don't be flattered. These texts are easy to mass text to EVERYONE in his phone list. He is trying to create a false sense of familiarity with you in order to let your guard down. This is classic love bombing behavior.

If there's any more that you can think of, please let me know.

Remember, you are a HIGH VALUE WOMAN who knows where her standards and boundaries are. Never let a scrotes behaviors have any reflection on you.