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Girl left because I played a song before we fucked

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July 5, 2019
125 upvotes

Second time with this chick. Didn't fuck on the first date, but second time got her back to my place. No obvious red flags, she was all over me @ the bar.

We get to my apt. door and start making out, move fast into the bedroom. I go fast to grab my condoms, and hit play on my iHome and this song plays, volume is medium to low. About 60 seconds into getting her warmed up on the bed and this is what follows.

X (girl): what the fuck is that

me: what?

X: this fucking song, why did you play this one

me: it's just a random playlist I don't know (it's my go to "fucking" playlist)

X: gets up, swearing under her breath, puts her skirt on and walks out

no word back from her after 24 hrs. Maybe an ex song that triggered some flashback? Lmfao lost for words.

The song was by "Bazzi" but what the fuck does it matter? Anyone had a freak out like this before? Did I autism somewhere?


Post Information
Title Girl left because I played a song before we fucked
Author TheDero
Upvotes 125
Comments 111
Date 05 July 2019 10:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/244579
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c9lv79/girl_left_because_i_played_a_song_before_we_fucked/
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[–]MasterShake777309 points310 points  (3 children) | Copy

lmao. I would chalk this up as an anomaly and a funny story

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood61 points62 points  (0 children) | Copy

This.

[–]DDzxy3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Shit happens lmao.

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood130 points131 points  (4 children) | Copy

My guess is either reminds her of an ex or she thinks you "play this with all the girls". In any case it was her problem not yours.

[–]TheDero[S] 28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

For sure, just wanted to share and see if anyone had a similar happening before. Some of my buddies gave a pretty "wtf" reaction when I told em

[–]VigilantSmartbomb30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that bitch is fried lol. I’d ask her how she ever gets dick lmao

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea definitely weird. Just keep it movin.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas53 points54 points  (0 children) | Copy

or she thinks you "play this with all the girls".

Most likely the correct answer.

[–]jakethesnake5000145 points146 points  (18 children) | Copy

Probably reminded her of an ex or something. Next time quit playing music before you fuck, she was already in the mood

[–]robatusf63 points64 points  (6 children) | Copy

"Probably reminded her of an ex or something."

This. I've had things like this happen. Once I was on a date that was going great until I asked her if she'd ever been to NYC. She freaked out, told me at length about this horrible experience she had with her ex there, went cold, and I never saw her again.

[–]BuzzLightGear321 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Talk about a psycho. Imagine if guys acted like this, flipping out and ghosting someone over an innocent question.

[–]Standgrounding8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I bet some do.

[–]jakethesnake500029 points30 points  (3 children) | Copy

Shit happens, the bitch had baggage anyways. Just another pump and dump

[–]LordTutanKhamon8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fucking whales making waves and disrupting my market... wait, what sub is this?

[–]evolveorwither0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hello fellow crypto currency investor

[–]1NathanHollister10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great advice. Never do anything that can blow your chances. Let her do most of the talking, etc. Less stuff said and done- less chance of blowing it.

[–]TehJimmyy2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I will put psytrance and i dont care if the bitch wanna leave.

[–]Farseer1502210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I will go through blink 182 discography. If she leaves, it's better that way lol

[–]Helmet_Icicle4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just play soundtracks or something without lyrics, not top 40 bullshit. Who wants to hear Marvin Gaye crooning in your ear when you're getting it in? You need emotional music, not pop.

[–]E9er-4 points-3 points  (6 children) | Copy

this!! sounds like OP shot himself in the foot... spur of the moment sex or nighters rarely i recalled ever putting music besides in my car... to set the mood or close. once we get to my place or hers.. and all lights are green.... the only thing i would put on is tv for background noices or the A/C to keep me cool. nothing else because i’m good to go.... let her do her thing you do you and keep moving... now if it’s LTR... that’s different you can pull out the whole works... but yeah one night stands you don’t own them shit like they don’t owe you sex.... it’s a mutual agreement once one reaches his or her destination

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

"They don't owe you sex" - I've only ever heard women with pink hair say this.

[–]E9er-2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy

nah man... some guys think getting a girl a drink equals sex, some guys think a girl smiling at you equals sex... nah girls are out there for a good time and attention if you call both voids correctly then you may be entitled to some action otherwise she don’t owe you, but some guys don’t accept it and can ruin a whole date because of it coming WAY too strong. don’t be too pushy be fun! hair color or pink is irrelevant

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Right ... but we're not a bunch of incels.

[–]E9er-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

haha... i don’t know that....

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's why everyone thinks you're a cunt.

[–]acp_rdit41 points42 points  (2 children) | Copy

was it the Power Rangers theme song?

[–]TheDero[S] 34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'll use that next time

[–]DerpJungler4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Play the pokemon theme song next time

[–]throwawaybpdnpd30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

High likely she left because you have a playlist for fucking random girls...

