1: What do you guys all think about Frame-control?
2: What is the best advice for men regarding Frame-control?
I remember that I was very "buggable" in high school; people would tease me; I was not able to simply (1) ignore it, (2) laugh about it, or (3) impose my Frame.
To contrast, I think that u/Atlas_B_Shruggin has excellent Frame-control, to give an example of someone who can ignore/laugh/impose.
This is standard TRP advice about Frame-control:
Controlling the Frame comes naturally from believing you are superior to others, as you would do if you were dealing with children. Search the Manosphere for "Amused Mastery". Start with the post with that name on The Rational Male. To develop Amused Mastery, you need to develop both the feeling that you are the shit, the PRIZE (which comes easier if your SMV actually is high), and the feeling that the woman you interact with (or any other people you interact with) are just children. Whenever you deal with someone, think of which way you actually ARE superior to them (Age? Job? Salary? Skills at playing pool?) and focus on JUST THAT. Force yourself thinking there is nothing else that is relevant (Her beauty? Irrelevant. His business? Irrelevant). The belief that your reality and your perspective is more important and accurate than that of others will naturally flow from there.
But the problem is that when you successfully do this, you can easily be seen as arrogant. Which is not necessarily an issue in women's attraction, but is an issue for anything else (women's sense of security, your reputation, etc.)
That's where the second part comes is. Resisting giving the impression that you are controlling the Frame consists in giving hints to people that you are NOT leading them, or treating them as children (when in fact you are).
This is another comment about Frame-control in response to the above comment:
Terrible advice. You're only fooling yourself with this. This is how 12 year olds act to assert status in elementary school. Actual high status people don't act like this. They're calm, confident, and reward people with their attention and interest. They don't have to put of a ridiculous charade in order to appear cool - they know they're the shit.
Guys who try to "Control the frame" are exhausting to be around. Treating people around you as children by using techniques such as "Amused mastery" makes it very obvious that you're trying to act as if you're better than everyone. Even if you drop all of these "hints" that you're not doing this on purpose - you'll find that people will simply stop hanging out with you if you act like this. They'll see you as a tiresome, slightly narcissistic man who you can't have a real conversation with because he's always preoccupied with trying to be "the best" in the room.
I would say a very potent and superior alternative to these ideas is the idea of (vulnerability and polarization)[https://markmanson.net/vulnerability] by Mark Manson. It's basically being comfortable in your own skin expressing yourself honestly with the risk of rejection (without hiding behind coping techniques such as "Amused Mastery"). You will become, and be seen as - confident, consistent and trustworthy.
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