Captain makes less than me.

Zegiknie · 2019-03-15T09:48:48+00:00

Is your submission inspired by money?

Atex3330 · 2019-03-15T11:21:02+00:00

Does he care? Do you care? How do you view the money you earn? I know lots of couples who the wife out earns the husband. No one's cares. My relationship currently I make more. But we view money earned by both of us as 100 percent our money so who earns it is irrelevant.

NotaNPC · 2019-03-15T11:47:21+00:00

You have been dating him for a very short amount of time, you are still in your honeymoon phrase. You dont know for sure if your tech start up will make you a lot more money or really how much he could possible make if he becomes a celebrity and is highly sought after. Its a lot of thinking ahead for three months in about something to find bad about him.

light-----------dark · 2019-03-15T13:02:11+00:00

This seems like an opportunity for you to choose to step into your feminine essence when you are with him - regardless of how much money he makes.

My partner makes a lot more money than me (I’m paid way above average for my age), but she desires the space that I hold for her with my masculine energy, and she chooses to show up fully into her feminine essence when we are together. It works very well.

The question is. . . Does he hold the masculine traits that you desire? That won’t go away as long as he desires to step into his masculinity and hold space for you to step into your feminine.

Great job on the accomplishments.

__Some_person__ · 2019-03-15T11:17:32+00:00

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chomponthebit · 2019-03-15T15:47:13+00:00

Op, there’s more to a man’s SMV than just money. There’s social (friends & family) currency, emotional currency, intellectual currency as well, and they can go a loooooong way.

Stedman & Oprah. Dolly Parton & Carl. These men have something billionaires don’t

situations_13 · 2019-03-15T14:11:14+00:00

My husband makes less than me and it does not matter at all. He is masculine and always trying to improve and climb the financial ladder at work. As long as he’s not lazy or beta, I don’t think it’s an issue personally. It’s hard enough to find someone, having a hard requirement that they must make a lot of money is really going to limit the pool of candidates.

goldensurrender · 2019-03-15T14:50:48+00:00

You say you don't want to struggle to be submissive to him because you bring in more money. That is surrendering to submissiveness to your man on a conditional basis. I would focus first on choosing, regardless of life's changing circumstances, to surrender to your femininity. That way you will be unwaveringly standing firm in your position as surrendered female by your captain's side, allowing him to take a leadership role. It's an energy dynamic, and not something that is necessarily based on specific, material circumstances in life. Let's say you marry a really high earner, then he gets into a car accident and is wheel-chair bound, has to change careers or go on disability. Do you suddenly change your feminine role with him? No. You still make the choice to be his feminine wife, by his side, allowing him to flourish as your man, no matter what. Focus first on getting to understand this dynamic between you two, and then it won't be able to be shaken by life's ever-changing circumstances.

boom-boom-betty · 2019-03-15T11:47:56+00:00

He seems like a good catch! He’s on his way up, and you never know what kind of financial endorsements/incentives/etc he will receive in the future.

As you climb your way to the top of your own industry, he will be there to offer emotional support, and it sounds like the sex is great too.

MakeAmericaRichAgain · 2019-03-15T22:25:06+00:00

Personally, I think a guy who does what he wants to do regardless of a marginal upgrade in money is way the hell more masculine than generic corporate do-anything-for-money sellout #307.

There's more to life than money. Find out what that is and work towards it.

sonder_one · 2019-03-15T13:31:14+00:00

At least one of these things is true:

OP isn't actually that excited about her BF and is trying to rationalize the split and blame him for it.
Men earning less than women is a big negative factor in attraction, such that the modern world, with women generally earning as much as men, is extremely toxic to relationship possibilities, and we're all screwed.

TranslatedSky · 2019-03-15T11:49:45+00:00

I'm young but ambitious and in tech and expect that I'll make more money in the future than my potential partner. However my worry is always that they'd be insecure about it. Maybe you should ask yourself how important your career/goals are to you also? Finding someone who isn't insecure, who is masculine and doing something with their lives, who is emotionally available for you, who at the same time gives you all the tools you need to fulfill your goals in life - isn't that wonderful?

I've dated quite a lot of ambitious men who were x5 my value and they never really had time for me. I would expect a higher earning partner than you to expect you to fulfill more feminine duties than what your current career allows. Seems like you may have to rethink your current mindset as it's just making trouble for yourself.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2019-03-15T12:19:10+00:00

Is money the most important aspect in your view of a man?

It seems like you speak highly of everything except for his money while you speak lowly of everything except your ex’s money. Yet you seem to kinda fondly reference your ex and you’re hesitant to claim your current.

If money is the most important thing to you: leave him and find someone who makes more.

If you care about more than money, he sounds like a good partner, better than your ex.

teaandtalk · 2019-03-15T21:37:30+00:00

Sounds like you are overthinking. And overplanning.

Also, 'social capital' is another form of capital. Factor that into your 'earning power' calculation.

jasminebobatea · 2019-03-26T17:48:29+00:00

I would voice this concern with him to see his thoughts on how he feels making less than you. Evolution wise, men wouldn't/shouldn't feel comfortable doing so, but its worth a conversation.

I believe your submission is valid because you are a strong, independent woman. Although you value his emotional support, are you with him because you ex didn't have that? If so, maybe that's something you need to overcome. You deserve the emotional support and financial safety.

Also, does he have the drive to make more or to go somewhere more in life? You might be questioning his ability to lead/protect you in the long run. Your feelings are valid.

Come from a place of love when you speak to him and voice your concern. If he's as emotionally attuned as you say, he will step it up.

AStarkAmongWolves · 2019-03-15T14:44:21+00:00

You're talking about marriage when you've only been together for three months?

Errr...Anyways, your posts indicate that you place too much emphasis on money, even when you're emotionally satisfied and this person fulfills you, and is (in your words) "100% compatible" with you. I think it's unfair to create these scenarios in your head (you don't know if your business will take off quite yet, and you're assuming he won't move far from that industry) involving him, and you're further judging him as less masculine because he will potentially earn less than you in an unfair scenario you've created.

I really don't think the money is the problem here. Nor him.

Girfexnsfw · 2019-03-15T10:51:28+00:00

Do the bills get paid?

MissMissive · 2019-03-15T16:04:48+00:00

I've asked myself, Google and others this same question: how to be the "submissive" and the bread winner in my relationship. I earn more but my captain must wear the pants. How does this work?

etucker546 · 2019-03-16T03:38:47+00:00

This is nothing but a perfect example of an AWALT situation. Notice how OP mentions her ex in this post. Smh man your man needs to bolt ASAP! OP is going to start Shit testing the hell out of him. If he keeps failing them shit test she is going to try an monkey branch back to ex. BB/AF. Unless OP is strong enough to buffer her nature this relationship is OVER! This is my very frank opinion take it how you want.

g0dyop · 2019-03-16T11:52:02+00:00

No man will ever be good enough for you. Learn to enjoy wine and cats.

Dankpablo · 2019-03-16T12:45:03+00:00

You are not a good person

Title	Captain makes less than me.
Author	Zoe_Rae
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Date	March 15, 2019 9:30 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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