Found a great resource for dealing with Boarderlines

Saturnalia93 · 2014-10-28T13:32:10+00:00

If you are involved with a borderline in any way, you're an undiluted masochist.

xwm · 2014-10-28T18:05:50+00:00

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vengefully_yours · 2014-10-28T13:41:42+00:00

I was expecting the article to say RUN

bsutansalt · 2014-10-28T16:10:22+00:00

Most borderlines are attracted to BP traits. Happened to me, got into TRP after around a year and it helped me. Golden rule for treating oneitis applies here as well: sleep with 10 women. Then look back at your borderline and see the truth. They are the sweet poison songs tell you about. From my experience the ups with a borderline are incredible, yet the downs are much worse. They enjoy seeing you hurt, no logic, they enjoy the feeling. When you try to explain her how hurt you are she'll almost glow of happiness, it gives them strength and twisted validation (she once more has proven herself that she is a good material - because someone hurts because of her).

You can pursue a relationship with them but be ready to everything, be ready to lose friends, money, home, family. The hard thing is to realize that words and explanations don't work with her. They are the ultimate players, the emotions are just tools for such people, yet they have no control over themselves. Some even will tell you that. I've seen that flicker in her eyes when she was experimenting with these tools (i was the test subject). She had those playfull, exited and pleased eyes, while she was sticking emotional needles into my heart. I was her discovery and she was my torturer, and she was enjoying it genuinely. She would not understand why i was not as happy...

Well i re-connected with her after a long no talk, and after i started spinning plates... And you know what, she's not that attractive now, and not that scary, as she can't hurt me no more. I can see through her shit tests (oh the bpd shit tests.... always so... bdp... ) and not give a fuck. She's not that attracted to me now, more affraid maybe, not sure. Sometimes i think they are driven by extreme fear of rejection, the site i used as well to get the hell out btw. Also pay attention to family she has grown in, happy family - no bdp.

Aaanyway I closed the circle and healed my wounds.

Tldr: dont date bdp's

Typing from my phone and can't proof read this so be i please excused.

should_ · 2014-10-28T15:02:28+00:00

This writer is less about "how to succeed with one" and talks more about how those relationships pan out, suggesting you have to improve your mind and self-image in order to break the pattern and not date them anymore. Even tactics to 'beat' the crazy at their own game shows you're invested, and are hard to do anyway since you're too tied up because of something in your psyche -- it's like telling a Nice Guy, "just be assertive," which is tough for him to do at first. I would read "dealing with borderlines" more like "dealing with the fact that you're dealing with borderlines."

Keninishna · 2014-10-29T02:52:29+00:00

I like the Q & A on the site as well:

Q. Dear Shari, do you have any advice for dating a Borderline?

A. Don't.

dicklord_airplane · 2014-10-28T21:35:51+00:00

my advice is to get out ASAP. those kinds of chicks will land you in jail with charges of abuse and whatnot, and no amount of game will save you once she calls the cops or spreads rumors. she is a better liar than you, and people are more likely to be sympathetic towards her in the first place.

MartialWay · 2014-10-29T01:08:20+00:00

My best resource for BPDs are my running shoes.

HeadingRed · 2014-10-31T18:42:15+00:00

Holy shit fairly spot on here http://gettinbetter.com/dance.html

Some good reading, wish I had this about 20 years ago.

Garl_Vinland · 2014-10-28T14:48:14+00:00

My wife is diagnosed bpd. Honestly, I think borderline is way over-diagnosed. Tell a girl "no" a few times and you'll find out if she's really bpd or just a spoiled girl who hasn't heard that word enough. Whether or not she is doesn't really matter to me, a shit test is a shit test.

