Question For WomenQ4women women who have dated liberal and conservative men, what was the differences in the way they treated you and interacted with you? How was the sex different?

kandyapplez · 2019-04-01T02:57:27+00:00

having dated both there's hardly any difference. a man is a man when you break through whatever social persona he's assumed and he's naked in bed with ya regularly

there has been maaaybe more posturing towards equality and feminism within our relationship with the liberal ones?? though my current bf is by far the most liberal guy ive ever dated yet also the most chauvanist/traditional so not even that has been solid

WAIT actually i would say the more liberal the guy has been the more we had a more "platonic" basis to our relationship and actually like, listened to the same music and liked the same humor and were just generally into the same media/writers/art world bullshit whereas my conservative boyfriends were more like "this is my MAN, not my buddy, he won't join me and my friends for gallery hopping but he will dutifully pick me up when i'm ready to go home"

exit_sandman · 2019-04-01T03:07:35+00:00

conservative men go the gym more and are more manly

i don't date fat/feminine men, so the liberal men i have dated have been plenty fit and manly. they're less "gymbro" though.

Liberals cheat less on their spouses

the one time i've been cheated on (that i know about) was by a leftie.

Conservatives like non monogamy and liberals like power play

not my experience at all. the conservative guys have been all about monogamy, the progressives were way more open to nonmonogamy. the progressives were way more sexually adventurous in general.

Conservatives look better

about equal, but again i'm filtering for guys i've actually dated. i've dated one "ugly" guy, and he was very liberal. he was so attractive in other ways that i didn't care about his looks. there are tons of ugly liberals and conservatives i'd never notice, unless they have something else going on to make up for it

Liberals have more empathy

yeah probably. but they also signal empathy a lot more. i've known progressive guys to rail on and on about how they're such good people and care so much about the starving whales with cancer, and not live up to that at all.

Conservatives see one night stands as ideal partners

nope

Conservatives have more sex

i don't know how much sex people i'm not having sex with have. if i'm having sex with them, then they're having sex.

i can't really split them into one group and another. i've been with confident, masculine "alpha" guys from both sides of the fence. i will say though that the hot, confident lefties seem less concerned with being conventionally masculine and can pull it off. i had one musician ex who would come to the nail salon with me and get long, glittery acrylics on one hand to play guitar with. another punk bf of mine would come to parties in a mohawk and a women's skirt. they didn't give a fuck and oozed masculinity regardless.

i also found that liberal guys were more respectful/careful in the whole getting to sex thing, but once it was clear i was into it that kinda chivalry was gone.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-04-01T16:07:40+00:00

I don’t date conservative men. I just can’t date someone who doesn’t believe I have agency over my own body.

OHG1 · 2019-04-01T14:38:38+00:00

i'm gonna break this down to race.

all the white liberal men i've dated didn't believe in egalitarian relationships personally and were hyper dominating. all the black liberal men i dated kept calling me 'queen' and were supplicating betas.

all the white conservative men i've dated were extremely giving partners and lovers and were very open minded. all the black conservative men i've dated were insanely misogynist and felt my job was to be secondary to him in ALL things.

[deleted] · 2019-04-01T16:38:48+00:00

Have not had sex with either, but have dated both.

In general the liberal guys were more straightforward about their intentions and cared more about what I was or wasn't comfortable with. They kind of wanted me to let my hair down and explore when it came to sex but didn't push me if I didn't want it. I'm still on good terms with the liberal guys I had to break with over differing views on sex.

Conservative guys are different...Ime they tend to pay lip service to liking the fact that I come across as a good girl and that I'm a virgin but in practice were weirdly pushy when it came to sex. If they don't get what they're looking for they cut ties almost immediately.

Politically liberal, socially conservative guys are my favorites right now. Pretty much the ultimate betas by RP standards but hey, I just go where the tingles tell me to.

flamingoinghome · 2019-04-01T09:08:03+00:00

Conservative men tend to disqualify themselves relatively early on by being racist, but the ones that don't can be fun. My aesthetic preferences are more conservative (not exactly for the American value of "conservative," though, unless it's the old-school kind), but my actual values are very liberal. There's a bit less pressure when dating a conservative guy (not sexual pressure, but pressure to live up to something), but that may also be because the relationships feel, intrinsically, like flings--liberal guys are infinitely more likely to be actual life-partner candidates.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-04-01T07:03:53+00:00

Idk if you would consider it conservative, but the majority of men I date are Hispanic and have quite traditionalist views towards dating/marriage, especially Mexican guys. They have very rigid views towards gender roles.