[–]TheDero[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah prob lmao

[–]Jflacroix51 points52 points  (9 children) | Copy

Bazzi is the Barry White of the Millennial generation you playa. It’s fucking music. Maybe she pegged you as a cheesy player. Next time play some Ed Sheeran. It will be less intimidating. Less “I’ve got a playlist for bouncing girls on my rod,”. Lol

[–]menial_optimist9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]AquaticTurtle984 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy fucking shit, I haven't laughed like that in a good fucking time. Cheers mate.

[–]TheDero[S] 12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

noted bro, thanks

[–]Uzinero31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Failing that, put Famous Dex's Hoes Mad on repeat

[–]D4rkr4in4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can't go wrong with famous dex

[–]Jflacroix2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was mostly just razzing you but seriously, I’m in my forties and one of the things I look back on and cringe is how I tried to use music to talk for me - quoting songs, making mixtapes, putting on preset mood music. So I can relate. Looking back, the irony is that trying too hard is ultimately counterproductive.

[–]TheDero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I completely agree, thanks for your insight.

[–]ENTPunisher 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Lmao I nexted this girl because I handed her the iPhone for 2 seconds and she started playing this Ed Sheeran song about some guy who got his asshole bleached. Guess that's what normally gets her in the mood but it didn't work wonders for me, because the only thing she got was an uber

[–]justlibertarian3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have a sense of humor

[–]TRPNovice4333 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn man I'd pack my shit and leave if someone played Bazzi too. The Weeknd is far better if you still think playing music before sex is a good idea.

[–]XT3M341 points42 points  (2 children) | Copy

i swear to God if it was "mine"

and no. next time just fuck her. this is a example of how to fall on ur face. yes its rare but lmao

[–]PandaLitter 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

LOL the lack of response from OP means it is that fucking meme song

[–]xddm26534 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

lmaooo who the fuck wants to bone to that music.. if a girl played that before I layed the pipe on her I would zip my pants up and leave

[–]golgynat0r12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

better play Dragon Ball OST next time this is hilarious i laughed my ass off

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lesson learned: if it's in the bag, don't try to force extra steps in.

If you fuckin, get to it.

[–]thenewyorkmind8 points9 points  (10 children) | Copy

What was the song

[–]millioneuroextreme2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

Bazzi

[–]menial_optimist7 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy

Song was wack

[–]TheDero[S] 6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

it was

[–]millioneuroextreme2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Which one it looks like bazzis an artist

[–]HurricaneHugues41 points42 points  (5 children) | Copy

I think she left because he's just stupid. You ask the guy what song it was and his response is the name of the artist. I'd bounce too if I was her.

[–]OrionsGucciBelt22 points23 points  (4 children) | Copy

Deep down op knows the song is ass so he's avoiding the title

[–]TheDero[S] 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Song was Cartier. I know it was gay, I've learned through the thread that having a dedicated playlist is retarded.

[–]996612310 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

the main takeaway here should be that Bazzi sucks, literally dried her panties.

[–]250kcal3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol fuck that, I have a "fucking" playlist too and it has never been an issue.

I listened to the song and yeah it's pretty fucking gay but it shouldn't matter music becomes background noise in seconds when you start making out and taking each others clothes off. Like what you think this bitch is trying to listen to the lyrics while you are slipping off her skirt and she is getting naked? lol no, she was just looking for an excuse to leave maybe things escalated too fast, maybe she remembered her boyfriend was coming over that night, or maybe you ugly, who cares. Thank you next.

If she was into you she wouldn't have cared what music is played, and if it really was that important to not listen to that song 9/10 times the appropriate reaction would be to ask you to change it.

If she actually wanted to fuck you, she would've fucked you. The song doesn't matter.

P.S. I've been playing this gay shit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWIhwplfx4Q for 3 years and have never had any complaints, in fact the most common reaction is "what song is this? it's so chill I love it"

[–]TheDero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

True shit brotha, think I need to go back to the drawing board.

[–]henry-jest7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bazzi owns you one fuck, lol

[–]CHIPPENDALESIXNINE6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Should have played "Let's get it on" or "Unchained Melody"

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Second LAST time with this chick.

She's retarded. The kind that doesn't get better. Move on.

[–]BurnoutRS13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should have laughed in her face. Im rather baffled you didnt. Wow, there goes a person who is so sensitive they let something as simple as a song get to them. The answer is to laugh at her. She wont like it. She'll either come to realize youre right and she's being a silly bitch, or she's just a silly bitch and theyre a dime a dozen

[–]TheDero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Was just something I didn't expect at all, which completely blew my frame off. It's hilarious thinking back on it, but I definitely could've played it better for sure.

[–]AscensionExperiments4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Either she had some "bad memories" associated, or she wanted to put you through some kind of guilt trip so you're under her control more next time- next her

[–]Noctis_Cloud4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Playing music during sex is lame

[–]HurricaneHugues4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

What song was it?

[–]TheDero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

cartier - bazzi

[–]dojurynullification3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You got off light, mate.