Here's a list of bpd symptoms:

Intense fear of being abandoned
Cannot tolerate being alone
Frequent feelings of emptiness and boredom
Frequent displays of inappropriate anger
Impulsiveness, such as with substance abuse or sexual relationships
Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing

That describes most women you'll ever meet. It seems like every generation has a hot diagnosis, depression, ADD, bi-polar, and borderline. I take any admission of these diagnoses with a grain of salt.

iluminatiNYC · 2014-10-28T19:02:11+00:00

It's one thing to be in a relationship with someone with BPD and decide to work it out. Everyone is different, and if the woman involved is amenable to treatment, some well placed Game can actually be a good thing. However, if none of the above are true, don't run. Calmly and coolly unwind the relationship. Running can cause more problems. They need to know that there is no way in the world you are going back. Merely nexting them is like waving a red Cape in front of a bull.

(Source: being married to someone with BPD for six years and leading an online support group for spouses of those with BPD)

Keninishna · 2014-10-28T21:34:45+00:00

From the books on boderline personality disorder that I have read, about 30% of all women have it. Serious like 1 in 3 have it. The checklist for daignosing it consists of like: Are you woman? Have you tried to commit suicide? if those two questions are checked you have over a 60% chance of having bpd. So everyone saying "u must be idiot for going near anyone with bpd" more than likely you know a few. Read the site, a lot of it really just basic redpill material.

First and foremost, you must understand that passivity is The Kiss of Death in any relationship with a Borderline. This principle holds true for therapists who treat individuals with BPD, as well. Quite simply, they need firm limits and boundaries set for them throughout your time together. In short, you must gain control over your BPD relationship! To continue believing that you don't, just invites and promotes more chaos.

Borderlines are bullies, whose bark is substantially bigger than their bite. If you yield when she pushes rather than pushing back harder, you've already lost the battle, and things always get worse. Remember, your Borderline is like a three year old who tests your limits just to see how much she can get away with, and you can't keep letting a toddler run (and ruin) your life. When you finally assert yourself with this woman-child, she's likely to rebel or sulk. She might even get teary or weepy, and accuse you of being insensitive, narcissistic or controlling. Suddenly, that ball-busting, bitchy female you've been living with can shape-shift into a pitiful little victim of your "abuse," and you may find yourself feeling guilty, and apologizing for crimes you didn't commit. Dont. You're actually providing a 'container' for your Borderline, just as you would with a child. Your firmness helps your BPD partner or spouse feel more stable and safe. She will start trying to be a 'good little girl' to please you, but you will need guidance to learn how to do this correctly and effectively.

http://gettinbetter.com/dragon.html

thebluepillsucked · 2014-10-28T22:44:17+00:00

I can smell a borderline or bipolar girl a mile away, and they can smell me... if you want to have the best sex of your life (One night stand... go for it) but you have to RUN afterwards... dont give them your real name, phone number, or address. Do it at their place and I mean never talk to them again.

You can't 'beat' them at game, you cant compete with mental illness, you will always lose.

SpongeCroft · 2014-10-30T11:15:18+00:00

dating a borderline bitch? are you fucking dumb? have fun getting your balls chopped off when you leave her and she breaks into your apartment at night!

__ROOSTER__ · 2014-10-28T15:46:06+00:00

I've been with two women who took meds for "mental health" becuase of their supposed problems.

One was a hard case, I wasn't TRP yet, and I was constantly deployed. I still got her to reduce her meds by 75%

The other I was TRP, she was by her own choice of meds and off therapy within three months.

When a real alpha male is : Leading, living authentically, being the rock, providing safety at all levels, etc. EVERYONE around them settles down.

It's amazing what happens when a mature, powerful, father figure is in the mix.

Edit: many women are just as unhappy with modern society. They've been fed the same lies that are leading everyone to unhappiness. They may benefit from an animal prospective from the Matrix but it doesn't make them happy. There want an answer too. A TRP man is the answer.

demilitarizdsm · 2014-10-28T20:18:29+00:00

Yeeeaaa practice how to ask about this invitingly on a first date like you are ok with it. Then gtfo.

Title	Found a great resource for dealing with Boarderlines
Author	bsutansalt
Upvotes	21
Comments	102
Date	October 28, 2014 1:28 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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