When to try? When to give up?

SBIII · 2019-04-29T12:41:18+00:00

She doesn't want to fuck you because she doesn't find you attractive.

How do you change this? You become attractive. She might still not want to fuck you but you'll be attractive and someone else will. However, at the minute, no-one would want to fuck you. Why? Here's a few clues for ya...

I'm a "nice guy". I never understand why some things happened. NMMNG book gave me answers. Looks like the book was wrote for me!

Read the book, apply the principles. Stop being a nice guy. No-one wants to fuck nice guys.

Four years ago I was dismissed from job and I tried into another profession that did not work (I'm into that new profession around 2 years and zero income yet). Now I have to go back to my old profession, but I do not find a job. Not a problem to me. Sometimes we have to step back.

Find a job. No-one wants to fuck a man with no money. Not even prostitutes.

I think I lost the "power" when I was dismissed from previous job and turned out to take care of our daughter.

No. You never had the "power" to begin with but whatever respect you had went out the window when you decided to become a Stay At Home Dad. No-one wants to fuck a SAHD, not even SAHMs.

My wife go to work while I was trying to "win" in the new profession and in the afternoon I take care of our daughter. She, my wife, said that did not admire myself anymore, because I had no ambition.

No-one wants to fuck a man with no ambition.

Even I waking up at 4.00 in the morning, doing exercises, studying, taking the child to the doctor, doing homework with daughter, making food, etc. For me it was a "betrayal", because all this was talked about earlier.

She doesn't want you to stay at home childminding, cooking, doing whatever gay exercises you do at home. She wants a man who has ambition and drive who goes out and takes what he wants. She may have agreed to this but that's because she doesn't want to have to tell you how to be a man. She just wants you to "get it". No-one wants to fuck a man who doesn't "get it".

Today I'm looking for a permanent job, but I believe that as soon as I get a job, she leaves home. She's a workaholic, too.

You are a lazy fucker looking for excuses not to work. No-one wants to fuck a lazy fucker who doesn't want to work.

I think that since she got promoted and got a salary raise and I'm not working at a 9-5 job, she feel that she's powerful...that don't need a man in her life.

She doesn't need you in her life. You are a financial burden on her. No-one wants to fuck a financial burden.

When she got pregnant, 1 year without sex.

LOL.

Everyone telling me to cheat on her. Not at all. About 1 and half year ago she got this new job. Manager. Since then smartphone took my place.No sex for 1 month and counting.She get home everyday and:" I'm very tired. Gonna sleep" and ends on Netflix on cellphone at bed.

She prefers Netflix to fucking you. The sight of you dries up her pussy like a hot wind in the Sahara Desert.

Sex?! What's that?

It's the thing you get a lot of when you are attractive. You are not attractive, therefor no-one wants to fuck you.

You are a broke ass Nice Guy who has no ambition, no drive and most likely looks like a fat / skinny cunt who has other issues that you aren't telling us about, your wife is repelled by you and no-one in their right mind would fuck you. You don't even have cash to get a hooker to blow you.

Fix that shit, then try initiating sex. You'll be amazed at the difference it makes.

ReddJive · 2019-04-29T13:59:46+00:00

next time do it then just walk away before the rejection. Women like rejecting men. They get off on it. A sick game of cat and mouse. The flared men's advice is spot on, but it doesn't matter what she thinks and does about this.

She is already going to reject you. She knows you are getting fucked....so tongue fuck her mouth. Leave before she has had a chance to register it then walk out of the house. Leave her wondering.

I guarantee you will hear about it. One way or the other.

thats when she either gets along on the ride or you find another one who is willing to.

I want to address this a little more. /u/nastynickdr said this. The trouble with all you unplugging men is that you THINK she is going to stay. that OMG I have an alpha on my hands I better bend over right now!

She may fuck you again, for a little while. You can be Chad and she will still walk away. A woman can fuck you just to keep what she's getting from you. She has no issue with doing whatever she can to keep her comfy life. Don't rate your success on HER actions. This is just as much validation as any other Beta ideal.

A title does not define you. Husband, boyfriend, fuck buddy. These are roles that you play in somebody else's life. Not the purpose of your life. Find purpose other than how your wife views you.

Countpudyoola · 2019-04-29T13:55:26+00:00

You haven't improved enough other areas.

You've sprinkled on a little alpha, but this is going to take some sustained, long term you disengaging yourself from a wife not interested in you because of sustained long term patterns of beta behavior.

Basics.

Up your wardrobe.

Up your fitness and eating.

Do many many many more things away from her and the house.

Start acting (and actually..not acting... by side effect) like you are 100% planning a better life for yourself without her.

She has 0 dread. You have 0 SMV to her other than sustaining your beta traits for siphoning.