These types of guys, (im assuming there's some similarity behind traditionalist because of culture and conservatism) they're "alphas" or manly, but it's tough to bond with them. With the majority of men who already in a sense know what the "red pill" is without even knowing about TRP, they have a constant air of having to keep up a personality. They need to constantly prove themselves to be the big man. I'm not going to lie, it works good for initial attraction. Terrible for long term relationships or actual bonding though.

I don't date liberal or left wing men at all. Men who believe in feminism, equality of the genders etc are a hard pass for me. These are the guys I always see talking about how lonely they are on social media, talking about double standards, basically NiceGuys. At least with the macho dudes, they might pump and dump you, but they don't fucking whine so much.

[deleted] · 2019-04-01T10:57:36+00:00

I have dated a communist in the past and nowadays I'm dating someone who is a bit conservative. I don't think the difference is that big, if anything I find that my ex and my current partner have a lot of similarities in some ways. I'm not from the US though and communism is much more normalized in my country so things are different.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-04-01T03:04:13+00:00

ive never dated a liberal man, it would be impossible for him to be attractive or masculine to me

Hungry_AF · 2019-04-01T13:28:12+00:00

I have never dated a conservative man and never would. They are completely unattractive to me and IME tend to be less intelligent, more racist/sexist, more prone to obesity, more prone to infidelity, and just overall shittier partners.

Zanajin · 2019-04-01T04:19:03+00:00

Eh, my answers will be skewed by heavy religious affiliation. The conservative right-wing Christians I dated were not any better looking or more successful than the few liberals I dated, but they were less tolerant of my gay friends. I will just lay out my answer like this:

Conservatives: more racism, more sexism, but generally dress better. Very hard rules about gender roles and my "place" and all of them wanted kids. They also were very opinionated about my friends and my hobbies and did not like my artwork. And despite Christian morality forbidding sex, all of them tried.

Liberals: admittedly, I dated very few of these due to religion filtering them out. Liberals were more fun to hang out with but had less active hobbies, none of them rode ATVs for instance. None of them went camping. They were lazier in other areas as well, notably employment. All of them expected me to work and be egalitarian in all matters. They did not insist on children. They were all bright and well-read but not successful.

I know you wanted to know about sex but I cannot help you there.

goatismycopilot · 2019-04-01T11:53:16+00:00

I found no big differences is the day to day mechanics of the relationship.

LivelyChartreuse · 2019-04-01T03:36:56+00:00

Conservative has been preferable overall.

Liberal: went to the gym more (but that's not really my thing), had more empathy (again not a positive), liked power play

Conservative: have more sex, are more traditionally masculine tempered

No one has cheated on me as far as I know, no one has ever suggested non monogamy to me, every man attempted to LTR me post coitus so the ONS =/ in their eyes.

brokegradstudent_93 · 2019-04-02T16:21:18+00:00

I have dated plenty of both being a liberal woman born and raised in Alabama. The most conservative man I dated was still pretty socially liberal in his views other than sex before marriage. We never made it past first base for our year long relationship (I was not a virgin at the time and remained faithful to him the whole time. And I’m not a unicorn down here) but he was very sweet hardworking and although he was religious and I wasn’t we meshed really well but because of religious differences we realized we weren’t going to be marriage material for each other and called it off. The liberal men I’ve dated down here would still probably be considered conservative by coastal state view points honestly but they have been wonderful. I honestly prefer the liberal men down here because it’s usually a good medium of having some traditional values (chivalry and treating me right) but also valuing me for who I am and acknowledging me as an equal (some men even think I’m superior but I tend to date men slightly less intelligent and successful than myself because they are more fun and I do plenty fine to support a man) liberal men also seem to be more ok to potentially be a house husband and not the main breadwinner in my experience which is important to me.
As for sex like I said the conservative man I dated wanted to wait till marriage and I was willing to remain celibate for him but it didn’t work out and that was mostly his choice. The liberal men I’ve dated some were bad at sex but the one I’m currently dating and plan on marrying one day gets me off almost every day and we have a mind blowing sex life.

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[deleted] · 2019-04-01T16:23:46+00:00

There is no way liberal women are less likely to cheat than conservative women, absolutely no way. As for men - who knows

And this aligns with my experiences. As I worked out and got better looking I became more conservative/libertarian as well. There’s science behind this too. The liberal political movement aligns pretty closely right now with equality, body positivity, everyone’s a winner type stuff. This mentality of course will go better with ugly people who don’t want to put the work or accountability in to look good

In addition, naturally beautiful men/women are more likely to be conservative similar to how a millionaire born on 3rd base with a trust fund is likely to be conservative. They are in a good position and don’t understand why others are complaining (less empathy)

I will say there’s a trend now of more and more college women being liberal. While on average conservative women in my experience are more attractive, you’ll have a tough time dating if you are only going after that group in most cities

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