A Crucial Moment?

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-09-09T12:13:50+00:00

“sons friends 3rd birthday party“

Fuck no.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-09-09T13:22:07+00:00

It’s too late. The fact that she even thinks this is a possibility shows how much territory you have to recover from blue pill land. Never mind that YOU even consider the question.

I mean look at the title of your post. What’s so crucial about a little guy 3 yr birthday. ??

So at this point maybe with lots of Bullshit, verbal jiu jitsu and jokes, and lots of slaps on ass, “ohhhhh come here babe” after she pretends to be upset you can get away with it. But you’d have to do some serious faking. Otherwise she’ll call your bluff and wet paper bag frame.

andyturbo2000 · 2019-09-09T12:37:49+00:00

Is it just me or back in the day there wasn’t a single father at a birthday event for someone who’s not their son/daughter. This is women’s work.

Perfectinmyeyes · 2019-09-09T12:01:16+00:00

I don't know how other guys will respond but, IMO you pick and choose. I'm not you nor do I know your wife. Decide how important she wants you to go to this thing compared to you yours. Weigh it up and decide. And don't hold it against her if you go, just let her know what you are doing etc...

RStonePT · 2019-09-09T17:30:47+00:00

However she is claiming that it’s unfair of me to not attend with her as it will be awkward for her socially not knowing other parents.

Either take this as shame or playing wounded. Either way it's manipulation.

My response is that, there’s no way this is an obligation for me to attend.

I dunno, this sounds a little bit like an autistic answer. I'm sure you could come up with better if you thought it over.

It just so happens to fall on the “Football Night Out” day of the year too, so if I don’t go then I’m missing out on bonding with other men etc. I’m right in thinking that I shouldn’t bend over and be the white knight for her here?

If you had a goal you'd know the answer already, you don't know because right now you're guessing.

Don't guess, be deliberate with your MAP, then the conversation can be around either how to wrap presents or how to make sure wifey can make a new friend without your help

The exact answer I thought. Faggot validation check maybe, but I’m learning and it’s good to see I’m making correct decisions. Thanks

Then again, this is also shaming manipulation. 'man' isn't an archetype that you aspire to, it's just you. How it falls into one archetype or another shouldn't factor in.

BobbyPeru · 2019-09-09T22:08:00+00:00

Hit the sidebar and lift. Then, you won’t be such a pissy and ask pussy questions like this

mrpthrowa · 2019-09-10T11:25:40+00:00

This is your crucial moment? This is it?

SMH

RedPillCoach · 2019-09-10T14:20:14+00:00

if it was your wife, what would your response be?

"Goodbye dear, I will see you after the game. Have fun at the party."

red-sfpplus · 2019-09-09T18:29:13+00:00

I mean WHAT THE FUCK.

What kind of FUCKING CAKE are we talking about here?

Motherfucker, if it is white cake, GO TO THE FUCKING PARTY.

Fuck all these guys. I think with my dick and stomach.

Mostly in that order...

Seriously did no one do legs today or what?

screechhater · 2019-09-10T00:43:05+00:00

Crucial moment ?

How’s the sidebar ?

InChargeMan · 2019-09-09T13:47:36+00:00

Go then fuck one of the other kid's Mom.

SBIII · 2019-09-09T12:18:18+00:00

Or am I failing to be the Oak for her and my son?

Yes, but not in the way you think you are.

Do I need to lead the family?

Yes. But not in the way you think you should.

Your biggest problem is that you are failing to lead yourself. Everything else - including your lack of leadership, your inabilty to take control of your life, your inability to make decisons - they all stem from that.

You're also a lazy fucking cunt who clearly hasn't read the sidebar and wants to be spoonfed the answers.

So, fuck you. Eat paint.

ManguZa · 2019-09-09T12:03:53+00:00

You're right, except when you let your wife give you doubts about your decision and that you need validation of others men on internet.

redwall92 · 2019-09-09T13:20:13+00:00

I have three sons. All are over the age of 10. I don't remember any of their friends' birthday parties.

RoccoPinkman · 2019-09-09T16:07:49+00:00

Spend time with other men at the footy or attend some kids 3 year old birthday party? Is this even a question?

2wo2wo3hree · 2019-09-09T16:52:44+00:00

“this is pure for her selfish needs of wanting me to hold her hand at a social event she may find uncomfortable.”

You’ll have to identify if your wife is asking for your assistance because she is incapable of the task and truly needs your help or if she’s just trying to see if you’ll bend backwards for her. Identifying which side she’s on will give you clarity on your next move.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2019-09-09T17:45:07+00:00

You have something important to you to do. Do that. Her social skills are her own shit to deal with.

wkndatbernardus · 2019-09-09T18:52:02+00:00

Only way you should go to the party is if you actually want to go. How is this even a question?

Johnny00005 · 2019-09-16T19:23:41+00:00

I guess maybe next time tell her that you know how important it is for her to attend the party, and that she knows how it is to you keep your commitments. But if it’s a comfort test, perhaps hold you frame, acknowledge her insecurity and build her up! Pull her close and tight, grab her ass, and tell her, “aww, don’t be nervous, you’ll be fantastic! Tell me all about your new friends tonight once the kids are asleep. I’ can’t wait to heat it.” Hold your frame, feed her the comfort shes looking for, reward her bravery and give her a sense of confidence. That’s what you would do for you child, do that for her. Lead, encourage, support. That’s what i would do. And you just might get a proper romp from her thrill of accomplishment of overcoming her fears.

amalgamator · 2019-09-09T16:47:26+00:00

Stand firm in your frame but don’t be an ass and give her a little support.

“I would normally like to go and hang with you and the kid, but I have an obligation to my team.”

“I know it would be easier on you if I went and I like chilling with you, especially when you wear those sexy pants I like, but you can do hard things babe and I can’t miss my game.”

“Babe, I’m trying to be collaborative with you - our agreement was I would skip occasionally but only for important family things and this isn’t that - why are you trying to change the agreement we have? I want us to both thrive in the marriage and soccer is an important part of who I am.”

Title	A Crucial Moment?
Author	Masterdan2015
Upvotes	18
Comments	62
Date	September 9, 2019 11:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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