I found that sub-reddit about two weeks ago and it attracted me very quickly
I look good, get compliments and flirtations from girls in my neighborhood, I have a good job and I earn well, I am funny and very sociable.
I have to lift, my body is pretty small but I've already started working on it vigorously.
I am with my wife 3.5 years, our relationship is good, almost do not argue, I do not feel that she is trying to prevent me from doing things I love, but our sex is bad.
Before my wife I was with very few girls and I did not accumulate such experience, but my wife was in a lot of relationships and with lots of men (some just for sex) - to be honest it does not bother me so much "what was before me," but I will not lie, I've thought about it a few times.
At first the sex was good for me slowly I realized that I was not good, she was mostly active, complained that I do not initiate sex at all and pretty boring. It took me a while to realize that I was bad, I started to initiate more, stronger and try new things and be more active.
But after a year and a half in a relationship my wife started to want less sex, I got more rejections and sex became very vanili.
She is not willing to blowjob me because she said it's make her choke and beacuse she dont like the taste of the spearm. She is willing to do almost only missionary (making a face when I want a different position), not willing to try anal even though it's a very big fantasy of mine. It annoys me very much, I think a lot about how I'm not as satisfied as I would like, I find myself doing a handjob 2-3 time a week (I just stopped following the materials I read here)
I got to talk to her several times about not being so pleased, the first few times she would accuse me of not trying enough and not initiating enough, of course I took the blame on myself and worked with me. The last two times we talked about it she admitted she had less desire than I and she was trying to work on it.
She goes through some difficult periods (social, university, family) and I understand that it affects her desire but what about my need for satisfaction ??
The sentence that strangled me the most was the article I read:
"If she really loved me she'd allow me anal sex."
"I'd be OK without anal if she had refused all previous boyfriends, but she let her boyfriend Chad fuck her ass, so as her husband I should get it, too."
It just described me, she tried anal with a guy she was dating only two months, And I, who have been with her for 3.5 years and she loves me so much, will not try (claiming it hurt her that time) even though she knows how much I want to try? I think about it a lot.
I put my happiness in sex in her hands, and I'm frustrated when she refuses (I never got to tell her not to sex)
The one time of the week she does agree it feels like some of the time is just to please me and not out of behingh horny.
I am a good husband, help my wife, support her, love her, why does not she rip my clothes off?
In the past, she had a lot of desire, proof of this is that she has rich sexual experience, so why with me is it different?
I'm angry, I'm frustrated, what am I not doing well?
I feel that I will find the answer here