I had this female friend for a while. (11 years)

She always put it clear to me that she didn't like men. I've even seen her 'tests' with men as we called (she came from a religious background, she didn't like being lesbian in the beginning). One of such tests was when she was 18-19 years, she had a boyfriend as a test. A man with high value but still feminine in the core (feminine yet not gay). She really liked the guy, to the point of real love but I always thought it was because of his feminine looks/behavior. It didn't work out as he had to move cities but she still liked that one guy. I still classified her as lesbian as the guy was quite feminine.

But some hours ago. almost 10 years later, and with more than 3 highly ex girlfriends ever since, she shows up today with a extremely high valued and highly masculine boyfriend. The heck is going on?

Up until now I've seen her as having little to no interest in masculine men and up until recently she mocked the idea of dating a man, always poking fun and satirizing heterosexual women. Yet here he is. The most strangely aspect is how she is behaving like a heterosexual woman and seem to like being treated as such by a absurdly masculine man. I thought she hated all that. I always thought she liked women. Or at least femininity. Now I am rethinking this all.

When I asked her, she told me she still liked women, yet she was attracted to him, and since some encounters they had, she is deeply interested in him. Sexually interested. Which she describes as 'being different when with women, but the same', she also said she likes femininity but now she says 'she understands heterosexuality appeal more' (I know the correct term is bisexuality, it was her mistake).

I even asked if it was just the thing with she being alone for a long while (she had been alone for 1.5 year) But she refused. And said she just likes the guy. I am deeply confused.

  • What do you guys think of this situation?
  • Is she only interested in extremely high value people?
  • What is going on in her sexuality/value system?
  • How can a person be confused in their own interests?
  • Is it possible to change sexuality that sharply/unreasonably?
  • Is she lying to me so she can have children (a dream of hers)?
  • How does this explains in TRP? I always thought lesbians had the same hypergamous behavior but had attraction to the same values heterosexual man have. Can she be a gay lesbian (does this even make sense?)?

Edit:

All in all I am not only confused, but worried that she may be lying to me to have this and maybe suffering. How would I know she is not there for the real interest in men? I can check but she was a lesbian up until some days ago. I cannot be so sure.

Edit²:

Can she still hold value being +30 in this market? We are Brazilians. To find someone who is 25+ and single be it heterosexual or whatnot is difficult?