Just a mini rant on boundary pushing

eveninghope · 2020-09-25T17:47:49+00:00

I'd just cut this guy out tbh. I have plenty of male friends who I can hang out with alone and wouldn't dare do anything remotely like this.

lalalalaika · 2020-09-25T17:49:15+00:00

Because men are socialised to believe they have a right to women’s bodies, and that we exist only to satisfy their needs. Don’t be friends with men, seriously, this will happen again and again, and however many times you say no they won’t listen.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-09-25T18:37:36+00:00

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eveninghope · 2020-09-25T19:31:33+00:00

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ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-09-25T19:34:26+00:00

Do you know what touching you after you’ve said no is called? Assault. Please stop being friends with people who cannot respect your boundaries. Male or female. You deserve better and your self-respect will thank you.

2020-09-25T19:00:23+00:00

No boundary pushing for me. I am not training a dog. If they want to push boundaries they can do it somewhere else. This is the same way women get raped when they have said no 10 times and then give up. It’s a real thing if you haven’t heard of that. Boundary pushing is NEVER okay in my opinion.

Capable_Okra · 2020-09-25T20:06:26+00:00

You don't need to accept this kind of behavior in order to have male friends - or friends of any gender.

nycgirlhere · 2020-09-25T17:54:57+00:00

That’s disgusting not a friend he’s a future rapist

Maude2010 · 2020-09-25T18:19:35+00:00

Time to stop being his friend.

pancakejourney · 2020-09-25T23:37:19+00:00

Cut him out of your life. As you said. He wants to get in your pants, your words are invalid. He thinks "if she doesn't want it then why does she want to hang out again".
You'll never be safe around him. You let him push your boundaries and there is no consequence so each time he will take you less serious. You are a Queen. If you say something then people have to follow your order. Period.

Saying you don't want a relationship is useless. I've tried it for years. One said he understands and that he accept its. Five minutes later his cousin sends me a screenshot where the guy said he doesn't care and he will try to make me drunk. Since he "has nothing to lose".
But the entire story is even more crazy.

Don't be desperate, he's LVM.
He's unworthy of you.
He has to go.

hypointellectual · 2020-09-25T20:57:08+00:00

Telling someone sternly no and acting repulsed and slapping them is honestly 100% acceptable if they cross your personal boundaries. When they cross that line, all bets are off.

ps9939 · 2020-09-25T21:10:59+00:00

You should have cut him off the first time he touched you. Better to have no friends than "friends" like that.

OrchidLion · 2020-09-26T05:02:48+00:00

He's a rapist waiting to happen. Cut him out of your life.

Aw_Hail_No · 2020-09-26T06:31:30+00:00

You need to read the fds handbook.

And stop being this person's "friend".

When you let somebody run over your boundaries like that, you teach them how you want to be treated.

Summerisle7 · 2020-09-25T20:59:28+00:00

You could also have told him to leave.

Sekina7 · 2020-09-26T09:35:23+00:00

Ladies as a matter of SAFTEY NEVER allow yourself to be alone in an enclosed space with a male "friend" and ESPECIALLY when alcohol is involved. One of the leading causes of murder from women is from men they know, men who can't take NO and usually men who claimed to be platonic friends prior to killing them when their advances are rebuffed. SERIOUSLY! I watch a LOT of true crime and the amount of cases like this is starting to watch like groundhog day. No joke.

redfarmmmmm · 2020-10-01T15:43:00+00:00

I did this to a guy. He tried to touch me again so i put my hands on back of his neck and squeezed it really hard until he screamed.

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Title	Just a mini rant on boundary pushing
Author	lalalalaika
Upvotes	82
Comments	33
Date	September 25, 2020 2:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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