[–]bowhunter8572 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Play Tyler Childers next time

[–]handsome_phantom0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Goddamn 🤠

[–]aus_shredder1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next her

[–]ultimatrev6661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, girls are wierd about music. I creeped the f*ck out of one of my stripper sugar babies when I, on occasion, insisted on playing some Dimmu Borgir while we did the deed.

[–]PolesWithGoals1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Play the Pokémon theme song next time, it’ll make her Squirtle

[–]Foolishoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's crazy. Let it go.

[–]Ivabighairy11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Speaking of music, as George Michael sang it “... sometimes you think you’re gonna get it, but you don’t and that’s just the way it goes ...”

[–]uptimex1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It could remind her about her ex or something, but that is not your concern, use this as a routine to tell to other girls.

[–]fuckrbrasilmods1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women with this type of random trigger reaction are POISON. Bullet dodged.

[–]vileoat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ditto ex flash back. Once a girl turned crazy after seeing a cake in my fridge. It used to be her ex's favourite.

[–]Yetna1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next time play Justin Bieber. Shit is so fucking alpha!

[–]kellykebab0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What are the lyrics?

[–]anontgb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Laugh it off and soft next. No contact.

[–]helaughsinhidden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's an Alpha Widow, it was "their song"

[–]ZeppKfw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Why did you play this one" reminded her of her ex or something.

[–]mojokabobo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What song?

[–]downvotesanimals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What was the song, though?

[–]currysoslutavuk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Did you play the mine from bazzi? Lol

[–]mysticplaces0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shitty song, shitty experience.

Next time play something chill, like Tycho, Bibio or Washed Out.

[–]PizzaAndProtein0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[Definitely just a funny story]( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K7l5ZeVVoCA )

Edit: Fuck new reddit not taking old syntax. Blink 182 - What's My Age Again?

[–]failberry0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ex or bad period of her life you will never know the truth but let me tell you that's bad luck Brian shit. Nevertheless next and enjoy the others

[–]BatsNightmares0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm laughing it out loud. Good story mate.

[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

LOL

Overreaction. Explosive. That’s a red flag. But good story. I do have playlists for different kinds of fuck. Will remember this story on firstimers.

[–]W4T3V3R0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bazziblocked ;)

[–]mok_880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What music ws it?

[–]AccomplishedEase0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Idk but first thought was that the song is beta for her... and the lyrics kinda are.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

me: it's just a random playlist I don't know (it's my go to "fucking" playlist)

Not the best answer here, but I don't think the song is the problem.

no word back from her after 24 hrs. Maybe an ex song that triggered some flashback? Lmfao lost for words.

Look at her actions, not her words.

This was just an excuse to leave

[–]TheDero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed, thanks

[–]zboo1h0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe she has good taste in music?

[–]Eminencemiddle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Reminds me of the Little Johnny joke about the fucking potatoes!

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If a girl is such a nutjob that a song in the background is her trigger, then she's done you a favor and be thankful that crazy didn't let you stick your dick in her.

That said, playing cheesy sexy music is pretty cringe.

My background is smooth early jazz. If you can eat to it, you can fuck to it.

[–]SolidLiquidGasPlasma0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

QUIT PLAYING SONGS PEOPLE DONT KNOW GO TO SEX PLAYLIST IS “THE WEEKND” TRUST ME ON THIS. you’ll go from fucking to cuddling to fucking again to therapy to fucking again and every song is a banger

[–]DDzxy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Likely because it's music for pussies.

Next time play same Pantera or As I Lay Dying like a man.

Jokes aside, definitely reminded her of her ex or some other random memory. Shit can happen lmao.

[–]CreateANewAccount___0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

My guess is ASD kicked in and she felt like you had it all planned. Maybe skip the music or preface it with something like “so the neighbors don’t hear us”.

[–]TheDero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that is a good idea. I think it definitely just came off as weird and she couldn't think of a different reason to leave.

[–]TehJimmyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

did you play despacito

[–]Eminencemiddle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It wasn't B 17, was it?

[–]salinorum 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like a shit test to me

[–]darkkramer-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. You should’ve replied ”why not. i can turn the music off if you’re nervous.

[–]KettleLogic-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol that is odd. Perhaps you escalated too far then there was probably a line in Bazzi song about her being meat. A lot of his songs are the typical "Gonna fuck ya because ya body". She sounds hyper sensitive.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would say this bitch is trippin, if she comes back at you bro tell her off. She got you her in frame by cussing under her breath and leaving how she did. Fuck it, tell her to fuck off since anybody who’s like that is too crazy for you. Period. Maybe even hard next her after getting her to come back around.

But also, for future reference, if she’s in the mood just fuck her I guess lol

[–]FearGarbhArMait-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

So what are you looking for, question?

[–]thanusall3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pretty sure what he’s looking for is clearly stated. Good job tho.

[–]masterpiece00-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It wasn't the song, seems more likely you are her beta bucks she has a chad, she had a better option.

Next. This is lost.



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