If you work on all these things, things will either fall into place with more initiation from you ...with her, or with another girl.

Middle_Aged_Child · 2019-04-29T12:18:21+00:00

You’re not ready for this yet.

RandomlyChosenTitle · 2019-04-29T12:33:06+00:00

It's pretty clear that sex is more about validation than any actual desire to be with your wife. It's also pretty clear, given that this is your 5th post in the last 6 days, that you're just looking for a shortcut. It doesn't exist.

You're going to get absolutely destroyed for this post, but I'll keep it short. Your frame is nonexistent, you lack abundance, and you're far too ego invested. Read the sidebar material (all of it) if you're actually committed to bettering yourself.

Dialerstring · 2019-04-29T13:00:47+00:00

I bet Chad and Tyrones could fuck at anytime. She’s may not be attracted to you. NMMG and STFU and dread game. Become OI, stop giving a damn what she thinks. If she shoots you down??? Pack a gym bag and go to the gym. Withdraw your attention the next day by doing shit that men do. And don’t seek validation.

InChargeMan · 2019-04-29T13:25:04+00:00

Yesterday for example, I tried fondly and nothing. Rejected.

she'll think I do not want her anymore

And that is a problem why? She isn't worried about what you think, but you are so worried you had to use google translate to ask internet strangers here. See the problem?

nastynickdr · 2019-04-29T13:33:35+00:00

Quit trying to figure out what she thinks/wants. Dont do cold war, thats what bitches do, I used to do all the time with my ex, and yes I was a weak bitch. Even if you "win", you lose, as you may have already noticed. You are the man, you lead. You do what you want.

You feel like kissing/fucking? Dont overthink, go for it. If you get shot down, you go with a "maybe some other time" attitude, go focus on something else, completely unnafected and not butthurt. Go lift, work on your projects, read. Reset the next day, game and tease her, dont do cold war, dont get butthurt, dont let her affect you. But the most important is that you need to be attractive and dont do unnatractive stuff, this will increase her desire for you. Words and little games wont.

When you reached a level where you are an attractive high value man, strong, confident, mission-driven, rock solid frame, owning your shit, taking care of the household, everything on point and she is still the same lazy fat bitch who wont fuck you, she will start wondering "what does he needs me for?", thats when she either gets along on the ride or you find another one who is willing to.

hack3ge · 2019-04-29T15:00:06+00:00

You are a faggot and we already went over this in your other post. You are literally scared of trying to fuck your wife....

You are still looking for shortcuts because you are a lazy piece of shit - lift, STFU and sidebar for 6 months at that point maybe at that point you will realize why you are asking the wrong questions.

P.S. - Did you ever get that non-fat latte with your fat wife?

thunderbeyond · 2019-04-29T12:18:35+00:00

I'm going to say this simply, so you can understand and nothing gets "lost in translation".

You think too much.

Seriously. You overthink everything.

STOP making your wife the center of all of your thoughts.

And do not start making yourself the center of all of your thoughts.

It is time for you to start DOING.

By that I mean start going to the gym. Start making friends and acquaintances other than your wife. Start a hobby or sport.

I mean, if I do not try, she might think that

WHO GIVES A FUCK WHAT SHE MIGHT THINK

Its 2019 and we still gotta ask...

Do you even lift, bro?

Gtrplyr3838 · 2019-04-29T12:23:23+00:00

Either you need to pick better times to initiate and improve your seduction, or GTFO and find someone more willing. If you give up, you might as well end it now. Harsh, but I’ve been through it and found that things improved greatly once I walked.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-04-29T13:07:23+00:00

Always be closing.

helaughsinhidden · 2019-04-29T13:20:18+00:00

Hmmm, the guerilla warfare ambush method didn't work? Perhaps try something a little less "rapey" and start your flirting earlier in the day. Sort of "heat up the pan before you put in the meat".

dll142 · 2019-04-29T15:48:26+00:00

You are thinking and going about this all wrong. First, these guys on here are right when they say, "first, be attractive." I have news for you... you have to do the work and it takes time.

When you are where you need to be, she will seek you out for attention, affection, validation, and sex.

Stop trying so damn hard and trying to force the issue. Women always say they want a man "that just gets it." You're not there yet. Learn to game her. Learn to read her. Remember, sex doesn't always start in the bed room moments before the act for a woman.

I suspect you have little to no game. Read the sidebar and relax!

themerovingian01 · 2019-04-29T16:53:21+00:00

How often do you have sex with her? Because if she's not fucking you she's definitely fucking someone else.

Title	When to try? When to give up?
Author	FinancialLeopard5
Upvotes	5
Comments	36
Date	April 29, 2019 12:02 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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